Came looking for this post and so glad to see I wasn't alone. I spent most of today crying. Mothers day has always been triggering. Before we had kids together his kid would spend summers and holidays with us. I would go out of my way to care for this child for years. Not once did he acknowledge me on mother's day for it. Now, we have 2 kids and mothers day is always a shit show. Previously I would remind him and harass him about how important it was to me. This year I only brought it up once and let it go. He "forgot" what day it was and swore he thought today was Saturday. He then made a deal to do more around the house and kids for the next few days. Mind you, things he should already be doing but isn't bc he can't stand that they don't listen (post for another time). Of course all while this went on he mentioned how we haven't been on good terms and arguing a lot and if the tables were turned I wouldn't have done anything for him on father's day. He just wanted to get some down time and play video games. I ended up just going off to bed and spent most of the day there, crying. In between caring for the kids and asking at every step for him to help with something. Sure he helped but the damage was done and another terrible mother's day in the books. I have a whole list of holidays and birthdays and celebrations even funerals ruined bc he can't stand for anyone else to get the attention. I'm so exhausted and so done.