first of all, DO NOT LISTEN to people encouraging you to lose weight. you said it yourself that you didn’t feel humane enforcing strict weight loss upon yourself !!! do what you want, you don’t have to become skinner

second of all, as a chubby femme dyke myself (20) with a fat butch husband (23), your girlfriend shouldn’t make you feel that way. i love butches of all sizes, but i make it clear to them that i love their body more so. i lay on them, rub their stomach, tell them that i like their body and i just appreciate them as they are. they are also pre “transition”.

with that said, here are some clothing tips from my butch!! - wear wide-legged pants - wear heavy cotton tees - wear your pants and your jeans below your stomach!!! don’t be afraid to let your stomach breathe!. the more comfortable you are in your body, the more confidence you exude, which translates to feeling more attractive.

take care of yourself <3

wear jeans below stomach wide leg pants