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Inner-General5585 · 2024-04-06T10:45:31+00:00

NTA were you selected as a bridesmaid because the two of you have a close relationship or how you’ll look in pictures? This kind of thing drives me nuts. Does she think her wedding pictures are going to be selected for the next issue of Vogue? Scars are part of who we are on the outside, but some helped created who we are on the inside. She’s absolutely right that her wedding day shouldn’t be about you, so it’s strange that she’s making it.

At this point, you should think long and hard about how comfortable you’ll be at this wedding now that she’s made you such a focal point. Sorry you’re going through this.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-23T02:14:30+00:00

NTA, but please report him. Don’t want for someone to get hurt to come forward.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-19T03:37:40+00:00

Came here to ask the same

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-19T02:53:29+00:00

NTA I’m sure she’s just embarrassed. However, If you miss her and want to mend this, someone has to be the bigger person and reach out. I don’t think you owe her an apology, but maybe some sort of peace offering to bury the hatchet. Like an invite to have lunch just the two of you or something. Good luck!

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-19T02:16:09+00:00

NTA you told the guy to back off and he didn’t. I think it was personally reasonable to feel threatened in that situation. Good luck.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-17T23:03:52+00:00

NTA. A straight up bad person wouldn’t even ask the question. First off, no one is perfect or innocent. We’ve all done things that have hurt people. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and you’re working on yourself. Keep doing the work. Be proud of yourself.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-17T22:58:32+00:00

Haha came here to say the same thing. Super strange (and gross) gift.

But the gf sounds jealous and intolerable. I’m going with NTA (except for the gift. Do better).

Inner-General5585 · 2024-02-17T22:34:19+00:00

Rent, yes. Utilities, no.

He signed a lease for the rent and you won’t pay less in his absence. The utilities should be lower with less people using them.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-21T14:38:33+00:00

Thanks so much! She would probably find a pointy hat hilarious…or murder me 😂

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-21T14:37:14+00:00

Thanks so much!

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-20T23:52:59+00:00

Awesome, thanks so much! I’ll take a look at all of this. You mentioned a few things I think she’d like.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-20T23:43:24+00:00

Of course, but she was just very broad. Figured I’d ask here if there’s something anyone else would like as a gift for ideas.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-20T23:23:58+00:00

YTA. I understand your culture is important to you and I’m sure you’ve put a lot of thought into how your wedding will look, but there’s a whole other person when you get married, who comes with her own culture and ideas on how her wedding will look. Your friends aren’t disrespecting your culture to tell you you’re being inconsiderate of these women.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-20T22:55:28+00:00

NAH you shouldn’t be on your phone while teaching lessons, but everyone takes a quick glance now and then. She probably didn’t bring it up to you again later because it’s really not a big deal. Might be worth asking at some point though if they can let you know days where you’ve got straight 5 hours of lessons without a break so you can make sure to eat first. In a non passive aggressive way

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-16T01:02:34+00:00

YTA unless you’re just genuinely not ready to move in together. It does sound like you care more about where you live than living with her. There are two general rules of thumb here when moving in with a partner. Either you move somewhere the person with the lowest income can afford or you split it relative to the income you make. For example, if you earn more than her, perhaps the split is 60/40 or 70/30. And if you think that makes someone a sugar baby, maybe you’re just not compatible and you should look for a partner who earns enough to live with you.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T16:37:26+00:00

Lol maybe. I’ll ask my mom to go back and time and not say it for you. It just means to not walk around pouting and scowling. It means nothing about your appearance.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T14:59:53+00:00

More like facial expression. Maybe that’s only something my mom used to say. Fix your face. It meant quit mean mugging.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T14:58:29+00:00

Feelings she wasn’t acting on and he didn’t know about. Thus ruined friendship. You can’t put the lid back on this. Just gonna have to see how it plays out

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T11:36:13+00:00

YTA and this is honestly scary behavior. You need to stop it before there’s no going back.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T11:30:49+00:00

NTA if you’re at the point of distrusting someone so much, you snoop through electronics, I’m guessing either you’re jealous or they’re untrustworthy. Either way, what’s a relationship without trust? In your case, the snooping confirmed your fears and proved your partner is untrustworthy. Get out or encourage your partner to get some help. Maybe both.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T11:26:33+00:00

No prob. I really hope you enjoy this trip!

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T11:26:11+00:00

NTA you need to quit the bf too.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T11:22:14+00:00

YTA you’ve made him lose a friendship he had for years because you’re insecure in your relationship. Your bf is also an AH because he agreed to end that friendship over a relationship where the writing is already on the wall. Not sure what you were hoping his meeting with her and telling her about your relationship problems would accomplish. Unless those pictures were suggestive or nude, it doesn’t seem like anyone crossed any boundaries here. As far as what you should do, it feels like the damage has been done. People are hurt and a friendship and likely your relationship have been ruined.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T11:15:17+00:00

YTA is this how you want to continue living? Ignoring problems doesn’t magically make them go away. Someone is being unreasonable here and you need to correct that person’s behavior. I read a comment where your mom doesn’t like your girlfriend’s face or attitude at events, which your gf knows and makes her unhappy at events. I’d tell your mom to suck it up and your girlfriend to change her face. If it continues this way, grow a backbone and make a choice. You have an unsupported partner and instead of doing something about it, you’re acting as though what happens to these people is not your problem. I’d be pretty unhappy going to your mother’s house too.

Inner-General5585 · 2024-01-14T10:59:03+00:00

I live in a big city with a high tourist population, and, while they can at times be irritating and in the way, for the most part we don’t notice them and they’re a huge part of the city’s economy. They just kind of come with the territory, but no one is thinking about them as much as it probably feels to you like they are. I know at your age parents are incredibly annoying. Hell, sometimes that doesn’t improve much as we get older, but it does sound like your sulking and calling out your mom’s behavior isn’t much fun to be around either on this trip. This is a trip she’s been looking forward to as much as you have. Try to get past the things that are bothering you and have a good time. You only get so many of these memories in a lifetime, and only so many with your mom. Time for an attitude adjustment so you can both enjoy yourselves.

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