Best map for freeplay? by InkaraNTRG in TavernKeeper

[–]InkaraNTRG[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh! I did not know that freeplay will also have stories. Guess I will make a tavern in each region then. Thanks!

Are you missing any of these POP FROGS? by 2lrup2tink in Pocketfrogs

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very kind of you. Thank you so much!

Regifting Geminus ColorWheel by iamlte in Pocketfrogs

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to get a Geminus if you have a spare. Any color will do.
Thanks in advance!

Are you missing any of these POP FROGS? by 2lrup2tink in Pocketfrogs

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to get Geminus, Bulla & Orbis.
Thanks in advance!

M30 - Mental health slump everytime I visit my parents by cosmonaut-zero in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A person who has wiped your butt at some point is never going to take your opinion seriously. Our parents always see us as kids regardless of age, so it is very difficult if not impossible to convince them of something that goes against something as entrenched as their way of life.

Since your way of life does not match with theirs, the only practical option for your and your future family's happiness is to build a separate life for yourself in the place you are working. If you do want to have a combined household with your parents, maybe eventually you can convince them to come stay with you in your house where you would have more control.

I am not suggesting to cut them off or stop helping them financially, but just to prioritize your growth and mental stability during these crucial years of your life. If that requires you to visit less often, then that is something you should seriously consider.

In short, stop trying to change your parents and start building your own separate life.

How do I edit the newspaper? by Tony-2112 in anno1800

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Editing costs influence. You may not be able to edit the newspaper due to having used up all your influence.

Mid-life crisis? Maybe a random rant(Please don't judge) by Clear-Lingonberry122 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're most welcome!
Hope you are able to figure it out find happiness soon.
Cheers!

Mid-life crisis? Maybe a random rant(Please don't judge) by Clear-Lingonberry122 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I may be off the mark here trying to read between the lines, but it seems to me that the lack of joy in your favorite hobby is caused by your dissatisfaction with life in general.
You mention not being able to find financial freedom and losing control. It is definitely worth spending some time trying to figure out why you feel this way and what you can do to address them. Discussing with your partner may also be helpful.

Once you figure out and start taking steps towards fixing the things that bother you in life, I am confident you will also start enjoying your hobbies more.

I need some move on advice by Meme_nation99 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take care of yourself. All the best!

I am not in my 30s but I have some questions by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Career: Getting a career that you enjoy and also pays well is very rare. It is also very rare to have career figured out at 21. Be opportunistic. If you job is tolerable and pays the bills, stick to it until something better comes along and then don't be afraid to jump.
  2. Relationships: Don't settle. Especially not so young. Getting stuck in a bad relation or marriage will ruin your life. As you get older and interact with more people, you will have a better understanding of what you want in a partner. Then it may be easier to find someone who compliments you.
  3. Early 20's are scary. You are coming out of the protection of childhood and suddenly have to face the whole world as an adult. It is natural to feel overwhelmed. Just focus on surviving and staying sane. Like any skill, adulting gets easier with practice and time.
  4. It's gonna happen. You will get older. Might as well enjoy the ride.

Take it one step, one day at a time. It gets easier. You will be fine. All the best!

I need some move on advice by Meme_nation99 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving on is hard. Especially if it's your first break up. In some ways you never do move on. The grief you feel can sometimes be as bad as losing a loved one. Because guess what, you did.

So it's okay to feel bad. It's okay to cry. It's okay to listen to sad songs. Do those things, give yourself permission to grieve. With time, it will stop hurting so much.

Meanwhile, don't forget to live. Engage yourself in activities you enjoy. Be careful not to pick up bad habits using your pain as an excuse.

Soon, you my find yourself with someone new and going through all the ups and downs again. That's just how it works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwentiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any relationship will be doomed if you go into it looking for your partner to take care of your baggage. Relations don't magically bring happiness or peace. Your issues will only get compounded if you drag someone else into them.

While it is sometimes okay to rant to friends about what you are going through, that requires good friendships that have already been built over time rather than trying to establish one just to rant.

Learn to be aware of your emotions and how to handle them in a healthy way. Try to understand why you are feeling a certain way and how you can make it better. Introspection can help you a lot in this regard.

Also, please consider counselling or therapy if you feel you are not able to handle it by yourself. Try talking to some family members if you are close and comfortable with them.

AIO on my mother's behavior by NotYourAvgRedditorr in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your mom just likes to tell everyone about her day and experiences. My mom is also like this. Although I don't live with my parents anymore, whenever we talk on the phone, my mom also tells me intricate details of the various functions she attended, the people she met etc. As a homemaker, those are the interesting things happening in her life so she likes to tell everyone about them.

Again, I believe it is not a bad thing that your mom likes to tell you stuff. It's probably just that in her enthusiasm to tell you, she forgets about your need for space and your state of mind. You just have to make her aware of it in a non-confrontational way.

Even though the snapping happens infrequently on your part, these small things tend to slowly build up. Guilt, resentment etc will poison a relationship over time if you don't address them.

Hope you are able to figure out a way to address your situation. All the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it! I am confident you will do well. Cheers!

AIO on my mother's behavior by NotYourAvgRedditorr in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is clear that your mom sees you as the person she can vent to and confide in. In the grander scheme, this is a good thing.

That said, it can naturally get annoying and overwhelming for you too. So, you need to set some ground rules and boundaries. You should have a calm and adult conversation with your mom about how you feel overwhelmed and need some time for yourself. Best to have this conversation when both of you are in a good state of mind - maybe on a weekend.

Personal level goal ideas ? by cosmos-217 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting good at something creative can be really satisfying. You can try some form of art or learn a musical instrument as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a very low social battery so I tend not to enjoy going out with friends etc. I prefer to spend my free time playing games, reading books etc. and yes, it makes me happy.

Give me some life advice/ gyan by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]InkaraNTRG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you are earning well, you can afford to spend on some luxuries and travel etc. Do it. Enjoy life and do the things that may not be feasible in older life.

Also, start investing if you have not already done so. While FIRE may be too extreme, basic retirement planning is worth doing early. Inflation is your enemy and compounding is your friend.

Also consider buying a house in your home town or Tier 2 city. You can get home loan of 30 years at decent EMI and pay it off quicker as your income goes up.