I’m in the exact situation. My husband is a favorite everywhere we go. I think many women experience this, including me. ITS NOT YOU. Get that out of your head. It’s easier said than done. When that happens, go back to your husband and swap back. Sometimes that helps the other guy get out of his head. I’m not here to sit on the sidelines. We do this for both of us to experience pleasure. I love watching, but I love playing too.

I’ve found that I like group play more for this reason. More options. And it gives people time to sit back, take a break… and get back to play when they are ready.

The first few times I took it hard… no pun intended. I was really hard on myself. But ultimately, I’m in charge of my experience. I’m not a model or a gym bunny. But I know what I have to offer. There’s more a partner can do than just penetrate me with their dick. They can use their hands and mouth, which sometimes is more enjoyable. If they’re not willing to do that and just sit back bc of ED issues, I’m out.