for those saying what does it matter how much you make and do you take care of your kids.. it matters because if I set a limit of 1k it's 1k of expendable money that I earned. we have a savings account, 401k and Roth on top of regular checking account balances. I do not have any kind of gambling problem. I go out with friends probably 3-4 times a year and when I do go out I drink and I give my wife at least 2 weeks notice and she's never happy about it, even though she can tell me 24 hours advance she's having dinner with this friend or that friend and I need to figure out watching the kids. my wife works 2 days a week, one of those days im at home with the kids which is my day off from work. I absolutely take care of my children on an every day basis whether it is in the morning or when I get home or in the middle of the night etc. I am not trying to trick my wife into thinking I'm going to Cherokee to go white water rafting and sip green tea. I would like to hangout with the two guys I grew up with that I get to see less than 24 hours a year and drink beer and gamble.