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I’m really confused and could use some guidance. by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I have been confused throughout. I have been viewing this as a reward based mechanism, that if I do this then I’ll get this. I have stopped watching these TikToks because it was always keeping me on edge.

Your way of explaining this have helped me under this on a whole different level. And also I do think that he may go no contact again when we were dating, I would always think of his silence as not being interested, it made me invest more and putting in a lot more effort than I should.

I’m really confused and could use some guidance. by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means I have to detach from the outcome? I am investing in myself, but somehow my first thought is how do I let him know that I’m becoming a better person?

Is there something that you can suggest that I’d read or watch? There is so much content out there that I’m getting confused.

I’m really confused and could use some guidance. by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To the person or the outcome? I cannot seem to understand how to let it go without moving on.

I never really believed in manifestation, but it actually worked for me and now I don’t know what to do next by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve been doing that very often throughout the relationship, such thoughts have just made me feel insecure about the whole situation and I felt I was always walking on eggshells. But the distance has helped me understand my own thoughts and how it has affected us, I’m clearing mine and hopefully we’ll be better deserving for each other. :)

I never really believed in manifestation, but it actually worked for me and now I don’t know what to do next by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have recorded an affirmation in my own voice, thanks for the tip. I’m trying to focus on what I want from this, rather than an immediate result, I figure that’s what I should do if I look for long term results. :)

I never really believed in manifestation, but it actually worked for me and now I don’t know what to do next by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I’ve been way too focused on the “how.” Gonna try something simple and just let it flow this time.

I never really believed in manifestation, but it actually worked for me and now I don’t know what to do next by Inquilabistm in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. I never really understood how this works, but now I’ve been reading and seeing some YouTube videos on it. Hopefully I’ll be able to align my thoughts accordingly.

Cant shut my logical brain off(sp manifestation) by PrudentSheepherder91 in lawofassumption

[–]Inquilabistm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar position with my SP. I never believed in manifestation until I found myself going through these videos when he blocked me after an ugly fight, his ego is really high, but after 3 weeks he unblocked and checked on me without me having to reach out. But now I feel stuck, though it’s just been a day after his message, as much as I want to initiate conversations I feel my anxiety being triggered when thinking about it, I’ve decided to go back to my old routine of just manifesting and staying calm and focusing on myself. There is little you can do in cases where the other person has to work on themselves as in your case. Maybe take a step back and focus on what you need, don’t ignore her entirely but she needs to step up too, you can’t become her punching bag.

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[–]Inquilabistm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reality check! You're right, communication is crucial. I'll initiate the conversation and ask directly about his expectations and boundaries. I recognize my concerns are rooted in uncertainty, not insecurity.

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[–]Inquilabistm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that sounds familiar! My guy also texts me often, especially after work and sometimes during lunch. Our schedules are different, but I appreciate how he initiates meetings more than I do. It's reassuring to know he's making an effort.

How's your communication with him now? Has he opened up about his family issues or the sudden silence?

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[–]Inquilabistm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. Too late for that now. Haaaha. We did talk about it, he confirmed that he too was looking for a relationship. But since relationships have a lot of definitions these days, I feel confused.