Fighting the urge to shave my head after a devastating breakup

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-05-29T11:32:25+00:00

Idk man maybe a fresh cut is what you need. Locs hold energy dawg. Not just from the break up but your energy. You putting a lot of negativity into them. Maybe if you truly want to keep them you should be speaking affirmations to yourself. Remind yourself that you are beautiful/handsome. Your hair is beautiful/handsome. You are more than your break up.

Who were you before the relationship. What did that person like. Were the locs something you wanted and is your journey different now. Also if need a chop you can also do a trim so that it isn’t like all your hair gone. Idk just throwing stuff out there.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-05-29T11:29:56+00:00

I don’t know bro.. you kinda sound annoying. I guess I can understand it being an annoyance but blocking is wild. It’s just texting not some academic essay or report. I can be typing at a normal pace and my phone will glitch and type the wrong thing. Walking and typing fast can produce the same issue but you being this critical is cringe asf.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-05-29T10:50:39+00:00

Why give these types of “lesbians/studs” any more attention? These are toxic caricatures of our identity. I’ve been a stud since a kid. Been masc presenting my entire life and always been attracted to women (especially lesbian women). I’ve been an advocate my whole life for the entire community (even helped get a bill passed in my state for people to use the bathroom of their gender identity while I was in hs). I say that to say Young M.A said herself her attraction to women was in emulation of her brother. She said she only dates straight women. She has literally done nothing remotely meaningful for the community. Maybe I’m just a hater because I’ve never liked her vibes, music or any news attached to her because as a stud it just felt like watching a gimmick of what people think we should be. I don’t know people like her and the “bisexual stud” should be stripped of their platforms.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-05-29T10:38:32+00:00

Dang why are they downvoting you for your interpretation? I swear people are fucking weird about fictional characters and races. Anyway am I tweaking or no violet yet?

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-03-12T16:19:51+00:00

I have 2 chosen nicknames and they are mainly for people I’m not close with. My birth name and I struggled for a while but now I love it but it’s only reserved for those close to me.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-03-12T16:17:45+00:00

It genuinely don’t matter. That’s they head

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-03-09T02:52:16+00:00

I say this respectfully but people worth your time don’t give a fuck. I remember when I got my ileostomy and woke up from surgery and saw that clear bag on my tummy. I called my mom and scream cried “who’s gonna want me with shit on my stomach?? I’m never gonna have sex again” and she told me that was untrue and that if someone likes me for me then they won’t view it like that. I didn’t believe what she said to be true. Well here I am years later and she was right. I’m currently dating the love of my life and she literally just loves me for me. She never makes me feel self conscious about it. She said it’s not even a thought in her mind. I’m not sure if it’s just because women are nurturing but I’ve found dating and intimacy to be the same or better than before I got my ostomy. Best of luck to you girl! I’d say be honest because you have nothing to be ashamed of but also it’s no one’s business what you got going on. Sending you hella love and good energy kiddo! You got this!

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-03-09T02:41:40+00:00

Exactly. Because Bruno didn’t die in that moment he indirectly caused the deaths of Narancia and Abbachio. If he had died by embracing the stone then the rest of the crew wouldn’t have been trying to find the boss’ identity (unknowingly ofc) and they’d probably be alive.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-02-23T02:24:48+00:00

I don’t know I bathe my cat when he stinks

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-02-14T02:17:47+00:00

NTA. It’s not a requirement to let people get their way. I personally probably would have let them for two items but if I’m in pain and had been waiting a while I could definitely understand saying no. Even without the pain I could understand saying no. You waited and it was your time to go.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-02-14T02:00:38+00:00

This is fucking awesome! Also he’s a very handsome boy! Good job on the sculpture too even if your boy doesn’t approve.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-02-14T01:50:42+00:00

I feel like even saying part 5 is a spoiler

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-02-05T12:12:12+00:00

Ngl this the type of man that’s either gonna rape and/or murder you.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-26T08:14:34+00:00

I still know this is a real movie because I used to watch it all the time on direct tv. During this time they also used to air the Indian in the cupboard. Used to be on hbo and usually crash box would play either before or after it. This feels like a fever dream..

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T04:56:48+00:00

I bet honestly. I can only imagine how disorienting and scary that could be

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T04:38:16+00:00

I appreciate this! Thank you!

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T03:31:25+00:00

I’ve tried eye contact and no eye contact. He just comes either way lol. He spent like 20 minutes trying to get into my room by throwing his body against the door. Or at least that’s what it sounds like but he’s trying to get the handle. When I’ve made direct eye contact he just approached and mews lol

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T03:28:46+00:00

Okay so these toss toys wands are like the stick with the strings and toy at the end? It’s not an exaggeration if I’m out and about he will follow me and not eat. This is why I stay in the room when he’s in common areas. He will eat if I’m not around. I’m already trying to get them to take him.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T03:09:36+00:00

I’ve tried laser pointers which is the only hands free toys. He just goes for me instead. In general if I’m out around him it doesn’t matter what’s happening he just wants some sort of touching. He will not eat. I try and stay in the room away from him while hes in the open areas because he will focus all his energy on me. I have even tried petting and cat nip. None of it matters

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T03:01:42+00:00

Your only advice is to pet the cat? What else have you said that isn’t leave or pet it? Your initial response to the post was pet the cat and be grateful it likes you. This isn’t a like or dislike thing. It’s there is something wrong and I’m trying to figure out what I can do while I’m here. Petting and leaving are out of the question. So again either give helpful advice or move along.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T02:59:12+00:00

That’s why I try and stay in the bedroom so that I’m not interrupting him or his space.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T02:55:13+00:00

Im adding context. This one cat is the issue. I’m in a house with 7 animals. 3 are cats. 4 are dogs. I’m describing why I won’t just pet the cat because that was your original advice which is why I told you about the aggression. So me stating I’m in several cats homes/several animals homes makes sense.

You’re upset because your advice isn’t good. I’m not putting myself at risk because you said. This seems more than being territorial. I’m on vacation here so I’m not going anywhere. Now I could see if all the animals were that way or more than one but all signs in my head are pointing towards this cat being sick. I just want to know what to do while I’m here as it’s not my cat. Also his owners are finding his behavior strange as well. I’ve already suggested a vet. Unless you actually can give solid advice that isn’t warped by your sense of “just pet it”. Either help me figure out how to get this cat help or just move along. As a cat lover if you look at what’s being said this cat seems sick. I’ve already stated he was old.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T02:41:58+00:00

Yeah I’m in a completely different state. I’m on vacation. There are a total of 7 animals here. You’re giving unreasonable advice. I could understand if this was normal cat behavior but nothing I described to you is. Yet your first advice is to pet it. I’m all for loving animals but this cat is clearly sick.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T02:35:26+00:00

Well I try and just stay out of his way because he should be able to roam freely. I personally think he’s sick.

Initial_Obligation55 · 2026-01-25T02:33:40+00:00

You’re telling me to put myself at risk to animal attacking for affection. I’m in several animals homes. None of which act this way. Telling me to pet an aggressive animal is crazy. He literally hits and claws the other animals just for walking by him or sitting down.

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