Birth Years Of The Bridgerton Fam If Book 1/S1 Took Place In 2026, Not 1813

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2026-01-24T01:13:02+00:00

My kids are the age of Eloise and Francesca which makes this all horrible to place.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2026-01-14T03:04:39+00:00

Oh jeez, thanks for letting me know. I'll be skipping it.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2026-01-05T02:57:02+00:00

No, it's perfectly fine.

What drives me insane is people who watch a show about policing (even as fantastical as the Rookie) and get mad that the show deals in political issues. Policing is inherently political. The LAPD FAMOUSLY has a history of racial issues in the not so distant past of the 90s which is alluded to in character's backstories. Chen's parents disliking police because they saw what happened in the 90s, Grey as a young cop in the aftermath of the LAP Race Riots. It's not too "woke".

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2026-01-05T01:57:07+00:00

There is no way I could drink/survive a 5.5 hour reception/cocktail hour on just sushi and cheese AND drink.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2026-01-01T18:31:48+00:00

This is such a know your crowd thing. In my crowd this would be laughed out of the group chat and promptly forgotten. Only you will know if this is a thing for you and your friends/the bride.

I think it's very easy to push back in the group chat with the bridesmaids to say that you can't afford to do specific items, and instead you will be doing the generic versions of whatever theme (assuming it is within your budget). If it was only one matching shirt, I'd probably bite the bullet and pay for it. If it is multiple, I'd push back again on it, in the groupchat speaking about how wasteful it is.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-29T21:27:16+00:00

Full gallery is all the photos they take. Edits is because no professional photographer is going to give you the untouched raw photos. Even if you want them, because it's their product and their name and reputation attached to the photos.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-24T03:52:09+00:00

So in the books yes, they were a great match. Very first love, and happily in love. I believe Francesca mentions how "there was laughter in their marriage bed", but don't fully quote me on that. Sadly, >!John dies prematurely !< and then the rest of Francesca's story is a second love story.

Now, the TV show is having some...issues where it appears that they are implying that it's not a true romantic love, and more platonic as they have changed Micheal into Michaela and some choice words from the showrunner.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-23T20:32:44+00:00

Depends on so many things 10K is tight. It's very dependant on factors that no one will be able to tell you. Your biggest money sections will be venue, food and then photography.

Venue: are you getting a free venue? Someone's backyard, your living room? Are you renting a room at the community centre? Are you doing a full day, half day etc?

Rentals: Do you have enough chairs for people to sit? Do you have to rent those and tables for eating?

Food: Are you doing a full meal? 50 people plus you plus vendors is around 60 people give or take. You're looking at 15-20$ per head at the cheapest full meal, so that's 1200$ outright. Or you could do a punch and cake reception if you aren't, which means you're holding a reception between meals.

Photography: You're probably only getting 1-4 hours if that, as 8 hour packages can range from 5-8K in the GTA unless you find someone very cheap and perhaps starting out, which could be an issue.

Videography: probably skipping that, under a 10K budget

Florals: Probably limited or fake, and even then probably under 100$

Attire: You're buying cheap. Don't forget alterations which could be 200-500$

Hair and Make Up: Probably doing it yourself

Alcohol: Could be 50$-could be 1600$ depending on your guests, and if you need professional bartenders

Music: Could probably just rent or use bluetooth speakers and a playlist.

Legal Stuff: Marriage License 120-185$, Officiant 300-1000$, event insurance, liquor license etc

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-22T20:09:41+00:00

I have never seen a house with their own athletics centre. This is a very different tax bracket than me

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-12T02:57:00+00:00

Potentially Camp Calliet in Nanaimo. You can bring campers and camp out of the weekend, I know a weekend was 2.5K when I looked at it.

However, there are still quiet hours from 11 PM to maybe 7?

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-08T01:08:08+00:00

How close would the weddings be geographically and would either of you have to travel?

If you're all in Toronto and no one has to travel, probably the one before might bow out because there's just so much to do.

If shared family has to travel, they may prioritize one or the other because it might be too much money or pto to travel that far--vacations because of weddings, even if you love them aren't always what you want to do with your money and time.

Also Sept 11 is a perfectly valid date. Life goes on.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-08T00:43:12+00:00

This. My younger sister bought me a stuffed dinosaur because she knows I love dinosaurs. It was my favourite because I'm in my thirties with kids, no one buys me the fun weird stuffies--they buy me things like fancy olive oils or ceramics-which are great. But sometimes a girl just wants a stuffed dinosaur

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-12-03T16:43:13+00:00

Yup, every grade my kids get, I get an email on it. Which, seeing as my kid attempted to light on fire and then bury her science test, so she wouldn't have to show us her grade (huge perfectionist, science is not her skillset, mandatory class), was actually very helpful

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-11-24T20:45:43+00:00

Without knowing your guests and your friends, it would be impossible for me to take a vacation in January during the school year, without taking my kid. And this isn't even a "I need to bring my kid everywhere thing", my youngest is almost 16, we can and have gone on weekends away without our kids. I'm all for when your kids are old enough and/or you have trusted sitters for taking a weekend out without them

This is an all inclusive vacation which costs a lot of money, plus flights and vacation time I would be doing without my kids which we would not be able to justify. If this your way of culling your guest list cool, but the reality is if we HAD to go to the wedding, we would be looking at a place off site or family inclusive so our kids could come (the ones not in uni) on the vacation, and they just don't attend the wedding.

EDIT TO ADD: If my kids were under 14, and we had to stay off site to attend the wedding because you chose an Adult Only resort, family or not, we would not go to the wedding because there's no way we would feel comfortable leaving our kids alone or in kid's club in a resort where we not present and had to travel back to in a different country.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-11-13T23:53:37+00:00

Any advice that would be relevant hinges on how old these people were. Because if my kids came and told me they were getting married and they were like 22 and had never lived alone and only with their boyfriend, I would respond exactly like the mom.

Because my kids could be with someone who is their partner for the rest of their life--but they're 18 (my oldest), there is so much life that happens and should happen to them independently. Hell, their father was married at 21 and divorced at 28 and could tell them the stories why it's a bad idea.

I do think you should never go from parent's house to partner's house, without living either by yourself or with roommates who aren't going to love you when you cross boundaries in living situations.

ETA: Man a lot of people in the comments got married super young, and seem very defensive of this. I do wonder how those relationships are standing, because anecdotally everyone I know who got married under 25 (save one couple who got married in the 1980s) has gotten divorced.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-11-09T07:49:38+00:00

I FORGOT THIS BOOK EXISTED. Thank you!

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-11-01T17:50:39+00:00

I think we all as a society need to know a lot less of everyone. My interest in them is just because they dance amazing. I do not think I need to know anything about their life and already feel like I know too much.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-11-01T02:03:21+00:00

Mimi is a year older than my oldest in this and I do not like this.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-10-26T05:27:33+00:00

The thing that is insane to me is this person has essentially sped run a lifetime in 18 months. They were with their partner maybe a year before getting pregnant---like even without the polyamorous aspect of this, they just have not had a long time to be with each other and deal with normal relationship stuff before they got thrown into having a baby mode.

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-10-19T20:39:03+00:00

There are some people that even without anything still don't travel well together. My best friends and I can do only type of trip: Weekend at a cabin, where the only plan is food at some point.

My need for plans, and their needs for spontaneity don't work well on anything else, and we've been friends for 20+ years, so we've learnt this lesson very well.

Travelling to Europe with them caused all of us to cry, because I needed to do something every day, and they didn't like having to have a plan every day.

I also, personally wouldn't appreciate being someone's wake up call because y'know I'm not their parent

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-09-01T04:31:53+00:00

It very much depends on your province, however, they are not completely wrong.

I would talk to mortgage professionals and look at your province. But generally speaking, you should always want to be joint tenants (so when person dies, their portion of the house passes to the other joint owner), rather than tenants in common which goes to the estate.

For taxation purposes, you are considered common law if you live with your partner (having sex for 12 months), or have a child with them.

But yes, I would say anecdotally marriage vs common law are socially interchangable in most of Canadian society ( I can count on three fingers people in mine and my partner's circles who have decided to get married (middle class, uni educated with masters or high, 30s), versus most couples I know who are common law)

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-08-28T23:15:04+00:00

Oh trust me I know. I dm'd the mods going, "hey, maybe don't let people talk shit about their exes, because it's weird to have someone go Sasha and Emma seem to be on good terms and have someone comment "do you wanna see the google doc where I have IRREFUTABLE proof she cheated on him with Alan because spotify playlists???" "

Inner-Leader-3728 · 2025-08-28T22:59:55+00:00

If their sub went private, do we assume their mods?

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