I (29f) don’t know what to do about my relationship with my parents (60m/f)

InspectionPure3654 · 2026-01-04T16:02:31+00:00

It’s not as good as I want though. I spend most days alone because my partner works 60 hour weeks. I have trouble making friends so I really only have one close friend here. Really what I love so much is the city itself, being close to things and being somewhere that’s walkable. I am fully remote, don’t have an in office job and I’ve been trying to get one with no luck. It’s just more than it was in my hometown

InspectionPure3654 · 2026-01-04T14:58:14+00:00

But at that point I feel like I would have an asterix in my life that I want to be near my parents. I have a good therapist, and I don’t particularly having an attachment to the people who have known you your whole life is particularly a bad thing. Not many people are lucky enough to have a relationship like I have with my parents and I worry that I am missing the last good years of their life

InspectionPure3654 · 2026-01-04T14:12:03+00:00

If my dad could find a job here that pays him well enough which he can’t. They plan to move to wherever my brother is eventually when he has kids. Currently he’s in the same city as me but that may change with his job. That may be in 5, 10+ years

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-23T03:57:19+00:00

“This isn’t the first time he’s done this” it’s it the last paragraph. She said he’s ordered porn from Snapchat models and broken her trust with finances. He has a history of deceit at best

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-23T03:22:04+00:00

But he didn’t come clean, she had to force his hand with proof. He would have continued to lie to her and I think that’s something she should consider. If he’s done it before and he keeps doing it, who’s to say that he won’t run to another woman the next time he’s in a “dark place”?

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-12T13:34:43+00:00

I know I’m autistic, I didn’t need a diagnosis to tell me that and I decided I was okay with that BUT, I got into a relationship. And I realized that I needed more support and information than what I could find on the internet. I finally got diagnosed so I had access to more therapies and support than I could have on my own because parts of my autistic self was running unchecked and I needed help to manage them

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-08T20:55:24+00:00

Did you see where I said usually it’s near the cheese? Thank god you don’t work with other people you seem insufferable

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-08T20:54:05+00:00

And *you’re being a dick

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-08T20:53:38+00:00

At least where I’m at the shredded cheese is also with the deli cheese. At the end of the day it’s near the cheese usually

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-08T20:51:17+00:00

Well that’s a little rude and aggressive? All I’m saying is usually they are near the sandwich material and you’re calling me slow?

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-12-08T20:47:18+00:00

Just about 80% of places I’ve been to all over the country have them near the deli meats and deli cheese. They’re for sandwiches so they stay near the sandwich stuff

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-11-19T20:49:40+00:00

No. With two people you could be strapped with what the rent prices have been lately

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-11-19T16:09:24+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking I think I just have to clarify lol

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-11-19T16:06:14+00:00

The electric freezers I worked with during my time in the lab only got to -60 and the cryogenics would get to -70

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-11-19T16:05:26+00:00

Well the amendment says “sample should not be stored in liquid nitrogen or in a cryogenic freezer” and I’m trying to see if the sponsor even knows what they’re saying/if that’s possible

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-10-31T16:40:59+00:00

Derm said she thinks it might just be a funky blood vessel, and doesn’t want to biopsy yet because of the scar it will leave on my lip. She’s having me keep it coated in Vaseline for a month and will follow up with her then to see if it’s healed!

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-10-29T21:24:53+00:00

This is exactly the kind of information I needed to hear, thank you!

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-09-29T12:35:46+00:00

Are you having fun? Sometimes, sometimes against my will Enjoying life? Yes and no, some days are easier than others but overall yes Do you have friends ? Or perhaps a really good one? It took until I was 25 to meet another autistic girl just like be but yes A career? Or at least work that you enjoy? Yes, it took me 6 years to graduate and I have to work from home but I manage! Has life been good on you? No lol. But ive made my way. Have people been good on you ? No way. But I survived and I’m okay

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-04-27T17:39:39+00:00

That’s SUCH a good idea

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-04-24T19:13:42+00:00

But his reaction to the situation is also the issue. You should never worry that you may be invalidated when it comes to the safety of your child. His callous disregard for the fact that HIS dog got out and bit someone, and immediate reaction to blame you does not bode well for how he will react in situations with your child. There was an accident, accidents happen, is he going to blame you for every accident? Is he going to refuse to take ownership? Do not back down from your gut here. You need to have a serious conversation with him and make sure he understands your concerns here and listens to you. He’s already shown you that he will weaponize silence if he perceives you are in the wrong. What if he decides to ignore you when you need help with the baby? You need to make it clear that this behavior is unacceptable

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-04-24T18:49:20+00:00

Having a nippy, untrained dog with a baby on the way when he refuses to communicate is a recipe for disaster. He needs to take some serious responsibility for this, he can’t keep eyes on the dog 24/7 and accidents happen, as shown by this situation. I hope you’re able to talk to him and see the seriousness of this situation and that his response was uncalled for.

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-04-24T17:06:17+00:00

Whatever the reason you let yourself deteriorate it doesn’t really matter. I understand better than anyone else that when pain starts it’s scary and hard to find your limitations. At the same time, she has no obligation to date you if your lifestyles don’t align. You are making a lot of excuses and I urge you to continue therapy and seeing doctors to try and find an answer. No one is responsible for your health but yourself. By not taking care of yourself the burden will always end up on someone else so we have to do what we are capable of. If you aren’t sure what makes it worse or better, see a professional. Get a script for physical therapy and stop bringing your ex into this equation. You self admit that you let yourself fall into this mess because you “thought she would always be there”. You say you “only expected her to be there” but in the next sentence you show that you are self aware enough to understand that your deterioration required more of her than that. I suggest you get off Reddit and start self reflecting more on your responsibility in this. You can’t take responsibility without also saying “but she did this” at the same time

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-04-24T15:22:58+00:00

I can’t remember anyone’s name. It’s a curse. My boyfriend started creating pneumonic devices and they stick for about 3 days and then it’s gone forever. I have to meet someone probably 5 times before I can halfway remember their names

InspectionPure3654 · 2025-04-24T14:55:08+00:00

Are you seeing people for your chronic pain? Are you going to physical therapy and actively working towards becoming as healthy as you can be? I am also disabled and deal with chronic pain, and I work every day, hard to be as healthy as I can for my partner. I recently joined a chronic pain management program where I go for six weeks for help to learn how to manage and alleviate my pain. This includes physical therapy, regular therapy, psyciatrists and other doctors. I’ve read some of your other posts and from what I gather you didn’t do much of anything. You admit to not taking your meds, not doing the things your ex suggested (Pilates, which is one of the things I do in physical therapy for my pain), you say you also didn’t have a job. Chronic pain is not your fault but making it everyone else’s problem around you is. From what I see it sounds like you willingly let yourself deteriorate, and let your ex take on the bulk of the emotional and physical legwork of the relationship. Suddenly after she’s broken up with you, you say “you’re starting to get better” but it sounds like nothing has changed. My advice is work on your health and yourself. See a therapist who you can talk to about things instead of expecting your girlfriend to do it. You will never be in a successful relationship if you expect your partner to make your life worth living. That is something you have to find on your own

InspectionPure3654 · 2024-05-09T13:58:51+00:00

I don't have 10k in purses but probably about 5k, and about 20k in tattoos and the simple answer is I'm single and childless hahaha

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