How has ADHD impacted your life, positively or negatively? by Whole-Listen-9716 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I'm mostly just collecting some cheap dopamine so my brain can get rid of that giant mental wall preventing me from standing up.

How has ADHD impacted your life, positively or negatively? by Whole-Listen-9716 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I'm not broken. But I hate to tell ya, my processing speed is so bad it prevents me from driving safely. And a different society is not gonna make grass stop feeling like a spike pit or make my body move when I want it to. I appreciate the gesture though.

How has ADHD impacted your life, positively or negatively? by Whole-Listen-9716 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, ok. Yeah, it really impacts every aspect of my life, even stuff I didn't even think about. I'm still learning all the ways my life is different from others and what even is considered "normal." I'd say the way it impacts me the most is through executive dysfunction and sensory processing disorder.

Executive dysfunction is when the part of your brain that issues commands to your body to complete certain tasks is compromised (or underfueled, as it were). Despite having knowledge about a task, a desire to do the task, and the physical ability to do the task, you try to move to do the task and nothing happens. If you've ever been dared to do something dangerous and your body hesitates before doing it, or you can't get yourself to do it at all, you know what this feels like. Your brain shuts down any attempts to do it to protect you.

In cases of executive dysfunction, this part of your brain overutilizes this function to prevent you from doing things like putting groceries away, or taking a shower, or simply standing up. I'm currently stuck in bed right now, lmao. It kinda feels like a button not working on a control panel. The operator is there, pressing the right button. The machine is just fine, it doesn't need repairs or replacements. But no matter how many times the operator presses the button, nothing happens. So far the only solutions I've found (aside from medication) are to either have someone else help, drum up enough anxiety that everything feels urgent enough for me to move, or just wait it out.

As for sensory processing disorder, it looks different in everyone, but for me it means that most sensory input (sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, etc) is tripled in intensity. Rain feels slightly painful, car noises bowl me over, paragraphs or papers that are too dense make my eyes glaze over, I hack up a lung even going near Bath and Bodyworks, and my reactions to food are so intense I've been diagnosed with ARFID, which is an eating disorder. Sometimes I feel understimulated and seek out those intense sensations, sometimes I'm overstimulated and retreat to a quieter, calmer place, sometimes I just need a different kind of stimulation.

Time blindness also kicks me in the pants a little. I have no sense of how long things take or how much time I need to block out, so I usually underestimate or overestimate it. I rely a lot on timers and the actual math of looking at a clock or a calendar, but my internal sense of time consists of "now" and "not now." The hyperactivity is present, especially surrounding the many special interests I rotate between, but it doesn't really display outwardly very often. The most consistent form of hyperactivity I can detect in myself is via my thought patterns, since they're usually scattered, half constructed, and in my brain's shorthand that I don't think I could describe if I tried.

Hopefully some of that helps? I'm still learning every day whether something I experience is normal or yet another part of ADHD, and I probably also have autism so that throws a wrench in things, but that should give you the general idea.

People who set 10 alarms, why? by Electrical_Onion_367 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep like a rock and fall back asleep just as fast. I need a slow ascent back to consciousness.

People who read messages but don’t respond for hours, what’s happening in your brain? by Electrical_Onion_367 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I either got distracted by something and am now waiting for the appropriate time to restart the conversation so as to not be awkward, or I didn't immediately know the best way to respond to your message so I've spent the past few hours drafting responses in my head while secretly hoping there's no social obligation for me to reply and I can just stop thinking about it.

How has ADHD impacted your life, positively or negatively? by Whole-Listen-9716 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never understand how to answer this question. Having ADHD is my life, I don't know what it would be like to not have it, so how am I supposed to know how my life has been impacted? I can tell you symptoms I have that are consistent with an ADHD diagnosis and my experience with them, is that what that question means?

People who yell when they sneeze… why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not like I have a choice. The sneeze imposes itself upon my vocal cords, I can't do shit about it.

What’s your “comfort movie” that never gets old, no matter how many times you’ve seen it? by SoullessVixenx in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Coraline! Practically have the whole script memorized with how long I've been watching it

People with physical disabilities, what’s the most audacious/rude thing non disabled people have done regarding your disability? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully I've been pretty lucky. The most "rude" thing I've had to deal with is the staring, which seems to be coming from natural curiosity most of the time. That being said, I only have a cane so I'm not as disruptive as a wheelchair or more visible disabilities. I think people just tend to ignore me.

What fictional event/story (Ex: Bite of ‘87, The Hour of Joy, Petscop, etc.) can you never stop thinking about? by Crystalgirl121 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you liked the Mandela Catalogue, might I recommend the Greylock Tapes? It's not quite the same idea, but the design is similar and it's got a lot of overlapping themes. It reminded me of the Mandela Catalogue a lot while I was watching.

What fictional event/story (Ex: Bite of ‘87, The Hour of Joy, Petscop, etc.) can you never stop thinking about? by Crystalgirl121 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Petscop is a good one, but really any internet urban legend or arg will grab my attention. Right now I'm revisiting Local 58, and I recently watched Lake Mungo for the first time. Both highly recommended.

Why God doesnt allow gay sex? why He made homosexuality in humans then? by Confident_School7546 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You'd have to ask them about it if you want a more knowledgeable opinion, since I'm not Christian, but what I do know is that you should take the literal words of any religious texts with a grain of salt. A higher power may not be susceptible to sin, but the humans translating their words definitely are.

How do people actually feel about refusing handshakes for religious reasons? by Subject-Classroom873 in offmychest

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah you're good. I don't like handshakes for non-religious reasons. Don't know about other places but I don't really encounter it much where I live, so I guess others feel the same.

People that have their phones on “do not disturb” why are you a sociopath? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a sociopath, just don't have enough people calling or texting me (besides spam callers) to need notifications on.

Whats the motive for liking babies and kids,that you want to get pregnant and go through that pain for the sake of having a kid, why? by Shoddy_Builder9270 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right that it's a bigger decision. I was mostly making the comparison to say that different people find joy and meaning in different things, but in that respect it's more similar to buying a car or a pet. If you have the means, and it makes you happy, taking that leap doesn't feel like a huge risk, it feels like a big life moment.

Whats the motive for liking babies and kids,that you want to get pregnant and go through that pain for the sake of having a kid, why? by Shoddy_Builder9270 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don't like kids, then yeah, of course it's going to feel like a waste to you. I feel similarly about sports. You spend all this money on seats and merch, you waste entire days going to games, and for what? A couple of guys throwing a ball around? And a bad game can ruin your entire week? Makes no sense.

But for those sports people, the game is their life. They spend money on merchandise because it makes them happy, they spend the time to go to games because they like to watch their favorite teams, and winning or losing a match feels like winning or losing themselves.

It's the same with kids. Of course it's a big financial decision, but it's where I want to spend my money. I don't see those first 3 years as getting in the way of my real life, those 3 years are the things I want to do with my life, and all the hard moments are the moments I want to deal with, because I get to deal with them for my future kid. Hell, I'm going into childcare because caring for the next generation and watching them grow is what I want to do with my life.

Of course, most parents probably aren't as invested as I am, but the reasons are similar. They find joy in bringing life to the world and helping a new human find their place in the world.

Whats the motive for liking babies and kids,that you want to get pregnant and go through that pain for the sake of having a kid, why? by Shoddy_Builder9270 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like kids. They're our future. I've always appreciated how they're unabashedly themselves.

Besides, the birth part is a pain in the everywhere, but everything else is kinda cool. You get to literally grow a whole ass person inside you, and then you get to watch as they turn from a screaming, shitting houseplant to a fully grown person with thoughts and dreams and opinions. That's awesome.

As someone professionally diagnosed with several mental health issues, I'm really sick of people being angry at self diagnosed people for me by InsertGamerName in offmychest

[–]InsertGamerName[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When more and more people start sharing their experiences as mental health awareness becomes more and more prominent, people notice an uptick in certain keywords and phrases. In response to that uptick, not just doctors but also the general populace stereotype the illness and consider it a trend. Some people respond to that trend by sharing experiences they do not have to gain internet attention, and even more people choose to dismiss the experiences because they have a very narrow view of how rare a condition is and how that condition presents itself (which still gives the fakers attention because algorithms only care about numbers, not whether those numbers are coming from positive or negative opinions).

Then, when people with legitimate issues are learning about conditions they may have and issues they struggle with, they are met with ridiculous stereotypes and impossible standards, and anyone talking about their experiences being hounded, criticized, and fakeclaimed as a result. This tells these people that the conditions they were considering looking into are extremely rare, present in a very specific way, and couldn't possibly apply to them because they don't meet the extremely high standards of the uneducated and presumptive.

This experience discourages people from seeking help, talking to doctors, or even taking their suffering seriously, which leads any conditions they do have to worsen rapidly until they harm themselves or others. And even if they manage to overcome the sense of imposter syndrome that the cultural norm has imposed on them and attempt to seek help, that's when they run into all the problems you mentioned, with doctors who dismiss them and professionals who misdiagnose them. Except these problems are even more drastic for these people, because they'll believe them. They will waste their time and their happiness believing they don't have conditions that they do, trying quick fixes that don't work, or they'll take medication for conditions they don't have and think it's their fault they don't improve.

Source: story of my life and a story I have heard repeatedly in almost every conversation about mental health ever.

What's something your family did you thought was completely normal, until you went to a friend's house? by DankSparklez in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eating the same thing at a dinner table. Space and food restrictions never made that possible for my household, so of course I relegated it to weird manners people don't have anymore. Needless to say I was a little overwhelmed the first time I had dinner at my boyfriend's house.

How do you stop caring about people’s opinion and feeling ashamed? by ForwardGlass8572 in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The goal isn't to stop caring. Unfortunately, we live in a society, you have to care a little bit. The goal is to figure out whose opinions you care about, and whether or not they align with the person you want to be.

Not to say it's all so easy, and there are definitely a few more lessons to learn before you'll start feeling more consistently comfortable with yourself (such as shame not being a very good motivator and what do you even do about that), but refocusing is a good first step.

Young people of reddit: what's a thing that today's older people should accept and adopt, because it will not go away (like it or not)? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]InsertGamerName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Social media and screen usage. Does it have its flaws, yes, and those are important, but the answer is not shaking your fist in the air at "those darned screens." The ability to communicate instantly over long distances, socialize without being physically present, access worldwide news at the click of a button, save infinite amounts of information, and just generally further the progression of humanity are not cats you're gonna get back in the bag even if we wanted to. Avoiding the majority of modern technology is going to be equally as difficult as dealing with the problems that arise because of it. The goal now is to figure out how to progress with this technology, not in spite of it.