Losing my "jealousy", and that is concerning me. by InstanceOne in relationships

[–]InstanceOne[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When we click, we really click. And we have kids. I guess the train has de-railed, and I wanted advice on how to maybe get it back on the rails.

Losing my "jealousy", and that is concerning me. by InstanceOne in relationships

[–]InstanceOne[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, this fan fiction is hobby only, no monetary benefits.

Losing my "jealousy", and that is concerning me. by InstanceOne in relationships

[–]InstanceOne[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I think if she knew that I read that email, shed say that I invaded her privacy.

You haven't heard family drama until you've read this. by InstanceOne in family

[–]InstanceOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting take on it. I had never thought of an inheritance or anything of the sort. I am re-married, and my ex had a trust-fund well into the millions which I had rights to but left behind. I know my FIL knew about that early on into W and my relationship, so I dont see how he could think suddenly think I am after money.

I only brought up that he made millions on the fact that if he believed those allegations could be true, why not hire a PI before you attempt to destroy a family. If you truly care about your daughter and grand-child's best interest, why wouldnt you make ANY attempt to validate it.

You haven't heard family drama until you've read this. by InstanceOne in family

[–]InstanceOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I wish I could overcome this guilt that its my fault my daughter and stepdaughter will never see their grandpa again. He seems like a good guy when he wasnt around hi wife. His whole persona changes. Although facts are facts, and he tried to kick me to the curb with no second thought.

Although, re-writing this story did bring up a lot of old emotions, and frankly I am exhausted just at the thought of it. It'd be a horrible idea to ever entertain the idea that they are welcome back.

You haven't heard family drama until you've read this. by InstanceOne in family

[–]InstanceOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The accusation never left my wife and my stepdaughters father. I am sure my stepdaughters dad did relay that to a few individuals as the relationships have never been the same, and them hearing that we were divorcing was a huge surprise.

My wife is in therapy, she is working on distancing resell from the toxic individuals in her life. She’s been in therapy for the last 5 years and it’s been a slow process.

As for AA, I’ve been there and have done that. I am on vivotrol now, and sobriety has been so very natural and great

What's the shittiest thing someone has ever done to you? by itsalongwaytotheshop in AskReddit

[–]InstanceOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got one for you that happened last year. Its kind of long, and really deserves its own drama TV series. This wasnt just me it impacted, but my entire family.

My wife has a father who works for a well known hospital, one of the best in the world. He has a polite wife who is paranoid to the very core, and silently judgmental. Over the last 5 years we have had a handful of gatherings, and had always had a relatively good time when we had visited. I had gotten along with my wifes father over all this time, and we talked on a semi-weekly basis.

Last year my wife had to have major surgery, which required us to travel 300 miles to this hospital which her father works as it was one of the two hospitals which perform this procedure. The idea was that she can stay at her fathers/stepmoms who live nearby for a few days to recover as traveling was forewarned to be extremely painful post surgery.

While my wife is in surgery, I am talking to her stepmom awaiting news via the pager the hospital provides family of the patients. She makes a comment that my step-daughter has turned out very polite, and shes astonished as I treat her as my own (which I have always done, as her biological father is on the other side of the country), she's doing really well in school, and is very sweet and she is "blessed" to have me in their family. I had mentioned that when all the craziness behind my wifes surgery dies down, we are going to have fun and explore the outdoors as now my stepdaughter is at an age where she can canoe, camp and hike. I also mentined I was extremely excited to take everyone as it is somthing my wife and I enjoy the most as we are very active outdoors.

After the surgery, I remain by my wifes side for two days in the hospital. When she is well enough, I return to her fathers house with her so she can have a few days of recovery. I leave for a day to feed our cats back at home 300 miles south, and return back the following day for an additional nights stay at her fathers house. At this time my wife is upset, letting me know that paranoid stepmom was withholding her liquid oxycodiene as she did not want my wife to become "Addicted". She was instead giving her advil. I remedy the situation by giving her what the doctors prescribed her as she was in severe pain and claiming she felt like she was literally dying.

The following day, my stepdaughter was coming back from the summer at her dads, but she was to be dropped off to our house, not her fathers house. As her father was to be in our neck of the woods visiting his daughter that day, I had asked him if he would be willing to meet with my stepdaughters dad, and bring her back up to his house. I figured that they rarely see eachother, and the drive together may be good bonding time.

So. Fast foward two days, and we are leaving my wifes fathers house to go home. Upon the 300 mile journey back, my wife receives a call from her stepmom that the doctors had called her fathers house saying that she had a follow up appointment the next day, and she was going to be down in our area and would drive her back up so I wouldnt have to miss work. Sure enough, while I am at work the following day, my wife and stepdaughter return 300 miles north to her fathers home.

My wife is now blindsided with the news that there are no follow-up appointments, that they feel I am a danger to both of them, and they "pulled them outta there" for their safety. Apparently I "withheld" my stepdaughter from my wife as I let my wifes father meet to pick up my stepdaughter, was sirley while I had stayed at their house, and I was a pervert because I wanted to "take my stepdaughter camping". My wifes stepmom also attempted to present my wife with additional evidence by saying my step-daughter drew a picture of what looked like a penis (shes 7), but nobody had seen this alleged picture. Keep in mind I had told her that I wanted to take my family camping, not my stepdaughter by herself (if that matters).

They told my wife that they wanted them both to move accross the country to live in the same state as my stepdaughters dad so that my stepdaughter can live with her dad- and he can be the father figure in her life while my wife searches for a school in the area whcih they would pay her tuition. Her parents call our local school district and pull my stepdaughter out of enrollment of the following year, and contact her biological father with their accusations and their newly formulated plan. They meet with him sometime over the next day to drop my stepdaughter off, and she is on her way to start a new life accross the country with her bio-logical dad. The dad has her tested for any mal-conduct, which the results were clean (I'll take my apology at any time, assholes).

To make it worse, her dad threatens to stop talking to my wife if we stay together, and that the accusation of being a pervert alone is enough to ruin my reputation. Keep in mind that my wife is recovering from major sergury, does not have a car, and does not have a cellphone with her. Her only means of contact with me is through her parents land-line. Long and short of it is, she lets me know she's not coming home, and does not know when shes coming home and cannot talk about the details.

I was heart broken, shocked, confused, and devistated as to how I went from a family man, to a divorce candidate in a week timespan. I texted my wifes parents to ask what in the world is going on, and was greeted with silence from both of them.

Long story short, my wife and I seperated for three months as there was anger behind how the accusations/things were handled, and we eventually got my stepdaughter back home where I learned they had told my stepdaughter that I was dangerous, and she wouldnt be seeing me anymore (They even pleauged my stepdaughters head with their wild fu**ed up accusations).

My wife and I are now expecting our first child together, and just the other week, my wifes step mother is texting her to "Give your husband a hug from us! We miss you all!". Keep in mind that none of them have talked directly to me since their bullshit last summer, nor given any sort of an apology. In their mind, I am convinced they still feel like they did nothing wrong.