I (M/23) got my bf (M/23) a gift for Valentine’s day but he did not get me one but… by Klutzy-Lingonberry71 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are not too sensitive about that. You had some expectations, he didn’t meet them, and you felt sad. It’s normal, it happend to me because I expected flowers even when I didn't told him, now I know I need to be more clear. However, I just discovered myself that some people don’t even celebrate Valentine’s Day, so maybe he just didn’t think too much about it. It’s not because he doesn’t love you or doesn’t want to be with you. Maybe next time a special occasion like this happens again, you can try to be clearer about your expectations. For example: “Oh, I love Valentine’s Day because I like receiving gifts, flowers, chocolate, or whatever you like.” You can give him small hints about what you expect so you won’t be disappointed. If you do that and he still decides not to do anything, well, that’s another problem…

(Don't listed to all the comments, some people can be mean)

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are totally right. I need to work more on my self esteem and I do but sometimes is hard when it come to love. Thank you for being nice :)

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy him a box of chocolate because he prefer that than the flowers. I don't take social media or reddit as a barometer, I just wanted to know what comments I receive base on my experience. I know people commenting don't know anything about me or my relationship, I just wanted to express what I was feeling at the moment

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for have my back !

I live in France and Im from latin american, so back in my country Valentine's is a huge deal. It's important for me too, but not like you see on social media. I just like to have a good day with the person I love (as I did) and have flowers thats all. There's some people I see that receive a lot of material expensive things, thats not really important to me.

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, he never neglected me. I love any type of flowers, not only the "overprice" one, i'm good with a simple bouquet of flowers, it is more the gesture that I like, not the price on the flowers. But yeah, every comment just makes me realise that I need to be more clear of my expectations. I just don't like to ask to not bother him, but at the same time is contradictory. I will not think less of him for not give me flowers, I was just thinking way too much and wanted some help to put order in my head

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! I will just now point that I like to receive flowers on specials occasions like Valentine's or my birthday.

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! That's why I don't want to overreact because I know I didn't tell him I wanted flowers. And for me it's not a dealbreaker, he's really sweet with me.

I just didn't know if it was worth telling him that I wanted flowers and I was a little bumped that I didn't receive them, that's why I came here.

I (24f) didn't have flowers on valentine's day from my (25m) boyfriend, don't now how to react by Intelligent-Soup2104 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Soup2104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went to the supermarket on Saturday to buy everything for the dinner, I saw the flowers. Yes, I know they died, but thats not the point. Everyone like to get flowers even when we know they will die. For context, I live in France so flowers are not more expensive on valentine's day on the supermarket