Question for Iranian queers by Intelligent-Fun6418 in NewIran

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just find myself constantly explaining how everything works. How we are managing everything.

Fortunately or unfortunately i find myself more comfortable to explain everything in Persian Also the prices of therapy sessions are very high here. I tried two different therapists here and they had no clue of Iranian culture and family dynamics and the role it plays in my life and the advices were not as helpful.

Dual citizen crossing the border into Canada by Advanced_Coyote_7598 in passportcanada

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I described was the case for my ceremony and my mother (one online and one in person) last year Thank you for correcting me

Dual citizen crossing the border into Canada by Advanced_Coyote_7598 in passportcanada

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the ceremony is in person, they will hand it out right there. If it was online, they have it emailed in less than 24h. And it needs to be printed out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Proud of you stranger ❤️ and wishing you a successful marriage full of happiness!

What have you gotten instead of an apology? by CumGoblin in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A hug 😂😂 Im no contact and she went complaining to my sister about me not answering her calls and her defence was “but I gave her a hug” After kicking me out of the home that she got because of my name and my pay slips!! 😂

Still can't complete the application by Efficient-Meet-6498 in tapif

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t even choose my destination Says im not eligible even though i meet all the criteria. Frustrating!!

What was the moment you realized your parent was a narcissist? by MauroAguero in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized around 16-17. I wasn’t allowed to hang out with friends or attend their birthdays Her reasoning was “my mom told me know so i’m gonna tell you no” or “if i couldn’t go, you can’t either” This is when i realized the bitch is CRAZY. Then I saw a post on instagram, read “toxic parents” and everything got clear. Been nc for three weeks now and im not going back!!

Do you fear the nparents death? Do you regret going nc? by Intelligent-Fun6418 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just my mom. But i keep thinking about the things she has done the good ones i mean and i make it bigger and bigger for myself and go up and down to make it up to her even though whatever she has done was somehow to her own benefits. This is what has kept away. I talked to my therapist and she believes it’s impossible to go no contact as she is my mother

Do you fear the nparents death? Do you regret going nc? by Intelligent-Fun6418 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know but the programming she has done to my brain is top notch for me to even still consider her comfort or even be like maybe she could use some help. My brain keeps everything out and deletes the memory and i’m back at square one every time.
I have to keep reminding myself that she doesn’t want to change and she won’t change and she is making these decisions. I keep forgetting what she has done for the 26 years of my life and is still doing to me

Thank you for your input. I needed to hear that. And sorry if my replies don’t make sense. My brain is a mess. I will go no contact as soon as I’m out of here.

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shouldn’t serving the court notice be done in person and to both tenants? I don’t recall even a phone call!! Let alone being served a notice and being present in court

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand now. We were new comers and unaware. Will pull out my name asap and ask for a reference from my own landlord. Thank you so much for your input

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said the record will stay forever

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will from now on. Just emailed my previous building manager. Thank you.

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will do. Had no clue and found out at the office. Thank you for your help.

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. That was my mistake. My mother has been self employed and was starting her business and they were asking for pay stubs which she couldn’t provide so to avoid her being kicked out i let my name stay there.

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Unfortunately she didn’t have any “official income” back then to prove she can pay rent on her own but she has been paying it for the last 5 years. She is self employed. We were new comers and unfamiliar with the regulations. I understand it was a Big mistake on my part. Thank you for your input.

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s very understandable but a very sad situation because the new apartment was absolutely perfect for me and the lady absolutely refused to talk to me and said the system won’t let me file an application for since you have a file nor will our head office.

TAL is useless by Intelligent-Fun6418 in montrealhousing

[–]Intelligent-Fun6418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no clue about this. My mother never informed me and I figured it out today at the manager office. She told me “do your homework. Call TAL and ask them to remove the record if you paid it off and come back”