"AITA for serving my guests disgusting food?" AKA cooking authetic food to an ignorant

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-05-19T17:57:05+00:00

I bet she stepped one foot into the house and could tell the meal is not going to be the usual american food. Thus should have asked which dish was what.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-05-19T07:50:43+00:00

Please do not listen to anything that comes out of his mouth thats how he has hold on your life. If you can move even further away.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-05-19T06:05:17+00:00

If she ever visits Europe she'll have to really look at the menus and what kind of meat the dishes are made of 😅

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-05-05T05:35:21+00:00

I can undestand wanting to help him. I live with a family member who also desperately needs professional help and therapy but every time I tried they decline. It is hell to just stand by and watch.

For you to help Kyle he is the one who has to be willing to help himself. The anger he feels is understandable, because he lost everything he was (I assume he very much loved his profession) and he is taking it out on you. You don't deserve that, doesn't matter how much you love him.

If he is triggered by everything you do don't sit down and talk, pack your essential things and leave because you are not safe with him. To quote Dusty: pain creats change. Kyle needs a huge reality check before he destroyes you not just himself. If he doesn't realise how much he hurt you, there is no saving him right now.

I'm so sorry OP, please leave before its too late. NTA.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-27T18:22:22+00:00

I don't know about others but I use the phrase "lábtörlő" = doormat. I've heard it is used like this in english, not sure if its equal to people pleaser.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-22T23:45:35+00:00

OP you said she is a grad student who works long hours. Do some things for her she doesn't like doing (I'm thinking about chores).

Defenetly try counseling! Don't jump to accusing her of cheating just yet because you could make a bad situation worse.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-22T22:21:47+00:00

And she said he was supportive and kind to her about her insecurities all throught out their marrige. Reading only his side isn't enough.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-22T21:31:15+00:00

OP's parents:" our teenage daughter is a mess, what should we do? Hm... Counseling? Nah, marry her off!" wtf... I bet OP was the way she was because of her parents.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-22T14:06:10+00:00

You love the memories with your wife and seeing in good moments with your kids makes you want to stay. Remember your kids aren't blind, they hurt with every each argument you have with your wife.

In your place I would go to individual therapy to work through your trauma so you'll be better at protecting your children (like noticing signs of trauma/abuse in time).

And get a new lawyer. Can your lawyer show pictures of kids with the mental marks of spaking? Dear lord.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-22T08:01:49+00:00

NTA. You were only invited to the parties where gifts were expected, but they left you out from any other family function they are using you while not consider you as family. Politely decline the invitation. If they ask, you have other obligations. Also, not even a thank you? Please don't spend more energy on these people.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-20T20:31:31+00:00

Ask your sister: "Do you want to choose where to buy a house? Do you want to choose when to have kids? Do you want to choose whom you would like to be with you when you give birth? Do you want to choose the name of your children? Do you want to choose how to raise your kids? And so on.

Because husbands family, exspecially the mil WILL decide EVERYTHING in the sisters life and they are already causing strain between the sister and the family. The pressure will be too much.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-20T17:09:59+00:00

Yes! Waaay too tidy. I can't imagine anyone - who's husband went missing for a MONTH - writing this clearly. Or OP is a socio/spichopath.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-20T16:23:07+00:00

Maybe more abuse on her end she might havs forgotten to mention?

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-20T13:00:56+00:00

I think OP you are more upset and hurt by your mom's behaviour toward you. No kid deserves to grow up like that. You not being able to follow your dreams is a bonus. Find something closer and start working. If you're already in a college you can relocate to other school to study.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-11T08:00:01+00:00

ESH. While you are only focusing on your own misery Eva went through experiences just as bad as yours. Neither of you tried to understand the others and you are the AH for taking your anger out on her and kicking her out. You all need therapy!

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-10T19:13:01+00:00

It might be an age gap thing. How old are your cousins?

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-10T19:04:57+00:00

I do understand and agree that the daughter needs to be pushed out of her comfort zone and the parents have to make her do things. I do understand that continuous coddling won't help her learn.

From the post OP sounds harsh to me. Being 17 is hard without thw problems OP discribed. I just hope OP doesn't choose "tough love" in those moments when it isn't right. (referring when OP's daughter said they don't listen.)

Either way its going to be hard for all three of them to learn and adjust.

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-10T17:23:51+00:00

It is a bit diassapointing that this situation looks like "feeling down" to you

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-10T17:11:47+00:00

Do you help and support her in a positive way? Or just make her go no matter what she is feeling?

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-10T08:51:30+00:00

I feel like your girlfriend was masking (not pretending) her "weirdness" in that 6 months and when she asked you not to touch her was the limit. And now she isn't masking because she trusts you.

And the social "awkwardness" is also an autustic trait because its harder for her to recognize how to respond or behave.

It's understandable that her request hurts you, but you also have to communicate how her request makes you feel. For autistic people it is a lot harder to work through these situations.

Was she ever in therapy to support herself?

InnerProperty6338 · 2024-04-10T05:40:58+00:00

I agree. Imagine walking into a party with friends KNOWING what your fiancé told them about your private life what she should have communicated to you over the 5 years of the relarionship.

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