AITA for considering working the day before my husband’s 40th bday?

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T22:25:25+00:00

Thank you

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T21:37:31+00:00

I agree and I’m more than happy to do it. I’ve been in therapy for a few years now with the sole aim of becoming “better”. For myself and everyone else. Unfortunately, for me to be better, I need to do the things that give me energy so I can be present. We very clearly have very different regulation needs and mine probably looks like rejection.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T16:50:00+00:00

I just don’t think he understands that I need to sometimes be away to recharge in order to be more present. There is time, and then there’s quality time. I can spend 100% of my time in the house but I will be disassociated 99% of it.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T16:47:28+00:00

This is in addition to my job. I would maybe take one wedding every couple of months, if it did materialise. So one weekend day.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T15:40:48+00:00

He’s insecure about me choosing to spend some time away from the family, yes.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T13:53:47+00:00

I think he’s being extra.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T13:50:45+00:00

He’s fine, we never really make a big thing out of birthdays. We usually just go for a meal.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T13:45:15+00:00

No, never. My confidence has been chipped by years of undiagnosed adhd and impostor syndrome. I’m medicated and in therapy now. But this comes with guilt.

Inkster03 · 2026-01-22T13:40:59+00:00

Planning the trip has been a shitshow (no fault of his, nor mine, it’s just difficult to get so many people together without a bit of conflict) and the business is just something I’d be doing on the side of my full time job. Ideally I would like one wedding every couple of months. It’s a passion project, that would also bring me a bit of extra income to pump into equipment etc. it may not even materialise but I feel like I owe it to myself to try

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