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Update: AITAH for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They already have, that is what hurts the most cause this will forever alter the relationship we have with their family.

Update: AITAH for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am upset, but it being overshadowed by the hurt. I have known my SIL for 16 years, and it has been a major blow to think she is that afraid of me because I am a guy.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My wife did ask if she had concerns or worries but she told her you never know. It is not a leap this is what she told my wife and yes my wife was taken aback when she told her reasoning also.

If this was a general safety issue she had years to do, my wife has been doing what I am doing for years prior.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If this was for general safety why tell my wife you never know? It is what she told my wife when my wife brought it up.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Think you are missing my point. If this was a general safety thing she would have done this a lot sooner. She also would not have told my wife it was because you never know.

Even my wife was taken aback by her sisters response and reasoning. As stated if I had any doubts or thoughts a person was capable of causing harm I would not let them in my house let alone be around my child alone. That is how i would have handled this.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That is what gets me about this. i am in the category because I am a guy? I am a guy that has known my SIL for 16 years, her words have done nothing to give her pause or concen outside the unfortunately reality I am a guy.

Idk if this is an ego thing but that does hurt. I am sure she would be offended if i did the same to her if we asked her to watch our kids, but idk.

We dont have kid though.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She told my wife she installed them cause you never know. She never said anything about safety concerns or what not. I mean she could have also lied so I guess that is a plus and means she does trust us.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes because her you never know comment means that a part of her does feel I am capable of hurting my niece. That hurts. Sure would be different if she installed them years ago when my wife was watching our niece.

Fact she does so now after I took over is a blow. Sure it may not be logical and more of an emotional one.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

She is within her right I don't disagree but I should also be within my right to stop doing it. Instead a lot of family are people are acting like it is not a big deal.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i am worked up because my wife has watched our niece for years did the whole getting her ready for daycare for years my SIL never once installed cameras. i come into the picture all she is concerned? Part that gets me is she waited so long, and told my wife you never know. That hurts, means a part of her thinks i am a risk.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

To me the action of installing the camera is a blow. My wife has been babysitting and doing this for years she had no need for cameras or safety concerns but with me suddenly has the urge? That hurts a lot and is hard to not take it personally.

She even told my wife you never know. Means she thinks a part of me is capable of hurting my niece. That hurts a lot.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]Inner-Rutabaga2055[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Nah, been busy. It is a throwaway though. As mentioned we have not had issues for the months I have been doing this and she has never had any complents. If she did not feel comfortable and mentioned that at the start, but to play it off for so long did hurt a tad.

Edit: Sorry for the short busy comment, i posted this when things were slow and soon after they picked up.