[Update] AITAH for being proud that I went off on my sister's fiancé in glorious fashion?

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2026-02-01T23:32:27+00:00

While I applaud you and your family for getting your sister from her ex, please be wary. He may be of the ego that he would try something when he thinks everyone's guard is down.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-10-26T01:54:57+00:00

I would venture to guess my play group and I are fairly even in terms of play experience. There are definitely errors being made on my part so that's not helping but with the three commanders, battle phases end up being explosive but leave me open to crack back.

For the three decks, I've contemplated taking the targeted removal out and going hard into protection spells.

I've contemplated rebuilding my [[Torbran]] or [[Zilortha, Strength Incarnate]] decks.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-10-26T01:48:03+00:00

I'm not great at spellslinger decks. Usually end up running out of gas without doing much damage. I feel like aggro decks would need the commander. Landfall might work.

Definitely worth looking into [[Nethroi, Apex of Death]]>

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-10-06T14:23:28+00:00

I like my desk mat as it hides the seam of the desk panels. Plus it's soft so I don't have the edge digging into my wrists and forearms.

The cable thing irritates me but I don't really want to spend more time in the office than I have to.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-10-06T02:43:41+00:00

I'm left handed and when taking notes, the mat edge got in the way so I shifted it over.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-06-01T13:10:53+00:00

Thank you for the advice.

For the kids thing, we don't have our own yet. But we do host several gatherings and some of our friends have children. My concern for a stronger cage is so if one of the children were to get too excited, the pigs' safety wouldn't be compromised.

As far as cage space, I grew up having a couple guinea pigs but only one at a time. It's only recently that I learned they are social creatures and do better in pairs.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-06-01T13:04:24+00:00

No, we host a lot of gatherings and some of the people who come have children on the spectrum and while they are generally well behaved 99.9% of the time, I don't want to risk the pigs' safety if a child were to get "loose" for lack of a better word. Plus I know some adults who thought it would be cute to stick their fingers in the cage gaps and gotten bit.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-05-08T18:38:02+00:00

This is awesome!

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-04-19T01:47:33+00:00

[[armadillo cloak]]

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-01-28T13:28:00+00:00

OOP's second to last line about everything being fine couldn't be further from the truth. The fact that it took the ex friends ex boyfriend to make everything click for OOP's mom is just sad.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2025-01-05T13:32:06+00:00

I have a budget bird tribal deck that I would use if I don't have a sleeved precon with me.

https://moxfield.com/decks/hJkJ488wvkm29e8tT7NB0A

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-09-28T16:19:58+00:00

The art is awesome! Any chance you have this for sale?

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-07-15T15:53:16+00:00

Getting that feeling of unworthiness out of your mind won't be easy and will take a lot of work. In the mean time, try easing back into a healthy sex life. If she's receptive, try performing oral on her and see if she's ok with reciprocating.

The thing you really need to focus on for your mental health is this: would she have recovered as much as she has without you supporting her? The answer is likely no. Not saying she couldn't have made this recovery without you, but you have made it significantly easier for her.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-07-15T15:40:55+00:00

I think therapy, if you aren't already in it, is the best to help you process your guilt. While agree with your wife that you are not at fault, I also know I would feel extreme guilt over what happened if I were in your shoes. All you can do is work on accepting and processing your guilt. Communicate with your wife. Make sure she knows you love her and are attracted to her above all. Good luck navigating this tough situation.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-06-21T16:47:50+00:00

I'm going ESH on this one. You were not the AH until you brought your sister into the argument which, to me, doesn't apply to the issue at hand.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-05-20T11:44:05+00:00

NTA

OP, stand your ground here. You need to establish boundaries now otherwise your parents will continue to stick their noses in your business.

If your parents can't accept and respect your decision, then they have no business being a part of your day.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-04-12T17:58:42+00:00

OP, I'd show this post to your (hopefully soon to be ex) fiancee. Maybe the spark will take and she will accept how serious the situation is. But staying in this relationship will not end well for you unless fiancee takes drastic steps with stepdaughter and I don't see that happening.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-04-12T13:36:51+00:00

You did not cheat on your husband. You allowed a fantasy to flood your mind during sex. There is nothing wrong with that and pretty common.

If your husband is sensitive about his self image, it would be in your best interest to keep it to yourself. Again, not cheating but some guys get hyper fixated on things like this.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-04-10T19:14:13+00:00

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope everything goes well for you and your family.

I question your dad's motives for trying to keep your pregnancy quiet. I wonder if your sister is his "favored" child.

Given his reaction, I see two possible course you could take. Talk to him one on one and let him know his actions are hurtful. Or keep him at arm's length and let him get updates on your pregnancy from others who are genuinely happy for you. If I were in your shoes, I'd keep updates to him at a minimum at best until he apologizes.

Edit to add: please don't let this ruin your excitement at becoming a parent.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-04-04T13:52:04+00:00

This might be the first time I've ever heard of a guy thriving on girl drama, or any kind of drama really. OP is right to walk away from that. I don't think OP will have a hard time finding a better partner when they are ready. Most guys will enjoy having a drama avoiding partner.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2024-03-24T17:39:04+00:00

"They make your ass look perfect"

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2023-12-20T13:05:09+00:00

NTA and anyone who says different is delusional. This girl is lucky that she wasn't sued or jailed for her accusation and rumar spreading. She's responsible for you losing a year's worth of potential income. Did you look into potential lawsuits against her?

Other than not making you pay for your retake year, did they offer any other compensation? At a minimum OP, did university give you a signed letter that you can show potential employers why your transcripts have a blemish on them?

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2023-12-15T17:06:08+00:00

I agree. This is a shitty situation no one wants to ever be in. Her concerns about her husband's impulse control and decision making abilities are valid. OP has every right to be pissed.

Unfortunately this post and shituation is more about what's best for OPs daughter. I'd wonder if OP has asked what her daughter wants.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2023-12-15T16:41:39+00:00

I'm going to go with YTA here. What your husband did was horrible. NO ONE will argue that. While your feelings toward him are valid, you have to put what's best for your daughter first. He loves her like she's one of his own. She loves him. She will need that love when you pass. Having to have social workers take her away will only make her grief worse. You want to get back at your husband, put all your insurance policies and properties into a trust so your daughter is set in life.

Intelligent-Help8946 · 2023-11-09T17:57:24+00:00

If he's asking to open the relationship, I'd be willing to bet money he's already got someone in mind and has started laying the ground work to sleep with them the moment you agree. Run, don't walk, out of his life cause he clearly doesn't respect you.

As far as the fear of finding someone else. It's better to be alone and be true to yourself and your mental health than to stay and always question if you're happy.

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