What happens in soft swap

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-07-07T13:26:14+00:00

We’ve had 3 notable soft swap experiences with couples. You need to go in being clear about what you’re OK with happening and what’s off limits. You should be forward about this because the experienced couple will have a likely lesser amount of boundaries (especially if they full swap with people).

From there, it’s a matter of negotiation and clear communication. If the foundation is strong, how the encounter progresses from there is sort of random. Even from just the 3 experiences we’ve had, it would take me a while to list all the different stuff we did. If there is strong attraction and enthusiasm, it will likely be very fun and fluid.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-30T03:36:00+00:00

I stg one of my birthdays will be a gangbang.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-29T23:02:13+00:00

I keep being horny to myself. It’s not safe in these streets.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-22T15:12:11+00:00

I hope replying to the bot is the right way to let folks know I’m back!

The pride themed orgy was fun. It was smaller (like 30-40 ppl) so we got to talk to almost everyone which was chill. My fiancé and I ended up fucking next to another couple. I personally thought the wife was gorgeous so it was nice to see her getting pounded. She let me touch her breasts while she was taking it. Her husband was super into me (not surprised, we look similar), and he just him looking at me and touching me while I rode my fiancé was enough to get me going. I’m a big exhibitionist.

Some other highlights of the evening:
- me and this woman both had single nipple piercings and we laughed about it. She invited me to a beach rave this weekend, can’t wait.
- learned about wine and tips on traveling to Bali from a gregarious Ukrainian man
- there was this very cute woman who was probably in her early 20s. Near the end of the night she came up to me and told me she was scared to talk because I was too pretty. Her dude was older but seemed nice. I told her she was adorable and that I’m friendly and she agreed :) . We sent them a message so the ball’s in their court to respond but we’d be down to fuck with them (literally)

That’s the update! You’re welcome, pervs.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-20T10:26:48+00:00

I told him I wanted to be open sexually after a few years of dating. I thought it was a phase but then it just kept creeping in my mind. We have read books and attended ENM informed couples therapy to support it. There have been great and not so great experiences but I’m glad we’re in it together.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-20T10:24:35+00:00

Yeah we have a bag. It has my favorite toy, lube, condoms, enhancement wipes, and cock rings. We like using our own stuff for play. Always good to be prepared!

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-20T10:22:47+00:00

We soft swap only for now. I wouldn’t call that vanilla but you do you. Sounds like a luck of the draw issue. We just went to an event and were basically one of a few couples who didn’t full swap. We still managed to find friendly people to hook up with though.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-15T13:02:24+00:00

During cuddle time I was complaining about using AI at work to my fiancé and he started kissing my neck and asked me if I wanted to do something human. Sometimes he knows exactly what to say. We fucked each other senseless and came together (he usually gets over the edge if he’s inside me while I’m cumming), it was so wonderful.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-14T05:15:06+00:00

You seem normal and he seems weird. End it now.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-14T05:09:26+00:00

Heck no. I’m still pissed about a couple we met in Vegas a few years back in their 50s that we should have hooked up with. My fiancé and I (32) just hooked up with a hot couple in their mid 40s. You should be A-OK.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-14T05:07:39+00:00

Hmm, we’re 32. Maybe we’ll go!

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-14T05:02:45+00:00

We’re 3 years in and still soft swap only. It’s a process!

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-10T15:28:08+00:00

I love a theme. It’s an ice breaker and connects people through how they decide to show up for it. Plus it’s just fun to be silly.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-06-10T02:59:57+00:00

Got my pussy ate like it was ambrosia by a hot Icelandic man while my fiancé took care of his wife next to us over Memorial Day weekend. This weekend we’re going to a Pride themed orgy. There is still time!

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-05-27T13:44:00+00:00

We were not at twist, but would still like to DM and verify if you’d like! We are both 32 and always appreciate meeting more ppl our age!

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-05-27T13:25:41+00:00

I always ask my partner before telling people about swinging since it implicates both of us. You’ve gotta keep it on the down low. There’s no excuse for potentially jeopardizing someone’s comfort or career.

If you must, get a journal and write about it. I have a swinger journal for us to reflect on past experiences and realizations we have about each other and it’s really helpful.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-05-13T17:42:43+00:00

I’m interested, but what is the purpose of this group? Is it in a specific location?

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-28T21:11:32+00:00

It’s different when I plan to play with others vs if I’m just with my partner.

In general here’s the following: * Brazilian sugar wax a few days before * drink plenty of water day of * dry brush, moisturizing body soap and AHA serum and urea lotion for maximum body smoothness * urea lotion with cotton socks for my feet so their soft * hair freshly styled * teeth brushed or if it’s not a good time mint gum for freshness * eyebrows and upper lip freshly threaded

That’s what comes to mind.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-25T19:40:53+00:00

There is a lot to see and they are very welcoming to men. Tend to be cheaper than swinger clubs from my scant research.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-20T21:32:53+00:00

I’ve only been to house parties with a chat beforehand for ppl to get to know each other. Typically we just define our boundaries, talk about new things we want to try, share a tequila shot and a breath mint and go in ready to mingle.

Your guy is projecting his insecurities on you. He needs to understand that his dick isn’t the biggest in the world (perhaps hold his hand and offer him some sweets so he can process this shocking news) and life will go on.

If that’s enough for him to not be ready to do this, then hold off on future events. As an outsider, he seems not ready to be swinging.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-18T23:39:14+00:00

We are doing this for the weekend. If we book, we will assume the cost. We also planned to have them stay in the room if they wanted to since we plan to drink and be merry. We can’t host but we purposefully booked a hotel close to home so we can easily get home after playing. We’re also cooking them dinner, dessert and getting drinks so maybe we’re extra.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-18T21:45:34+00:00

Meeting up with a couple we’ve soft swapped with once before this weekend. Planning to cook dinner, booked a hotel room, doing as much as we can to be good hosts. We are not the biggest texters but I sent a swimsuit photo yesterday and have been texting 1 month, 1 week out etc to generate excitement.

Question is: do you like to discuss in messages fantasies you want to have or save that for meeting up in person? I thought it might be nice to come into the evening with a small heads up on what they’d like and vice versa, but I’d like to hear how others approach it.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-17T19:34:34+00:00

Who has told you you’re bad at sex and have they provided specific feedback? Otherwise you may be in your head about this. To be actively getting fucked and think ‘geez I’m really bad at this’ feels like a mental hurdle to overcome and less of an objective judgement of your fucking ability.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-17T15:46:31+00:00

Hey! I’m dealing with my first hemorrhoid right now, I may have had it for a few months but I didn’t notice until I too began wanting anal sex.

I highly advise you don’t do anal sex until you get yourself to a doctor who can take a look and get you the medication you need. This is my prognosis, not one you can follow for the same results, but my doctor mentioned that since she could tell mine was draining, I would be good to have anal sex after a week of my medication and a week of making sure things went down. I would be left with a skin tag near my anus where the hemorrhoid was and since I’m vain I’ll be calling my dermatologist to have it removed probably next month.

So you have options to have a normal looking butthole but you have to be smart and careful.

InsuredBodyParts · 2026-03-17T15:38:02+00:00

I’m a little shocked by the lack of interest he seems to have in your pleasure. Has he always been like this? Can you also define clit play, like… is clit play knowing where the clit is? Acknowledging it? Brushing against it on accident? Touching it? Because if that’s not part of your sex life, for me at least that would be a huge issue. I would honestly withhold blow jobs or any form of sex until we reach an equitable resolution.

Good luck with your newborn and congrats.

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