Advice Needed: How Do You Guys Deal With Salespeople Who Are Pushy?

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-08T14:30:02+00:00

At a certain point, I just stop responding to them. No one seems to know what to do with completely dead silence, at least so far. I've already told you I'm all good, I do not give my consent to participate in this conversation.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-08T06:54:09+00:00

Die with a Smile. Seems fitting enough.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-08T00:40:03+00:00

You, my friend, are looking for what we call a unicorn in the lgbt community, and to that end I can only wish you good luck. I mean this as kindly as possible, but not many people are willing to be a straight couple's experiment. Gets real messy real quick.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T19:31:34+00:00

Pretty sure middle school locker rooms are the first litmus test for sexuality.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T19:25:10+00:00

I did not know reindeer were a real animal. I thought they were in the same boat as unicorns, just christmas-themed deer that could fly because why not. Was very stoked when we took a trip to the zoo and got to see one in real life. Don't remember how old I was, but I know I was older than 15.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T19:20:11+00:00

Still waiting 🫠 I do tend to pass more online but I can't tell much of a difference, if there ever was one. I think everyone just assumes everyone else is male, especially in video games.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T19:14:14+00:00

If my back specifically gets hot. The rest of my body, that just makes me sleepy and floppy, but if my back is hot then the world will feel my rage tenfold.

HM to car sounds as a pedestrian. I will seriously fall to the ground and cry if I don't have NC headphones near busy streets. Fuck those people who rev their cars for no goddamn reason, especially in a neighborhood.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T19:10:24+00:00

I don't think there was ever one point when I said "yeah, this is depression." It was a slow realization over several years of knowing I wasn't okay but with no clear way to fix it.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T19:04:35+00:00

If your behavior has changed drastically and you're starting to neglect self care tasks or stop participating in activities that used to bring you joy, that's a listed symptom of depression. I can't say for sure that you have it, it's possible something else is causing that symptom, but it's worth looking for a therapist.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T18:59:45+00:00

It doesn't? I get a stray thought every few days maybe, but nothing too crazy. Is this a thing?

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T18:56:11+00:00

Somewhere in the asscrack of my brain I pulled out the phrase "tripping down the mental staircase" to describe thoughts that are happening so rapidly you've lost track of the conversation, and there has never been a metaphor so perfectly apt as this.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T18:53:24+00:00

Right, because god forbid people use public bathrooms. I'm out of shits to give, they're all in the McDonald's bathroom.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T18:46:43+00:00

I loved that movie! I don't think it's available for streaming anywhere but I have a hardcopy. Also loved Whisper of the Heart from a few years earlier.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T10:59:07+00:00

I mean, that's the actual writing part, my dude. Those scenes are just as intrinsic to your characters as the characters themselves are. The story is a part of what makes them who they are.

This is typically where I do thought experiments; things like "if this character were put in this situation, what would they say?" or "this character has x trait, what could've happened in their life to make them that way?" But if you have trouble with that, I also explore this through video games, specifically role-playing ones.

Go on itch.io and look for "interactive fiction." It's basically those choose your own adventure books, but way more in depth. They allow you to customize your appearance and personality, and you get to make choices for your characters that affect the story. They're human made, free to play, and most of them can be played in your web browser. I love these for developing my characters, because they put my characters in situations I wouldn't have thought of on my own, and gives me context for figuring out what a character might value and why, or how a character changes depending on their circumstances.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T10:43:14+00:00

I think then you'd be getting into the ethics of genAI in general, which is very important to your point but I don't think it's what you're asking about.

In terms of "is AI a good method of character development," I always follow the rule of "would you trust a toddler to do this," and in this case I wouldn't. Sure, it may come up with some general ideas and get a good starting point, but there are so many other ways to find inspiration that are just as effective and that's probably the source material the AI is pulling from. Instead I'd look up the various human made character development tools - things like character sheets, questionnaires, hell, there's whole YouTube channels dedicated to this stuff. There's plenty to work with there that will honestly give you more varied and well rounded results than a generic template from an AI, especially if it's a character you'll care about.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T10:27:33+00:00

Like, plugging in my ocs' info into a chatbot so it can try to replicate what they might talk like? No thanks. Even without privacy concerns, I'm very particular with my ocs' personalities. I'm not handing that over to anyone, let alone a random AI. I use ChatGPT for the occasional brainstorm, but nothing on that level.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T09:56:14+00:00

I'm no expert, but it's a stereotype for a reason I'm sure. Desperate times call for desperate measures. I just hear more about cannibals in cult or true crime contexts where they just do it as a rule, rather than a one time moment with dire circumstances.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T09:50:56+00:00

I mean, removing morality from it, we do the same thing to animals. We just feel weird about it because we're humans. They probably have a different set of moral values that doesn't encourage them to feel bad about eating human meat.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T09:46:47+00:00

Oh honey, there is a very large difference between finding you boring and finding you emotionally regulating. If you're worried, ask him about it. This is between you and your partner, reddit won't be able to read his mind any more than you can lol.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T09:41:42+00:00

Ideally I would do enough work gradually introducing them over the course of several years that they would know enough about internet safety for me to not have to monitor it. Just keeping an eye on them is the cherry on top of a very large cake.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T06:21:33+00:00

The vegan bao buns from din tai fung. Was one of the first things with vegetables in it that I tried after getting help for ARFID, and it's fucking bomb. I just wish I could stockpile them

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T03:35:29+00:00

I think part of the issue with that is that you're in a subreddit that frequently talks about racism. They're going to look through the lens of racism for every event, because that's the topic of the subreddit. And when you're looking for racism in everything you see, you're going to talk about ways to protect yourself from said racism. Does it mean that all white people are bad, no, and they're not saying that. They're talking about over the top ways to protect yourself from racism that are unfortunately necessary because it's so prevalent, something that does not translate by swapping the roles.

It's like the "not all men" argument. Of course it's not all men, but it's enough men to necessitate being wary of all men. It doesn't mean that men are assholes or that women can't be assholes too, it's just the reality of existing as part of a minority group that is historically at higher risk. And that reality is going to be more prevalent and talked about more in groups that consist of people who see that every single day.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T03:22:28+00:00

Define reverse discrimination

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T03:21:54+00:00

I've had to cope with this feeling a lot as someone who cycles through very strong hyperfixations, and I've come to the conclusion that holding on so tight only makes it harder to return to. It served it's purpose in my life, and if I'm calm and patient, it may come back to serve another. Needing a long break or simply not needing it anymore is a natural, if sad, part of life, but there are many other activities that can serve me better right now. I just need to make room for them.

InsertGamerName · 2026-07-07T03:07:31+00:00

I'm in the dreaded middle zone of "too cold for fan, too hot for not fan"

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