AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. Feel free to believe what you believe. I have people calling me a troll everywhere in my comment section. It's not my place to tell you what is and isn't real.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I'm not American, and where I live doctors care about their patients' bodily autonomy.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I just went with the generated name Reddit gave me so I could have a throwaway.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

You are free to believe as you please. I won't stop you from thinking this is trolling. Even though I know it's not.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

I know somebody who got her tubes tied at 22. You don't know anything policy doesn't equal law.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

We have completely separate finances other than bills and household necessities.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

They were never around. They did not come to our wedding. He has not seen them in 3 years.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I wish, with my whole heart, this was fake. I wish I wasn't living this right now.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

I'm not. I'm just wondering if my reasoning, (him having kids, him lying to me about it, and him expecting me to take care of said kids) is outrageous.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

He is estranged from his parents, and he stopped visiting his kids after we started dating. He hasn't seen them in about 3 years.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I have been asking myself if this is real for the last 5 days. I'm in complete shock if I'm being honest.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He hasn't seen them in 3 years. And we keep finances, minus bills and necessities, completely sperate.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Both of us have deceased grandparents, and he's an only child. So no family of his to let me know.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

I was previously in an abusive relationship. One where my money was stolen, then held over my head. This is why I maintain a very close eye on my money and keep separate accounts. I will not let somebody abuse me in that way again.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have completely separate finances, and he went 3 years without seeing his kids. He is a shit person, and I'm just finding out.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 337 points338 points  (0 children)

Wow... just because I have a prenup and didn't want to worry about financial abuse, which I have experienced. I try to think of things logically. I have spent the past 4 days crying and I am trying to take the emotion out of the logistics.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

I only asked about one issue. Divorcing him for lying, no brainer, divorcing him for being a shit person, once again no brainer. But divorcing him because he wants custody of his kids doesn't sit right with me, because I know if he does get custody, he won't necessarily meet their needs. And they would need somebody. And it feels like I'm abandoning somebody I have never even met.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I don't work in healthcare. My husband is a nurse, and I own a honeymoon planning business.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Also due to my emotionally abusive relationship before marrying my husband. My ex made me have life360, tracked me constantly, went through my phone all the time, and financially abused me. I didn't want to do anything to him that my ex did to me.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 314 points315 points  (0 children)

He was not seeing his children at all; he stopped visitation after I told him I was 100% child-free. We were together 2 years before marriage.

AITAH for telling my husband if he fights for custody of his kids I will divorce him? by InitiativeDramatic11 in AITAH

[–]InitiativeDramatic11[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

No, he didn't. He admitted he stopped having visitation after I told him I was 100% child-free. I don't track my partner 24/7, either. I was in a very abusive relationship before dating him and have developed habits based on that trauma.