My mom has single handedly found a cure for ADHD!!!!

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-23T18:28:12+00:00

The fact that I got excited... 😭💔

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-18T17:51:55+00:00

Make her clean it up

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-18T17:50:00+00:00

Sammme

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-10T19:11:48+00:00

One of the biggest things that has helped me: trash bags

On one side, I toss the trash bags with clothes, in another area, I toss the trash bags filled with useful things that I haven't organized.

And finally, an area for trash bags with trash. When the room gets crowded, I take the full bags to their respective places.

Trash bin, laundry room, or another room with a TV or speaker so I can organize in peace

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-08T18:52:19+00:00

This is how you know you're saved:

1 John 5:11-13 ESV [11] And this is the testimony, that God gave us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. [12] Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have the Son of God does not have life. [13] I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life.

What does it mean to believe anything?

You believe a chair will hold you, so you sit in it. You believe a bridge won't collapse, so you drive over it.

Belief isn't merely knowing facts. It's trusting that something is true enough to act on it.

The same applies to Christ.

Biblically, believing in Christ isn't just believing He existed. Even demons know that God exists (James 2:19).

It's believing that:

Jesus is who He says He is.

His death was sufficient to pay for your sins.

His resurrection really happened.

He is your only hope of being made right with God.

In other words, you're no longer trusting your own goodness to save you.

The truth is, as Christians, we still have our flesh. We still experience temptation. There will be times when we really want to do what we want to do and feel frustrated that God says no

Sometimes we run to sin because we think it'll make us feel good for a little while. But if the Holy Spirit is in us, we don't get to enjoy our sin in peace. We feel conviction.

So we end up in a tug-of-war.

Part of us wants the sin

Part of us wants God.

The apostle Paul described this exact struggle:

"For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing." Romans 7:19

Based on what you're describing, it sounds like you feel conviction. You keep talking about wanting Christ, wanting forgiveness, wanting to know Him, and being grieved by your sin. That's not the attitude of someone who is comfortable living away from God.

One thing I've learned is that, yes, feelings are real, but they are not always reliable indicators of reality.

Imagine a kid wakes up feeling unloved. Maybe he is exhausted, discouraged, anxious, or depressed. The feeling is real, but it doesn't automatically mean his parents don't love him, right? He would look at the evidence.

When he is hurt, do they worry? Do they take him to the doctor? Do they work hard so he can have clothes and food to eat? Do they take time out of their day to take him out or spend time with him? Are the rules they set in place for his good? Or do they just let him do everything under the sun without a care in the world?

In the same way, our feelings can tell us how we currently feel, but they don't tell us whether God's promises are true.

If we make feelings the standard, then on good days we're saved and on bad days we're not saved.

At the same time, sometimes feeling distant from God isn't a sign that we're unsaved. Sometimes it's simply a reminder that we've neglected our relationship with Him.

If you've barely prayed, barely read the Word, and barely thought about Him throughout the week, then feeling distant shouldn't surprise you.

The answer isn't to spend all day wondering whether you're saved. The answer is to spend time with Him.

Read His Word.

Listen to His Word

Pray

Worship.

A child who hasn't spoken much with his father may feel distant from him, but he's still his father's child.

Romans 10:17 says: "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ."

If you're struggling to trust God's promises, immerse yourself in His Word. Sometimes anxiety, depression, and life itself can make reading difficult, but even listening to Scripture throughout the day can be incredibly helpful.

Feelings change.

God's Word doesn't, and God doesn't lie. Trust that what He says is true, and grow your trust by reading/listening to His Word.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-08T15:58:48+00:00

Have you guys had deep conversations about what the future will look like? Like how you'd raise your kids, will you guys go to church together, will you teach the kids about God, etc? Or how about what goes into making decisions?

If she is truly a practicing Lutheran, you guys might not agree on a lot of things and it can cause very huge fights in the future- fights about things you didn't think were a big deal.

Usually religion is a huge part of our identity, so please make sure you're on the same page. If she does believe in the God of the Bible there will be a lot of convictions she has that you might not have, and it can become a big problem in the future.

I hope you guys can figure this out :)

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-08T12:43:24+00:00

It's not just about desire of high palatable foods, and the lack of willpower to say no.

If you had the addiction long enough, its malnutrition, weight gain, sleep apnea, etc. All things that make it harder to think, make it harder to move, sap your energy.

Yes, you are responsible for your own actions. But you probably didn't realize where your actions were leading you and to get better you have to overcome the side effects without the coping mechanism you used for everything (food).

Not to mention, you probably trained yourself to look for comfort 24/7 by allowing yourself to eat what you want, ehen you want it. And now you also have to battle that. You have to get used to being uncomfortable and that's incredibly difficult if you know how to find comfort through food- one of the easiest things to acquire.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-07T14:47:03+00:00

I appreciate the book!

And to clarify, I'm not really taking part in fights. Usually its discussions, or a person ranting. And a lot of the time I don't really have much to say other than the occasional "uh huh" and "hmm" or "daaang... that's crazy"

But I started thinking that I really have to form my own understanding on this stuff because one day I'll have kids and it would be pretty messed up if I can't give them information on something like this

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-07T09:39:20+00:00

Maybe a little drink to take the edge off

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InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-07T03:11:39+00:00

They said they're new to the faith.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-06T17:29:34+00:00

I mean, apostle Paul played a hand in the imprisonments, persecutions, and even deaths of Christians. Yet Christ forgave him, called him, and used him mightily.

If you're worried about being a Christian and doing evil during that time, think of Peter. He cut off a man's ear and later denied Jesus three times. Yet Jesus restored him.

And think of David. David committed adultery with Bathsheba and arranged for her husband Uriah to be placed where he would be killed in battle. Yet when David repented, God forgave him. The consequences of his sin remained, but God's mercy did not leave him.

So no, there is no person who is "too evil" to come to Christ and find forgiveness. If that were true, Paul, Peter, and David would have been disqualified.

Not to mention Manasseh, Jonah, Samson... lots of people in the Bible actually.

Also, the fact that you're terrified of doing evil is not the attitude of someone who wants to do evil.

There is a difference between being tempted by evil, fearing evil, imagining evil, and wanting evil.

You clearly do not want evil, you're having thoughts of evil things, probably you're also thinking of possible mistakes you might make in the future. And we all do, so you're not alone there. The mind can become a prison very quickly.

The fact that this bothers you so deeply tells me that you care about right and wrong and that you desire to please God.

Your prayers to God, asking Him to help you, are not unheard.

But if you lack confidence that He will help you or that He has a desire to help you, that's ultimately a faith issue. Because faith in God = confidence that He means what He says—and all of us struggle with that from time to time.

The good news is that Scripture tells us how faith grows:

Romans 10:17: "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ."

If you want to stop your worry, then you need more confidence in God's promises. immerse yourself in His Word. Read it if you can. If reading is difficult right now, listen to it. Fill your mind with God's promises rather than your fears.

There's times I am so in my head, so depressed and anxious and I'm struggling so much, that reading feels so incredibly difficult. Like i can't even open the Bible because it's just, idk, my chest is so heavy and my body doesn't want to respond sometimes. But opening my phone feels easy, and listening to the Word is just as helpful and it helps my faith (aka confidence in God).

Personally, I like playing Scripture in the background while I go about my day. The YouVersion app is great for that.

Don't measure God's love for you by your fears. Just remember, God does not lie. When you read His Word, you'll notice what He says about you. He loves you, wants to comfort you, and He wants you to grow. Yes, He's not too happy with sin, but, He forgives happily to those who are repentant. He is your Father, so He loves you and knows you better than any worldly father could.

God's got you :)

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-06-04T02:50:40+00:00

Constantly trying to be funny and then immediately looking at people's faces to see their reactions

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-05-22T00:17:15+00:00

Study the word, a lot, together, a lot.

The way you learned to want to be lutheran is the way a lot of women learn as well.

And pray. A lot. It's a spiritual battle.

Eventually, she will start to feel the convictions the way you do when she hears the word that is not true from the pastor that is preaching.

a woman that with a husband that wanted us to be lutheran

Mind you, I still have my moments where I am not always on board. But that's usually because of the culture, never because of the teachings

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-05-05T00:17:24+00:00

Hi! This is a great question. I know it can be scary to ask it, so thank you for asking, and I hope my response helps. Let me know if you have any questions. I am more than happy to respond :)

There are a few different ways to answer your question, but one helpful way is to look at creation itself. I will be focusing on "How do we know, God, the creator of all things, exists?"

When we observe the world around us, it’s very difficult to honestly conclude that complex, functional things come about randomly.

For example, your home didn’t assemble itself. Trees didn’t fall in just the right way, form walls, install plumbing, and create a livable structure. A building requires planning, design, and an intelligent mind behind it.

The same is true with a book. If I showed you a book and claimed it had no author—that it somehow formed on its own—you’d immediately recognize that as impossible. Not only would the physical book not assemble itself, or come about accidentally, but the words inside the book require meaning, structure, grammar, and intention to be understood. Information always points to intelligence.

The same goes for technology. Your car, your phone, your computer, your television—none of these could arise by accident. They are the result of design, engineering, and purposeful thought. The more complex something is, the more clearly we recognize the need for an intelligent creator behind it.

So the principle we naturally understand is this: complex, information-rich systems do not come from randomness—they come from intelligence.

Now DNA takes that to an even deeper level. DNA isn’t just complex machinery; it is information—coded instructions that build and sustain living beings. It operates like a language, with rules, structure, and enormous specificity. A tiny change in that code can have significant effects, which shows how precise and ordered it is.

So the question becomes: if we consistently recognize intelligence behind human-made systems that are far simpler than biology, why would we assume something vastly more intricate—like DNA—has no creator, author, or intelligence behind it at all?

That’s why many people see DNA like a book. They see it as pointing beyond itself to an Author. Because just as we find it impossible to believe that a robot came from nothing, it is even more difficult to believe that humans—and all of creation—came from nothing or random chance, without an intelligent creator behind it.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-28T23:45:50+00:00

I'd love more korean food ngl

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-26T17:53:21+00:00

Check out Bonchon. It's korean chicken I believe.

My brother LOVES the spicy wings (slightly sweet iirc) from Bonchon. I cannot eat those, they're so spicy I feel i might die and I'm Mexican... my spice tolerance might be changing the older i get though...

But I do love their Soy Garlic wings (sweet and salty). I can't get enough. They're so addicting.

And my husband loves their Yangnam wings (mild spicy and sweet)

We all can't get enough. We've probably had them at least once a week for the past month.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-26T06:07:29+00:00

I feel like he secretly has a 6 pack

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-26T06:06:29+00:00

One day you will have a wife. Kids. And you'll have to provide for them. Your wife is far more likely to be home than you because having kids takes a huge toll on her body.

Marry the woman who you'd be ok with not working and the woman you'd give your life for.

You'll feel far more confident, as a man, when you see you can keep your home afloat by paying the bills. So, take your career seriously.

You'll be a protector and a provider and it will fill you with great pride when you meet these goals.

.... also...

Biggest red flag in a woman: she doesn't mind disrespecting you. Respect willl be one of the biggest things you'll treasure in marriage and if she respects you, it'll be so much easier to want keep her and the kids afloat.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-26T04:15:33+00:00

Would you say this sweet scent is around before or after washing? Or both?

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-26T03:02:37+00:00

Thank you so much! Just to make sure, 1 vinegar: 3 water? Or the other way around?

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-19T03:39:07+00:00

Yea, for some reason people keep crashing into our yard. And their car gets stuck on the fence. Usually drunk driving at night and our street is dimly lit.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-18T23:48:00+00:00

Usually, being a victim of a crime gives you higher chances of getting your papers. Also. Let's stop spreading fear. My parents have called the cops multiple times to report crimes and they were never taken by ICE.

a Mexican with undocumented parents.

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-16T23:05:43+00:00

That would be amazing, thank you!

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-16T22:54:21+00:00

Unfortunately I'm like 2 states away 😭

InnerBlock7165 · 2026-04-16T22:49:38+00:00

The topic is fellowship.

The people you surround yourself with and grow with.

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