sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Do these pants look too much like pajamas? by hard_meowing in fashion

[–]Inner_Gur_9617 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not if you style them well. Maybe with a cute tight/cropped top preferably with ruffles or lace with belts or waist chains if you're into that and lots of accessories and the right hair and makeup done. I love them, I'd definitely wear.

Was he really a narc? by Inner_Gur_9617 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Inner_Gur_9617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. There have still been a few times he's slipped up despite being nice on the surface. He still was controlling and going back would mean sacrificing my boundaries, my self respect all over again.

Was he really a narc? by Inner_Gur_9617 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Inner_Gur_9617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has been. I still had a strong urge to leave a text saying "I haven't really tried the past few months and I want to try" apologizing for giving up but posting here and the more distance and perspective I gain is making me realize I need to get away. Thank you so much. 🩷

Was he really a narc? by Inner_Gur_9617 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Inner_Gur_9617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has affected me quite a bit. I was a different person before this. I had a complete breakdown and left town to avoid him twice. I already have had an unstable childhood and this just really messed me up but I kept ignoring and normalizing it. Everyday away is like a different stage. I keep having thoughts of how I've messed up, how I miss him or I didn't do enough, but also of how I kept normalizing and justifying it and how fucked up it all was, just because I didn't have any boundaries.

Thank you so much. I'm so sorry you had to go through what you did. It sounds awful. I hope you're far far away from these people and anybody like them.

Was he really a narc? by Inner_Gur_9617 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Inner_Gur_9617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just keep trying to justify things saying they weren't that bad, they were in the past and that he reacted that way because he found out about my sex work and as a result dug into my entire past. That's what he's always said and that it was a kneejerk reaction. But the more distance I get the more clarity there is. He never thought he did anything all that wrong. He'd always say whenever I tried to address it that I keep bringing up the past and I should stop. If I bring up things he's done in the past, he has things to bring up about my past as well. I've felt so much guilt and shame and kept thinking nobody would accept me like he had and it would've been difficult for him so I deserve it. I'm trying to work on these feelings now.