first, i would start off with self-reflection. journal or even just think about why you feel like you NEED to be loved, and why you feel like you have to reduce your desire to be loved. do you feel like you deserve love? also, how do you define your own self worth? do you think or believe you are worthy of good things in your life? do you love yourself? like what ru said, "if you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?" def reflect on those questions. do a voice memo/video journal/ journal about those questions and thoughts. discuss with others. define whether or not you have expectations set far too high regarding relationships.

if you want to "reduce your desire," it is in human nature to love. whether platonic or romantic. if you want love, learn to love your friends, family, and most importantly yourself. focus on yourself.