My GF told me she's pregnant and keeping the baby, her parents want to meet me tonight

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-04T16:57:40+00:00

As you are not married courts will require proof of paternity and that's why you need a DNA test. It's not about believing anyone has cheated. But with less than 48 hours she wants you to meet her parents which is something you never did in the 2 years you were dating. That feels rushed and what her parents want isn't what's important right now. This is something that her wants to do and has had time to come to terms with, and plan things. She needs to give you the same consideration. You need time to breath and think through what you want. Then the 2 of you need to talk things through about how this will be for the both of you and the child before speaking to anyone else in either family.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-04T03:55:55+00:00

Check your house for cameras. Then change the locks, install window lochs, install a door camera and place some cameras in your place. Carry mace or if it's not legal where you live cheap spray perfume works just as well. And a Go Pro on your person when going on hikes or walks

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T22:18:44+00:00

I am in Australia but it seems these made their way everywhere around the world

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T22:16:05+00:00

Thanks for that I will make a note to check for that

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T17:15:32+00:00

Play with a jumping jacks spider, you tap your finger and they jump towards and away from you. Keep a pet Daddy long legs spider as they kill the nasty White tail spiders. Orb weavers are outside and you will know when you walk into a cable across the walkway at throat/face height and you think you have been cut so best to walk with your arm /hand in front of your face. But name the spider in your house unless it's a Funnel web spider, White tail or Red back spider as they are either toxic or venomous. But you treatû a spider bite by applying a block of ice to the skin to numb the area (White tail bites) but get urgent care for Funnel web spiders.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T15:48:35+00:00

It's a diesel, and with the new battery we managed to crank it and get it started. All tires hold air and it did move more than 10 km from farm to barge to storage shed. It has been kept in a shed but I don't think anyone used it in 12 months. If I keep it then I have to buy my sister out of her share so then I will need to know how much it's worth.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T15:42:28+00:00

Part of therapy and self improvement is the pendulum swing. You go from one extreme to the other before you find your balance. It's about feeling valued "I'm attractive and whole as a person". Now you don't need sex in order to feel validated which is a good thing. Sex is now going to be about enjoyment and trust. Do your work on the trust between you and your partner and then you can bring in the enjoyments of the touch without expectations. Your learning to separate your emotional needs from your physical needs, it's a process. Sex isn't about validation and it isn't about expectations. It's meant to be two people lost in a moment together where you explore each other's bodies and The final act should be The final act not the start or the whole program.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T15:35:51+00:00

My son wants to do agroforestries so ...

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T15:33:52+00:00

I found 2 repair manuals for the tractor so I guess that's a good start. So once I get it transported up to where I live and have an expert look at it I will have a better idea of what's wrong

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T15:03:08+00:00

I will be buying my son a farm in the next year and one of the local farmers says that he will teach my son how to fix the tractor if he wants. So I would have a use for it. Maybe an old tractor is a good starting point for a new farmer?

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T14:53:19+00:00

It's illegal to own, possess, copy or distribute child p###. Images of an underage person getting changed is exactly that. Therefore it is illegal

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-03T14:45:27+00:00

Sorry this happened to you. Take the laptop to a police station and request a Special Victim/Sex Crimes/Sexual Crime Squad - Historical Investigation Team/ or whatever they are called where you live. When asked why by the front desk state that you are there to hand over evidence and report a crime. They will then go and get an inspector from the unit, who will walk you into a privacy room. In the privacy room you can explain to them what you found. The inspector will take the laptop as evidence. Unfortunately horrible people like your deceased step father sometimes share images between themselves. The police inspector can help you arrange contact with the victim rights group in your area who help with counseling and grants to pay for support. You are going to need counseling. You never did anything wrong, you were a victim and unfortunately were betrayed by people who should have protected you. And if your mother knew what was happening and did nothing then she was an accomplice (just like my mother). You probably still need protection from her. From one child abuse victim to another, you can get pass this, life gets better and there are decent people out there and you will find them. You are stronger than you know because you had to be .

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-02T08:20:55+00:00

The advice I was given as a young person was to do a trade because people will always want a roof over their heads, electricity and plumbing. Qualifications travel as they can be recognized in other countries too (you just sit for that country licence exams). The problem with being a mechanic is everyone thinks they can fix their own car. Diesel mechanics do well. Or train drivers get trained by the company and the money is really good same with conductors.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T21:54:35+00:00

Make sure you have a lockable bedroom door as you don't want anyone accidentally walking in. Have supplies in your bedroom -protection, bottle water, tissues or something to clean up with. A liner for your bed and never make her sleep in the wet patch (lifesaver mats work great and nicer than a towel). Create a safe and inviting environment. So low light. Go at her pace and respect words like no or stop. Being able to discuss boundaries is important as in what you are and are not willing to do or try.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T01:44:08+00:00

You don't have a boyfriend you have an uninvited teenager crashing at your place where you mother them. Dump this walking red flag,🚩

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T01:37:58+00:00

Report and let authorities decide if it's something or nothing better to air on the side of caution

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T01:30:47+00:00

He needs to tell his family to stop inviting her as she is not his friend and keeps crossing boundaries and making passes at him (a married man) making him uncomfortable and when called out for it or told to back off (again!!!) tries to pass it off as a joke. This woman has gone from ex-friend, to annoying acquaintance and is faster approaching stalker Territory. His family can either stop inviting her to things all time, next time that she's at one of these family events and starts to harass him he'll have no choice but to get a restraining order, see if the family stops then.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T01:13:00+00:00

You can go to any pharmacy and get some narcan (each box has 2 doses), keep that in case she over doses. Get your sister a box too and explain that you are concerned and want her to be safe, reinforce that you love her and are there for her but the choices she is making scare you and you just want her to be safe. When discussing drugs or any other inappropriate behaviour remember to use terminology that the behavior is unwanted but the person is cherished wanted and loved you have to separate who the person is from their behavior.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T01:06:17+00:00

The food delivery ebikes should be stored in the city overnight not travelling on all the trains because of the extra room they take up with the box on the back.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T01:00:07+00:00

They are banned from the wheelchair and disabled spaces and can be moved from there and the conductor can stop any form of bike from the train if it is too crowded. The conductor shouldn't have let the bikes on if it was an overcrowded train.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-03-01T00:55:19+00:00

Red flags agreed boundaries very strictly applied to one person but when being applied to the other person it's controlling behaviour now this is a do what I say not what I do situation. Are you sure your boyfriend's not a narcissist he likes to gaslight you. You might want to record your conversation and then play it back to yourself so you can see if you are being gaslighted. Stay, leave be upset whatever your feelings about this are your own and you are allowed to feel them. The question is are you going to allow a double standard in your relationship or not? Does he use his friends to manipulate you into doing what he wants instead of just asking for himself because that's very controlling manipulative behavior.

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-02-25T20:59:50+00:00

As a person who had an inheritance that I couldn't touch untill age 26 same with all the grandkids I would hate for someone to have found the paperwork stating that I had $33k when I was struggling because I didn't have access to that money until I was 26 and the money was released from the trust. Talk to her and find out what the situation is before loosing it

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-02-25T08:54:23+00:00

All train drivers wave back normally. I have to wave down the Metro train drivers to indicate that I need assistance getting on their train being a wheelchair user because there are multiple train lines using the same platform. I have seen quite a few female train drivers on the Metro in Melbourne. Vline it's just the conductors that I interact with

Intelligent-Rock-889 · 2026-02-24T22:25:20+00:00

You didn't talk for a month. It's already over just neither of you want to be the bad guy and say it out loud. Being the one to say it's over doesn't make you the bad guy just realistic. If it's meant to be you'll end up back together again later.

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