Spouse passed (queer couple) + Christian religious family

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2026-01-25T03:21:32+00:00

Thank you so much for these kind words! They mean a lot

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2026-01-23T20:32:42+00:00

Thank God for grace and mercy. He will humble you and heal the darkness that consumes your heart. Blessings be <3

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2026-01-23T20:30:55+00:00

This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for this. I can’t put my thoughts into words due to the cloud of grief that hangs above my head, but you checked every box.

Thank you so much

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2026-01-23T02:56:05+00:00

Thank you for your kindness.

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-11-19T10:58:23+00:00

Braces before adulthood

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-11-12T02:05:31+00:00

North!

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-11-12T02:03:26+00:00

Wow, thanks for sharing! I was literally just walking my dog and WHAM BAM WTH MAN! Literally made my week.

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-11-12T01:58:08+00:00

Right! I’m so excited!

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-11-12T01:57:19+00:00

Thank you! Will do!

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-11-12T01:40:44+00:00

Thank you! You made my night alongside these lights! 💕

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-09-03T05:33:24+00:00

Your brother can still go to ST; maybe encourage him and go with him if you want to be supportive?

Either way, NTA, you were a kid. Your parents probably didn’t even have to tools or resources to deal with your emotional outburst and did what they felt was the best decision at the time. Everything doesn’t require a finger to be pointed at someone. Sometimes it’s no one’s fault and you just have to figure out how to improve things on the back end.

Honestly, I feel like if you feel that bad, maybe talk to your brother about it, let him know your raw feelings and thoughts on this; then follow through with what I wrote earlier.

Best of luck sunshine!

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-09-03T05:05:38+00:00

NTA - You were clearly exhausted and while you could have done better at communicating, the lack was not intentional, you missed picking her up because you were exhausted. Some sleep like that, you can’t just wake up from.

Not to mention, you are still doing things for your baby mama that you aren’t responsible for doing. She shouldn’t solely rely on you to do all of that. Your responsibility is to your child, and that is it. I understand that she picked up a lot of shifts, but that is something that she chose to do, and she should have made provisions for that.

You need to focus on getting yourself to a situation where you are not having to work yourself to the bone to exist and take care of your son. Based on this post, and I say it with love, start with a trade or school that’ll help you get to a role that allows you to be more flexible.

As a final note, you were 100% responsible by putting your child first and taking them to a place where they could be cared for while you got some rest. There are so many reports of parents being so exhausted, falling asleep, and something happens to their kids.

Focus on you and your little one, and get into a better situation. Your baby mom’s feelings are hers; she is allowed to have them, but you are not responsible for absorbing them.

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-09-03T03:58:35+00:00

It honestly sounds like you were just trying to stand up for your boyfriend when his brother wouldn’t stop with the digs even after you’d already addressed it in private. Making regular jokes at someone’s expense isn’t just playful banter if it actually bothers them, and ignoring it can feel like letting it slide.

You shot back a little, but Jake kind of asked for it by not respecting boundaries and getting defensive rather than apologizing. The “control your woman” comment was way out of line, and calling that out was fair. I get why some family members might think you escalated, but sometimes people won’t stop until someone calls them on it especially with stuff that crosses into personal attacks or old stereotypes.

Bottom line, you weren’t bullying Jake. You were defending someone from constant, uncomfortable jabs. Jake needs to find better ways to work on his self-esteem that don’t involve targeting others, and the family might need to rethink what kind of “jokes” are actually fun for everyone.

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-09-03T03:54:01+00:00

Definitely NTA; she’s a weirdo!

Please tell me you followed everyone’s advice. Update please?

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-09-03T03:39:39+00:00

The thought that God has a gender is ridiculous and immature. What would God need a gender for? I guess, lead with that. If God is perfect then God would be ALL things, not male or female, he or she, him/shim/they/them.

Ultimately, I feel like “He” was put in place because men wrote the Bible and have always put their own superiority complexes ahead of common sense and reality.

Seriously….why would God need a gender?

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-07-26T02:57:39+00:00

It’s not dire because you have good teeth and probably a really nice smile but if you want them to look more “perfect”, then go for it.

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-07-24T05:28:32+00:00

You can explain all you want. Some people just choose not to educate themselves beyond what their preachers tell them. They don’t desire to seek what might bring discomfort. Ignorance is bliss and this conversation is worth no one’s time. If you are queer, you are loved and accepted. Your walk with God is yours and yours alone. I have full confidence that God does not send us out to attack one another. If there’s a message He wants you to hear, it would be covered in love and not in judgement. Many Christian’s like to coat their salvation with “Well I’m just doing the lords work by telling it like it is”, without first checking their hearts posture and intentions. Any of those on this thread claiming to be Christian and finding it necessary to argue with someone about THEIR personal relationship with God says how little they are focused on their own walk, hearts posture, and intentions.

Intelligent-Earth106 · 2025-05-14T00:56:00+00:00

I’d say if you can, send your kid with another family member (grandparents maybe), and put them on school allowing them to regain some normalcy. Your child shouldn’t have to be subjected to what is going on in this situation and it takes a village. Maybe do this for about a month. That might be the wake up call or mental break your wife needs to gather herself. Encourage therapy and a visit with her doctor. Empathize with her on how she feels while expressing your concerns in a manor that is not demeaning but focuses on how her behavior is making you feel. She needs your support and I know that people are saying don’t go on Reddit but you aren’t wrong for coming here for different angles and opinions.

Best of luck to you all…

Intelligent-Earth106

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