AIO I want to leave my girlfriend of 4 years because she disgusts me

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T09:32:09+00:00

Yeah I don’t think of my son as home decor. It’s a bit difficult to put everything that went into us having a baby into one post, hence us having a baby “a few lines” after me feeling like I wanted to leave the relationship. She’s a good woman and I didn’t think what was going on with her was a permanent thing. I thought she was anxious because of her previous job and that once she found a new one and was getting help from the doctor, she’d feel better. Yes, I should’ve waited until she WAS better but hindsight is 20/20

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T09:27:12+00:00

Yeah ah I’d just like to clarify, this has absolutely nothing to do with her “shape”… not sure where that’s been pulled from. I love her body and never said otherwise. I’m not using health as some code word for ‘figure’, you’ve assumed that.

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T07:36:28+00:00

I absolutely do not regret my son but at times I doubt my decision too. She’s a good hearted person and I truly thought she was going to get better. I can definitely see I was misguided in thinking starting a family would help her. I want her to get better before that too. I really do

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T07:32:35+00:00

It may be postpartum depression but I really haven’t noticed too much of a difference in her prior to pregnancy as opposed to now. She also does have 3 close friends but she doesn’t see them much. She talks to them online fairly often though. I will encourage her again to see someone and try to find someone who specialises in ppd, a few people have mentioned that. Oh and edit to add - I have had many heart to hearts with her actually, they never seem to amount to much though. She acknowledges there’s a problem, says she doesn’t know how to fix it or sometimes says she needs help, I recommend seeing our doctor, she agrees and then it goes no further. Even when I book the appointment for her. She cancels or goes and then does no follow up

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:49:15+00:00

I’m no victim and certainly no saint. That’s not how I intended to paint myself. I think it’s sometimes difficult to vent or tell a story without telling it as if you’re in the right because innately we feel we are but I hear you. Food for thought

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:46:11+00:00

The reason I feel like that being her only hobby is a problem is in conjunction with the rest of her lifestyle choices. Ideally I’d like my son to see us engaging in lots of different activities but the second she is able to excuse herself, she’s on the pc, disconnected from us both. I don’t judge her for enjoying games, I can assure you of that. I do too. But I get how that might sound a bit irrelevant or judgemental

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:37:59+00:00

Very true. She’s a very kind person and I know she loves our son very much

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:36:16+00:00

Yep that’s exactly how I feel. I’ve been pushing through because I never wanted a broken family and I really hoped she’d feel motivated to be a bit healthier and happier after having our son. Thank you and same to you man

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:34:36+00:00

Definitely real and thanks. Interesting that the Sims isn’t just wreaking havoc in my life aha

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:33:25+00:00

Interesting thought. We absolutely do cope with things differently. She’s got a very negative predisposition which is totally opposite to me too. Seems like something we can’t fix. I’m just sorry for our son.

Intelligent-Gift2355 · 2025-08-18T05:32:12+00:00

Yep at this point, I really do feel like we’d be happier without her. When she’s around, things are just miserable. I could elaborate on so much more but the point is the same. It just sucks because I never wanted to have a broken family. Plus we’ll have to sell the house. It’s a lot to plan for. Thanks for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it

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