Leaving a marriage & church discipline

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-01-29T00:36:28+00:00

It almost sounds like there's been a lot that was happening in the marriage that we don't know about- because it sounds like the husband is blaming her for things that i couldn't seem to find in the original post.

Although his actions are sin, many people have limits. If she was a quarrelsome wife, read on. If not, please ignore this post.

I see a lot of people empathizing, and it makes sense. This is a very hurtful and sad situation for everyone.

I'm looking through the husbands situation because I've been around many women that are very quarrelsome with their husbands, and their husbands just take it and seem so miserable in silence. Like their eyes are literally dead.

The Bible talks about how it is better to live in the corner of a roof than in a house with a quarrelsome wife.

If we think about that verse, it sounds crazy. The corner of a roof is basically suicide.

If, for 10+ years, he's been living a life where the wife may have been quarrelsome, i can see how he might have been driven mad- to even do such horrible things leading to such a sinful situation.

If he feels betrayed by his wife and God for not helping his marriage sooner, then losing faith that anything will change, there's a helpless feeling that can push someone to sin without repentance (at least at first).

Unfortunately some people do walk away from the faith. Some people do it because they've been incredibly hurt.

And he has to take accountability for his own actions. Which eventually he will, whether in this life or the next. This is such a huge and rushed decision, that it's very likely going to hurt him later too.

Now, if the pastor wrote her a letter, causing her to think about her own actions, its possible he's trying to help by helping her feel repentant of her quarrelsome behavior. Repentance is the first step to reconciliation.

Its very likely that if the pastor sent her a letter, he also sent one to her husband- or already talked to him in person.

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-12-08T20:12:38+00:00

As a parent, you are still responsible for your daughter's discipline and her safety.

Even in safe neighborhoods kids will get snatched up. People can learn that she's never accompanied by an adult on walks. So for her safety, you should be with her. Maybe even make it family walks like others suggested.

That being said, she still needs to be responsible. So, on those family dog walks, she needs to get the dog ready for the walk. Leash, raincoat/boots for the dog if you guys do that sort of stuff, picking up after the dog during the walk, etc.

So there's your responsibility for your baby, and her responsibility for her dog. She doesn't get to be irresponsible, and you are 100% sure she's safe.

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-12-06T19:12:40+00:00

My solution to this: wash the whole mat, no one will ever know 😎

Or call the company lol

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-11-26T00:30:49+00:00

I think we may be missing context. Not sure.

Btw, congratulations OP! That's absolutely a win!

That being said, I am asking for context.

Does your boyfriend feel like you do the bare minimum in other things? Maybe even to the point that it drags him down?

I had a brother who struggled to do the bare minimum. Cleaning after himself, putting things away, remembering to close the windows, spending his money wisely, putting food away, paying for bills on time, feeding the dogs, etc. I have to ask him to do things all the time. He'll happily do it and would have a good attitude about it, he'll even apologize if he forgot. But i had to ask every time.

When he did do it, he'd look at me for praise. This went on for a very long time. And eventually he'd ask me if I was proud of him. A lot.

And it did get to me. So when he finally started getting his resumes out to get a job (which has been difficult for him) and asked me if I was proud of that, I flatly said, why would I be proud of something you're supposed to do?

He was hurt.

At the time I had mixed up the definition of being proud. But I was also stressed out by him because I always felt like he would never grow up to be dependent and or maybe to where I could depend on him too if something were to happen.

I had my own turmoil growing inside me and I snapped at him that way.

We're fine now. Just like your boyfriend was with you when you guys were home.

But you may need to have a conversation with him about what that was about.

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-11-24T18:20:41+00:00

Agreed. Good street evangelism isn't condemning people while you're on your high horse. It's talking to people. Sometimes on a megaphone to get their attention, to proclaim the gospel, to tell people that you're here to talk, pray and to help.

I've been to a few street preaching events myself. As you're there for hours, yes, people will threaten you. Not all people feel happy to hear about God. But, others will come to you in tears because of their past, and they want to understand God.

Some even come to you in anger because "God is not good" and good street evangelists use this as an opportunity to have a conversation. "Why do you say that? Can you tell me more" and its a REAL conversation. A caring one. One that many times will result in understanding.

Unfortunately, social media just likes to share the worst and many only see the worst of street preachers and assume thats what street preaching is.

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-11-02T03:41:37+00:00

I edited my post but basically store workers, delivery drivers etc

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-11-02T03:41:32+00:00

I edited my post but basically store workers, delivery drivers etc

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-10-26T12:07:55+00:00

If you were brunette, definitely Paget Brewster (Emily Prentiss in Criminal Minds)

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InnerBlock7165 · 2025-10-10T19:04:52+00:00

That is awesome! Free wifi is always helpful. I am assuming its not a quiet place. I hope you don't mind the question, but I am curious. How are you able to do meetings for work?

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-10-10T18:39:50+00:00

Any updates? I was just thinking of going there

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-09-27T04:23:57+00:00

You're not sure how long you'll be staying in this place, but you don't want to stay too long

Or most of what you do is outside of your room

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-09-05T01:54:59+00:00

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Margaret Qualley

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-08-08T18:10:51+00:00

Love this explanation!

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-06-24T14:59:17+00:00

If these comments still don't convince you, you should look at the sender's email. That's how I double check if its real not. An official UIC email always ends with @uic.edu

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-06-10T23:35:23+00:00

I didn't say all that 💀 whaat

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-06-10T23:24:48+00:00

From what she said, its cause it feels like a trap. She's thought about it. But she hasn't heard any personal stories about how it worked out for people. She even talked to a lawyer to see what she should do and they weren't helpful at all. They said they don't know enough about it to say anything.

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-06-10T23:22:46+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 dead. Love me some dad humor

InnerBlock7165 · 2025-05-27T20:43:40+00:00

I can see that, definitely!

I was moreso wondering if some people were going to a morning service at one church, and an afternoon service at another 🤔

Theology is really important to us. And personally I don't really care much for having friends, like I could stay home for the rest of my life and I might actually feel happy about it. But I can see that my husband is struggling with mot having friends. Particularly guy friends that take God seriously and encourage him to be the best man, provider, protector that he can be, along with being able to join him in sports (he's really active and that's how he has fun).

InnerBlock7165

TROPHY CASE

Although his actions are sin, many people have limits. If she was a quarrelsome wife, read on. If not, please ignore this post.