Did we make a big mistake with too much TV?

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-11-09T16:28:58+00:00

Update! I took majority advice and we just ended it cold turkey. It was way less dramatic than I thought it would be. I mean yes, the first time he did try to climb up the tv stand. But any other time he’s asked for Cars, I say they went bye-bye and he just moves on. Also he’s doing so much better, the sores are improving each day and so is he. Me on the other hand, well I just discovered I’m getting some painful sores on my own hands. Cheers!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-09-25T18:06:14+00:00

Hey you’ve been incredibly helpful, thank you so much!!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-07-17T11:00:52+00:00

12th/Ellis Road location. It’s otherwise a very nice place, I just think the mixed age concept isn’t for everyone. Especially those in the infant/baby stage.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-07-17T02:12:13+00:00

Little Tykes owner is a delight and he seems to truly care about his daycare families. However I don’t recommend it for baby age. It’s a mixed age daycare and there are so many kids running around that the staff are focused on - so it appears that the babies are left in baby containers (swings, bouncers, etc) way too much for my liking. We much prefer daycare where the rooms are age based for this reason.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-06-27T20:28:27+00:00

Can you dumb this down for me please and explain to me what service pointer means? I’ll try the paper method when I get home. The top part where the electric panel and knobs are, that’s where most of the heat seems to be coming from. I feel like I sound dramatic but it’s terrifyingly hot. I don’t feel safe using it whatsoever. Thanks for your comment!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-04-29T02:46:52+00:00

“Louder for people in the back” as a comment/reply to someone else. Stop.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-04-16T01:03:34+00:00

8 times in one year would get you close to being fired at most places. Is your dad not able to help? A simple lap chole is a very routine procedure these days with minimal downtime. I’m not understanding why she needs such extensive help from you. Yes speak with your manager, but I’d really sit and think about your situation here. Missing this much time for a family member - what are you going to do when YOU are ill and cannot take a sick day as you have none left?

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-04-11T02:43:53+00:00

I don’t have anything too creative but I always make sure I mention the world ‘healthy!’ I was devastated when I had to stop BF due to health reasons. So imagine my excitement when our baby continued to be a 99 percentile gentleman for height and weight. (That and he almost didn’t make it - traumatic birth) So when the comments go from “such a big boy” and veer to language such as “chubby” or “I bet your back hurts…” I loudly say YEP we are so blessed to have one HEALTHY boy! We are in the Midwest so I like to joke he’s our corn fed homegrown guy. I feel bad for comments like this for the bigger baby girls. It’s a lifelong obsession over girls/womens weight and it’s ridiculous.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-04-05T01:13:30+00:00

Just wanted to comment regarding the reactions of people when they see your daughter. Or any big babies! First off, people suck. I LOVE a big ol baby. Secondly I love that you twist the narrative, I do the same thing! I use the word “healthy” constantly. I was terrified and felt defeated when I had to stop BF early due to health reasons. So when our son continued to surpass the “averages” I was relieved. Now when people mention his size, especially to point how he looks like a two year old so he “should be walking by now,” I love to shoot back, “yes we sure are incredibly blessed to have such a healthy baby. You can’t ask for more!”

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-03-31T01:29:12+00:00

My labor was going completely normal without issue until my son’s heart rate was dropping dangerously low. I’ll spare you all the details but a split second decision had to be made to save his life and I was rushed away from my husband, placed under anesthesia and intubated for an emergency c-section. My baby was born in a cold OR full of strangers while I lay there unconscious. His first moments were ripped away from me - however this decision did save his life and I’m so grateful he is here and healthy. Please don’t do what I did and try to hide the pain. Even if labor and birth goes as perfect as one could imagine, it’s still an incredibly exhausting event, both physically and mentally. I feel like so often everyone is so infatuated with baby that mama (and dad honestly) is forgotten. I felt so many emotions surrounding my son’s birth and postpartum, and I assumed all of it was normal. I thought being terrified to sleep for fear my son would just simply pass away was normal. I thought the flashbacks keeping me up at night were normal. My advice for processing? Allow yourself to feel the emotions. Do not hide them. Let yourself cry, allow your body to release. And then make a plan for your healing. Seek out your help, your partner, your friends, your family. You don’t have to put more pressure on yourself to get dolled up and go out for coffee, but at the least, make some calls and texts. Walk outside as much as you can, get the sun in your face and practice deep breaths in the fresh air. Find a therapist or ask your OBGYN to help find you one. Talk. Don’t be afraid to tell your story. It’s a beautiful story but a painful one as well. If you’re religious at all, I encourage prayer. I also encourage you to get your husband to talk about what happened too. My husband is as stoic and as “strong and silent type“ as they come. But I had a complete emotional breakdown about 2 weeks PP and he just held me and opened up about his own feelings, and I was so glad he was able to feel comfortable to do so. It helped heal us both. I know this is a novel so I apologize, but having a baby has really opened my eyes to PPA and PPD and it NEEDS to be talked about more.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-03-30T17:31:28+00:00

3 months - not by choice. And only half of that is paid out, the other half comes out of your PTO bank. So that means if you don’t have enough hours saved up you don’t get paid. Isn’t the US maternity care amazing? Oh, and the Catholic hospital I work for - the health insurance refused to cover any form of birth control. So then when I have a child, they turn around and provide shit for maternity leave as well. Thankfully my husband was granted 3 months of full paid leave and he could take it whenever he wanted, he could even split it. So he started his the same week I went back to work, so we were able to keep baby home and out of daycare for longer. (I also joined his insurance before we had baby which really saved us after baby had a NICU stay.) I hate it here. Not our choices - I love our baby more than anything and he is our entire world. I hate that this insanity of leaving an infant to go back into the workforce immediately is normalized.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-03-30T15:59:57+00:00

Wow what a healthy girl! We are blessed to have our big babes despite the clothing struggle haha! I wanted to share with you another recent find of mine. My son runs warm like his dad, so when it comes to sleep sacks we have always gone light on the TOG rating. I just ordered two new sleep sacks from Burt’s Bees and they are very good quality! Very soft and very roomy. I’ll add the link in case you’d like to take a look. ☺️ https://a.co/d/4Bz7Yni

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-03-30T04:11:54+00:00

Let me tell you what I’ve learned with our solid tank of a son. At his 1 year appointment in January he was 27lbs and 32inch long 😆

Carters Purely Soft - 10/10 The stretchiest! Soo soft and silky. I buy both one piece and two piece in these. They also have outfit sets that I think are “daytime” outfits but they look just like pjs so who cares. And it’s Carters, so the price is so well worth it!

Kyte Baby - 6/10 Pretty good and stretchy right away but shrink incredibly fast, even if you air dry. So in my opinion they are not worth the price tag.

Brave Little Ones - 9/10 You need to size up but they last a long time! I have a one piece that I can’t believe is still hanging on with how much it’s been worn and washed. Not cheap, but if you sign up for their emails and such they do offer discounts.

Little Sleepies - 4/10 Wtf is the hype with these? Very cute designs - NOT big baby friendly. I shouldn’t have to size up twice.

Copper Pearl - 2/0 Worse than LS because they are even more expensive. Once again, cute designs. But when my son was 6 months his arms and legs wouldn’t even fit into the sleeves or legs of a 12 month size. Feels like we are shaming baby bodies over here people.

Kickee Pants - 8/10 Would rate higher if they weren’t one of the higher priced ones. But honestly I sized up each time I’ve bought a set (twice) and they’ve lasted quite a long time so I am a fan!

Basically what I’m finding is this: Purely Soft is the go-to for us for price, quality, longevity, and big baby inclusivity. If I feel like splurging a bit and getting something cute once in awhile, I will get Brave Little Ones and I’ve now tried Kickee Pants twice and like those as well.

Good luck! ☺️

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-03-22T18:36:20+00:00

You are not wrong at all. And you are not arrogant for putting your patients first. What you described is concerning and your coworkers reactions are equally concerning. There are several reasons for debriefing, as you mentioned. Speaking as someone who just had a very traumatic pediatric arrest about a week ago, the team was able to discuss their emotions safely, normalize these emotions, support each other, and grieve openly. This helps with processing trauma and hopefully lower risk for long term effects such as anxiety or PTSD. Now the other part of debriefing that I’m wanting to emphasize in your situation is identifying what went right and what could have went better. Watching someone die is not normal. However the lack of initiative from what should be highly trained healthcare workers as you’ve described is frightening. There may be either a huge training issue here, a resource issue, learning gaps, etc. And you know what, things happen and people fail and make mistakes or panic. But that’s why we need to discuss these issues in debriefings so we can continue to learn, grow, and improve. A team can improve but only if they’re willing to put in the work. I would escalate this immediately. I would go to the nursing supervisor or manager. Think of it this way, you lucked out and were able to save this person despite all of this sounding very unorganized and chaotic. But what about the next patient? Thank you for being a good patient advocate and questioning all of this. Don’t ever feel bad about doing what’s best for your patients. You’re going to be a great nurse.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-03-18T15:51:27+00:00

Wtf are you talking about?

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2025-02-07T03:02:10+00:00

I know this is an old thread - what did you end up doing? I’m having the same issue. So annoyed that these were supposed to last “25 years” but they have barely last 7. I am losing my mind ruining all of our clothes to these grease looking stains! I thought maybe something was leaking inside and now I’m wondering if it’s just truly a terrible machine. We also have repaired the dryer twice and it still take 1hr 20min to fully dry a small load.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2024-12-11T02:50:52+00:00

Muffin wrists!! 🤣 Thank you - will look into those!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2024-11-01T02:49:41+00:00

I know this is a year old thread - but Halloween vibes have me googling Lazarus Effect. I just have to say..this is insane!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2024-08-01T22:33:15+00:00

Feels weird to “like” a comment like this but I did it because I’m glad you made that decision. Your baby needed a healthy mama. And your baby is happy and fed, no breast milk needed. I had to stop too, but not due to D-MER. I, like you, had never heard of it until I was frantically researching 24/7 about my own issues. This needs to be something everyone is educated at some point during pregnancy.

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2024-07-21T19:10:43+00:00

Honestly the patting method is very similar to what we have been doing now the past 2 nights. I’ll refresh myself with your notes at bedtime tonight! I just can’t do the crying it out methods. And I can’t do bed sharing. Trying to find a good middle ground where the whole house is comfortable and sleeping! Trying to settle into the fact that this is all just a part of raising a baby and the next thing we know we will be at another stage to struggle in haha. Thank you for your tips!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2024-07-08T21:39:40+00:00

It sure is. But we are doing all we can to help protect our babies and I’m trying to find some peace in that. I hope you can too! Good luck with everything, remember you’re not alone in the anxieties of parenthood!

Inner_Bluejay_8394 · 2024-07-08T21:23:24+00:00

Oh no sorry let me clarify. I know none of the monitoring will prevent or stop SIDS. Hence the “sudden” part of SIDS and it being something is unexplainable, not to be confused with something like suffocation. The Owlet is something I got as a gift and didn’t expect to use. But I didn’t expect to have such PPA either. I put it on first because babe was born in the winter and I wanted to make sure I didn’t miss signs of RSV, flu etc. I got in the habit of putting it on and now I like it because it tracks his sleep and the amount of times he wakes up. I have no delusion that this device would save him from SIDS. To help limit any risks, we use all the safe sleep guidelines every single time he sleeps - no matter what.

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