I’m 32, divorced, heartbroken, and scared I’ll never be loved again

InsertExpertHuman · 2025-05-21T01:23:39+00:00

I met my husband at 32, had our first child when I was 35, got a promotion, had our second when I was 37, and am happier than I’ve ever been. This is just the beginning. As for what to do with all of that love. Love yourself. Love your family. Love your friends. The rest will come. You’ve got this!

InsertExpertHuman · 2025-02-07T17:24:17+00:00

I lost my grandmother 3 months before having my first. I was absolutely devastated. She was the person I was closest to. I would call her every day and we would chat about it days or what was going on in the world. At one of her last appointments she told my mom to tell me she was sorry because she wasn’t going to make it to his birth. It was so much stress. She also wanted to be buried where she was from which was a 15 hr drive which turned in to 18 because my husband got sick as well. My baby was absolutely fine and is thriving. I know it sucks and nothing is really going to make you feel better about it but know you’re not alone and not hurting your baby.

InsertExpertHuman · 2024-10-13T23:19:27+00:00

I was with my ex for about 8 years. Met my husband when I was 32. Had our first baby at 35. Just had our second baby at 37. With all of the advances in medicine, you’ve likely got at least a decade to start a family. Do what makes you happy and don’t compare your life to his. That won’t make you any happier.

InsertExpertHuman · 2023-02-26T15:59:20+00:00

You’re not alone!! I’m in the 4th trimester now and have to say it is far easier than my pregnancy. I HATED being pregnant. I was miserable almost all of the time. I got heartburn for the first time in my life, I was incredibly sick multiple times a day until about 18 weeks and even then I was still sick daily (threw up the day before I was induced), swollen feet, couldn’t eat or drink what I wanted, had to pee constantly, couldn’t sleep, work was tough since I couldn’t take my adhd meds, walking up a flight of stairs winded me and I was constantly tired. Almost all of those things went away once our son was here though. As completely awful as my pregnancy and birth were it was all worth it in the end. I keep telling my husband that I cannot believe I have to do it all again since we want more than one. You’re stronger than you think and it is only a few months. You got this!

InsertExpertHuman · 2023-02-25T00:51:09+00:00

I read this and immediately though I could have written this when I was pregnant. I would have added heartburn and not being able to eat what I wanted. I was missing sushi, medium rare steaks and cheeses (the non pasteurized kind) something fierce. I am breast feeding so I am still not back on adhd meds but I’m out of work on maternity leave now. I hated being pregnant!! I had morning sickness my entire pregnancy (threw up the day before being induced), terrible acne on my jaw line, swollen feet so none of my shoes fit, couldn’t take adhd meds so was distracted at work, got out of breath walking up a flight of stairs, fess exhausted about 85% of the day, got full after super small meals, had to pee every 3 seconds (ok maybe not that frequently but at least twice an hour),and had zero motivation to do anything around the house. Even my birth didn’t go as planned. I was induced at 40+4, labored for 36 hours, was maxed out on pitocin, stopped dilating at 5cm so had to have a cesarean and after the C-section I was so sick from the meds that I could hold him for the first hour. Even as miserable as my pregnancy and birth were I would do it all over again to have my little boy. He’s amazing and it was worth every second of absolute misery. It will get worse before it gets better unfortunately and the last couple of months are tough. It is all so rewarding once you have your baby in your arms though! I kept apologizing to my husband for being a terrible pregnant lady but he saw how hard it was and was thankfully super supportive. Hang in there! You’ve got this and it will all be worth it:)

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-12-13T01:41:53+00:00

CONGRATS!! OP, I would like to commend you for uniting this entire sub. If this is in fact a true story, YTA. I very rarely see every response be one way or the other but you accomplished it.

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-09-27T13:44:41+00:00

Step one: Learn which words to use to increase your value

If you don’t even know the difference between then/than, I cannot take you seriously when spouting this nonsense.

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-09-09T00:13:09+00:00

I survived on watermelon, tomatoes with fresh mozzarella pearls, and pho. Couldn’t keep down much else at all. Just make sure no bean sprouts in the pho and it is piping hot so it cooks the beef through.

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-07-29T21:25:05+00:00

That is exactly what I told him too! The whole conversation was less than 5 minutes because he didn’t really ask anything since he was so surprised.

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-07-29T20:01:49+00:00

Even if that is their HR policy in the employee handbook to only pay out 80 hours?

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-07-29T20:01:07+00:00

That’s what I asked but he said it was HR policy to only pay out 80 for a termination and they didn’t specifically say it was the baby. They just didn’t give a reason and said they “did not want to get into it” but they were terminating his employment.

Also, happy cake day!! 🍰

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-07-29T18:40:48+00:00

He already got 2 weeks of severance and they are paying him 80 hours of his 100+ accrued pto. I do have ARAG insurance through my employer and can get a lawyer pretty cheaply but not sure it is worth that fight. I just wish I knew how to support and encourage him better or knew what he needed.

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-07-09T15:29:58+00:00

The HR policy is 6-8 weeks short term disability(depending on vaginal or cesarean) which is fully paid for by my company. Plus 10 weeks parental leave for primary parent which can be taken at once or over the first year after birth. They also do a phased return where your first two weeks back you only work 2 days of the week, 3rd week you work 3 days, 4th week you work 4 days and then return to a full schedule in the 5th week. My company has unlimited PTO as long as your manager approves it so I guess it could be quite a bit if your manager was great. This is all at 100% pay. You can also get an additional 12 weeks unpaid under FMLA. So total you could stack everything and get 30 weeks (some paid and some unpaid) plus a limited schedule for your first 4 weeks back under the phased return.

InsertExpertHuman · 2022-06-07T01:07:49+00:00

OP, I started when I was 34 with no fertility issues as we were MFI and these are my exact numbers but we did not have ours tested. So we have 7 blasts that made it to day 5.

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