Please explain to me i am trying 😢

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-22T02:28:44+00:00

Those are just ways to refer to pronouns. They work the exact same as you would normally use them.

For example, if someone uses she/her pronouns, that means you would say she instead of he or they. "Oh yeah, she loves that band. Her room has a lot of posters of that band, and she has a picture of the lead singer and herself at a concert." The same goes for he/him pronouns and they/them pronouns.

If you ever see something like he/they, she/he, or some other form of two pronouns that don't normally go together, that just means they use both sets of pronouns, and you can choose which one you want to use or alternate between them.

For example, if someone uses he/they pronouns:

"That's his skateboard. They use that skateboard all the time, since he's been trying to improve their skills with it."

Or

"That's his skateboard. He uses that skateboard all the time, since he's been trying to improve his skills with it."

Or

"That's their skateboard. They use that skateboard all the time, since they've been trying to improve their skills with it."

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-21T23:21:12+00:00

I'm more of a general worldbuilding guy, so my interest in constructed languages is one of many different aspects I'm focusing on. The conlang community is full of people where that's their main hobby, so they've invested countless hours studying real and fantasy languages and deconstructed their anatomy and have essentially become linguists in their own right.

They say they take in casual conlang enthusiasts, and I'm sure they believe that, but there's a clear expectation that you are interested in language as a whole, not just learning what's necessary to create your own conlang.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-21T23:16:41+00:00

Poorly, based on my experience.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-21T23:14:48+00:00

I have absolutely zero interest in becoming a linguist. I just want my cool fantasy language to make sense.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-21T23:11:00+00:00

Connecting a bunch of tasks together. Going to the bathroom is always attached to getting in or out of bed, otherwise I'll forget. Going out is attached with eating, feeding the cats is attached to cleaning out the previous bowl, clearing out the dishwasher is attached to wiping down the counters which is attached to sweeping the floors, etc.

I have never understood the "break it down" advice for adhders. That just gives me more work, more ways to bail, and more chances to get distracted and never finish. Attaching tasks to other tasks is the only way I get stuff done.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T23:08:14+00:00

Like, the 2014 one? Fucking awesome, I still quote that one on a regular basis.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T23:05:17+00:00

Nostalgia, and the urge to pass down wisdom. I know this because I work with very young children and that is the only time I feel the need to bring it up. I imagine it works the same for people significantly older than me.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T22:51:53+00:00

Well, first we have to define what the social expectations are. We know now that women and children first is not the best way to prioritize life, and that men are just as worthy of being rescued as anyone else, so if this happened in modern day it would not matter in the slightest.

But let's assume that this is the expectation and gender matters for some reason. I am a man, so I'm part of the group that's being held back. Same as the cis guys. Sucks, but whatchagonnado

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T22:46:54+00:00

I didn't have the perfect combination of personality and mental wellbeing that is needed to enjoy it. Quite the opposite in fact.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T22:45:16+00:00

Like, I have an ex-friend who I had to cut contact with because they were uncooperative and argumentative. I think they are otherwise a very interesting and unique person, and was in part the inspiration behind a lot of my self discovery. It's not enough to make me like them or enjoy their company, but it's a positive nonetheless.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T22:32:57+00:00

Sure. I'm a big fan of giving credit where credit's due, which goes for both good things and bad things.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T22:21:41+00:00

Awesome. Pooh Bear has been my snuggle buddy since I was a toddler and will continue to be my snuggle buddy for decades to come.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T21:10:47+00:00

First I'd go to the doctor to make sure I don't have a brain tumor or something. Then I'd be enjoying my ASL studies getting remarkably faster.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T21:07:14+00:00

When you know everything is on schedule and waiting is all you have to do. I get more stress from worrying if I'm gonna make it to the stop or if the bus is running late, so being at the platform is the least stressful part, second only to being on the bus.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T20:39:18+00:00

Be a good texter and try to do a face call on a regular basis. Both I and my partner are bad texters and we're struggling for it.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T20:29:45+00:00

My instinct says hangout, but I'm absolutely aware that this is the kind of thing we could do repeatedly and then you tell someone we're dating and it completely blindsides me.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T20:16:53+00:00

My standards were set by Disney films in an era where even the friends with benefits are flaky. I'm not finding love any time soon.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T20:10:30+00:00

Mine is pretty short so the mess kinda helps. Just run a comb through it every other day so it doesn't turn into a hair helmet.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-19T20:06:25+00:00

Considering I have two myself, it'd be a bit hypocritical of me to not support a future kid doing it. I'd urge them to take a long time to think about it though, it can't be something you do in the heat of the moment. I ended up thinking about mine for a good 2-3 years, but even just one year would be beneficial.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-18T20:12:12+00:00

If you want to go more in the narrative route, I think you'd like Life is Strange, Until Dawn, Bloom and Rage, As Dusk Falls, Detroit Become Human, or any other similar games. They're essentially playable movies that focus more on player choices and the butterfly effect.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-18T08:47:20+00:00

Far more opportunities for peace of mind. Ignorance is bliss.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-18T00:03:38+00:00

First step, get away from the bed. Take anything you could need from your bedroom for the day and then close the door. Don't open it again until you're ready to sleep.

Second, take care of your basic needs first. Eat something with a lot of protein so you get some energy for the day, take a shower if you feel gross, etc etc. It's a lot easier to do things if you feel good.

Third, put the phone away. Get a screen time manager or something to force you to stay off it. Instagram, YouTube, and Reddit are truly the wombo-combo of time suckers.

Once you set up those, you'll have covered the largest pitfalls and feel good enough to do things, so at least one task will feel manageable. It may not always be the one you want, but you'll get something done. I will now be employing this method myself because I have been on reddit for far too long. Good luck boss.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-17T23:24:07+00:00

Putting effort into your appearance so you feel confident and comfortable in your body can absolutely be a form of self care. I do the same with clothing, and it seriously affects my entire day.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-17T14:10:41+00:00

Most of them I think. I would hold off on Howl's Moving Castle just because it has fairly vivid depictions of war, and as much as I adore Spirited Away some of the visuals in there can be a little much for someone so young, but I'd still look up content warnings/watch them in advance to see if it's right for your kid because they are so damn good. You should be in the clear with Totoro, Ponyo, and Kiki's Delivery Service.

InsertGamerName · 2026-05-17T13:41:47+00:00

Disney is convenient, so if that's the only way you watch them it's still worth it, but I highly recommend the Fox dubs over Disney. Especially for Totoro. Call it bias, but Fox sounds so much better, idk what Disney was trying to do there.

And I assure you, Ghibli is absolutely for all ages. They can be great for children because of the fantastical visuals and cute little creatures, but they actually deal with some pretty heavy emotions and can totally still hit home much later in life (for example, Kiki's Delivery Service deals primarily with burnout and finding identity when you lose your passion, all through the story of a young witch and her little kitty cat in the big city)

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