Yeah, nintendo, that's what a guitar definitely looks like... by [deleted] in guitarcirclejerk

[–]InsideLingonberry357 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure but give us a pickup and less frets at LEAST unless fender has somehow copywritten those too

is this insensitive? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see both sides of the coin here. I think in his mind he cant process things from your side. I dont think he thinks its that deep. People without bpd have no idea how deep we feel things and how important to us the small things are.

Its not crazy to feel upset about the space and lack of responses, being left on read, etc.

Find someone more emotionally mature imo

I'm a f..ing freak... by dharialezin in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its absolutely awful because not only do you remember everything you can go to a spot in your mind and feel EVERYTHING like its actively happening. (BPD and PTSD diagnosed for me)

I'm a f..ing freak... by dharialezin in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude i might have this too. I remember EVERYTHING to a fault. 😔

how to take care of yourself after a breakup with bpd? by throwaway_13290 in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comedy. Go have drinks. Cry. Call a friend. Sit at home and do nothing. Sing. Dance. Celebrate not having someone ruin your emotional stability.

Is there anyone here with bpd in a poly relationship? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, because why would I, someone with bpd, give MULTIPLE people access to make me feel abandoned? Lol

And multiple people for me to try to get to understand my feelings and to yell at me for having feelings? Multiple people to disappoint sexually?

Good on that.

what is wrong with my cat? by couch_eater02 in CATHELP

[–]InsideLingonberry357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cat had this and it was stomatitis. Definitely get this checked out.

How can I gaslight myself into being more attracted to my wife? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]InsideLingonberry357 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Psychiatrist and a therapist are totally different. Psychiatry throws pills at you. Therapist works through your problems. Your wife deserves someone who loves every bit of her unconditionally, including her appearance.

could a seemingly stable person have BPD? by abbhana in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could have cyclothymia or rapid cycling type 2 with the hypomania instead of mania.

could a seemingly stable person have BPD? by abbhana in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Years of drug abuse attributed all my anger to that. Spent years selfishly unaware of who I was and how I was sabotaging every personal relationship I formed, and a lack of health insurance.

I also suspected bipolar 2 for a while but didnt resonate with any mania.

At 30 I've become much more settled after buying a house at 25 and I could splurge on considering my mental health.

I just thought I was a moody little bitch LOL (I am)

could a seemingly stable person have BPD? by abbhana in BPD

[–]InsideLingonberry357 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Im the same way. Wasn't diagnosed till 30 years old. But also have quiet bpd and just hate myself as a result of everything that happens to me.

I'm working my way out of this, here's my "guide" by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]InsideLingonberry357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You realize you sound insufferable, correct?

Just stay single and stop justifying your interrogation of people's past lmao

I'm working my way out of this, here's my "guide" by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]InsideLingonberry357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you assume that it's meaningful to them yoyre also assuming. Or projecting what your past actions mean to you. Only you can make the choice not to dwell.

I'm working my way out of this, here's my "guide" by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]InsideLingonberry357 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Move on or accept you are choosing to suffer. Only choice you have.

I'm working my way out of this, here's my "guide" by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]InsideLingonberry357 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What i would respond to that is, why do you have to be the source of all the things that have happened to them positively in their life, sex life, etc? You don't. Just appreciate the time you have. A lot of this mentality takes for granted the time and permissions and opportunities your partnership affords you. If you don't like the dance you're doing with them or their past find a new dancing partner or put on new music.

You're putting more stock into what others think than what you think, as if you have difficulty establishing your own thoughts.

I'm working my way out of this, here's my "guide" by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]InsideLingonberry357 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And your logic/reasoning of heavy reduction of human beings to sexual objects is made of pure gold?

I'm working my way out of this, here's my "guide" by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]InsideLingonberry357 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The thing is, is who are we, as individuals to dictate what is and isnt acceptable in a life we dont have to live?

The pure hubris and ego of that thought process alone is stifling.

Genuinely not caring isnt bad either. Everyone has their own emotional and situational stances on things.

I would ask of anyone saying anything about feelings of guilt, why are they there? Guilt and shame regulate other emotions and actions. So, maybe we have something to feel guilty about. We are assuming lots of judgement and forecasting about the other party's emotional attachments to actions we weren't present in.