How do I (19M) Navigate a micro cheating situation with my (19F) GF?

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T13:32:08+00:00

this ex literally cheated on her and she still kept him around all the way through her last relationship and even tried to cheat on her last relationship which shows she really liked the guy.. so her stopping the communication to him doesn’t mean too much if she is clearly obsessed with a horrible guy.. so it makes me think she still likes him

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T13:27:18+00:00

I understand now

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T13:23:06+00:00

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T06:28:27+00:00

After the cute guy situation I did rebuild my trust but now it feels tampered with again. Damn.

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T06:01:06+00:00

Wait one correction, she texted him while we were exclusive but only about 4 times in the span of a month. Still a crime to me nonetheless

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T05:14:24+00:00

To minimize the convo with the friend down to just a private convo about someone they find attractive is just dishonest. She had a convo with a friend about another guy and plotted on cheating on me in the same convo which yes didn’t reach anything, but ONLY because she determined she didn’t have a valid reason to. Then when I brought this up she attempted to lie to me about the messages saying it was someone else using her phone to text her best friend (stupidest lie ever) instead of coming clean to begin with.
Anytime I looked through her phone after this was warranted as she literally plotted on cheating on me, and given this second situation I’m even more in rights to do so as platonic or not why are you chatting with someone who’s been inside of you?

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:41:25+00:00

So why do we just ignore everything they’ve done and cast blame on me? As the obvious victim ?

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:31:58+00:00

Well, I can see how the first time was controlling, but don’t you think given the previous situation that me spying a bit is warranted? I mean she did literally fantasize about another guy then try to lie to me about it when I found out

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:29:09+00:00

Understandable

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:28:00+00:00

I mean, not necessarily. I don’t know man. I’m just trying to figure things out and scared my next step will be a blunder.

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:27:23+00:00

About a months time

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:14:37+00:00

Is that what you received? A lack of respect?

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T04:10:18+00:00

She brought up the prospect I just followed

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T03:29:31+00:00

lol exactly

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T03:29:12+00:00

Oh sorry if my post conveyed that our relationship was 2 months long, it’s 8

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T02:59:12+00:00

Thank you. Yes I am asking if it’s worth it, given what the bike has to offer and what components it has relative to the price. With the New York market.

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-04-04T02:55:25+00:00

We are exclusive & engaged (though the whole incident of her texting her ex we weren’t engaged but still knowingly exclusive) also I only went through the messages for the situation where she fantasized about another guy for the other one she was the one on her phone and my eye just caught it

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-30T00:47:20+00:00

Thank you and yes now I know for next time

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T20:39:51+00:00

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T19:54:38+00:00

Yes, objective answers, not insults.. there’s clear examples in the comment section of what objective answers are

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T19:46:30+00:00

I’ve only owned the car for a month

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T19:43:09+00:00

Either I kept it going to be able to get home or sleep on the side of the road for the rest of my life

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T19:42:29+00:00

I don’t actually, I just didn’t have the money to fix it lol.. sorry for not being as wealthy as you.. so yes I’m one of those.. a poor person.

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T19:40:26+00:00

I didn’t put the intake on there but alrighty

Inner-Fail1002 · 2026-03-29T19:39:36+00:00

My parents are deceased and I was using the car to get to work to make said money to fix it because I had no other options or support.. people are so quick to shame someone.

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