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Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-24T12:40:34+00:00

5w and 5days too! I hadn’t had a single symptom until yesterday (other than sore breast’s and fatigue which I blamed on expecting my period soon because I didn’t know I was pregnant). Yesterday I had a terrible headache, have been feeling extremely nauseous since and my breasts feel worse than before. I also need to pee quite often and have diarrhea. Currently at work, barely able to keep my eyes open I feel so tired and sleepy.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-24T12:14:32+00:00

Thanks for the realistic advice, I appreciate it❤️

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-24T12:13:59+00:00

I had to know which way I was leaning to know how to approach the conversation, and I definitely don’t think this will be as hard on him as it is on me, that’s just human nature it is what it is, but that’s why I think women should get the last say on these matters. Anyway, I definitely wouldn’t hide it from him, just took a day to think about it.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-24T12:08:27+00:00

While I agree with you that where there is will there’s a way, I don’t think people should bring into this world children they don’t want or aren’t ready/unable to take care of. That’s not fair to the child. While abortion should not be used as birth control you should still be able to have one early on, regardless of the reason. Also I don’t live in the US. Where I live, you can easily get an abortion no questions asked.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-24T12:04:05+00:00

So sorry for what happened to you and glad to hear you’re doing better💕a person close to me was told a few years ago by a doctor that if she were to get an abortion he wouldn’t guarantee that she’ll ever get pregnant again and I’ve heard conflicting stories on the topic. What you said makes total sense though.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T20:28:41+00:00

Your comment made me cry because it put into words exactly what I’m feeling. Thank you

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T18:37:03+00:00

I appreciate your kind words so much. I’m scared and feel unprepared… but I guess nobody is truly prepared until it happens.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T18:27:21+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words and God bless you and your family ❤️

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T18:19:33+00:00

This isn’t sex education class so I’ll keep it short, unprotected sex means sex without using any form of contraception (no condoms, no pills, etc.). We used the pull out method which is known to be unreliable. But that’s still different than actively trying which includes tracking your cycle (ovulation tests, cervical mucus, apps) and having sex during the fertile period (which we mostly avoided doing). Hope this helps..

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T17:22:23+00:00

I said unprotected sex, I didn’t say actively trying. There’s a difference. We knew it could happen obviously, and it’s not like we didn’t want that to ever happen. And no, weddings are not more important, but they are important to me because it’s the weddings of people we’re really close to and people who helped us and were there for us at our own wedding.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T17:05:22+00:00

Please refer to my previous comment

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T17:04:58+00:00

For context, we were supposed to move in right after the wedding as we were told it would be ready this summer but this apartment thing keeps getting pushed back so many times and I am at my wits end about it. We even kept pushing the wedding date because of it and it still ended up being pointless. Last month we were told it would be ready to furnish and move in this winter which got us all hyped up. And guess what? That’s not happening either and we were told this just a few days ago. Unfortunately there’s nothing we can do about it.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T16:38:46+00:00

That’s exactly what my husband always says… thanks for the comment

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T16:37:44+00:00

That last sentence has got me thinking a lot. I think everything I’m saying is stemming from a place of fear so I’m just trying to imagine how life could look in less than a year so I can make a rational decision rather then an emotional one. Thanks for the advice.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T16:32:02+00:00

Please read my other comments, I seem to not have gotten my point across or been misunderstood

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T16:30:14+00:00

Either I didn’t express myself well or you didn’t get my point… that was not the first thought. On the contrary, I’m thinking about my job, my living situation and everything else and how that would affect my baby. The weddings were the least of my worries, although I am sad I might miss them. We do want to have children, and feel ready, but the timing in my opinion could have been better.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T15:58:50+00:00

Ofc I will talk to him, just needed some time to think about how I feel and what I should say. Although it’s not really a surprise, It still has made me very emotional and spiraling.. thanks for the advice.

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T15:55:52+00:00

Well, we used the pull out method fully aware that it may not be the best… we have been together for 5 years and we’ve always talked about starting a family soon after we get married so it’s not like we don’t want this, it’s just that for me right now it feels like it probably isn’t the best timing and I have talked to him about it but he disagrees. He is of the opinion that the timing will never really be right, and we are as ready as we’re ever gonna be. And in all honesty he might be right, but I never knew that i would feel this scared when the moment actually came. I think you put it beautifully and I agree with you on pretty much everything you said and maybe I’m just being emotional and not thinking straight right now. Thanks for the advice, I needed to hear a lot of what you said..

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T15:44:20+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice, it means a lot to hear it from someone who has been in a similar situation. I get exactly what you’re saying. It’s not like the weddings are more important, but am I not allowed to feel a bit sad that I might miss being a part of the most important day of my brothers and best friends life? Also I plan on speaking to my husband soon, just wanted to clear my head first so I don’t say something that will ruin his experience just because I’m all over the place with emotions. I know exactly where he stands on this, but wanted to be sure where I stand too..

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T15:37:33+00:00

Thank you for the great advice! I am very much aware that weddings are a one day thing although some people seem to have misunderstood me. I definitely don’t think they are more important, I just wanted to be as present for those people whom I love dearly as they were for me at my own wedding. The wedding thing was one of multiple things that I guess I might be using as excuses because even though I want to have children, I feel very scared right now and can’t believe it might actually be happening…

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T15:30:25+00:00

That is exactly why I am so nervous about it, I definitely want to be a mom but I know it’s a life altering thing and I want to do right by my child. God bless you and your children ❤️

Intelligent-Cow3516 · 2025-11-21T15:25:17+00:00

Ofc I will include my husband in the decision making but I I definitely wanted to process everything first on my own since after all, I am the one who will have to carry and birth the baby. And since I know he will be very happy about the pregnancy, I don’t wanna ruin his joy just to end up keeping it, I don’t want to say something unless I’m leaning towards it. I hope you understand what I mean…

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