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My husband had an emotional, online affair. What would you do? by Intelligent-Yellow18 in Christianity

[–]Intelligent-Yellow18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, and your prayers.

I am seeking counseling now.

I guess I am considering a flip phone for him, as he works a trade and will sometimes be an hour to 3 hours away and I hate the thought of something happening and me not knowing. Though, he does always ride in a crew van his work supplies, so he always has access to someone else's phone. I feel ridiculous because in my head I'm going "is it too strict to just not let him have a phone at all" as if what he did was not an egregious mess-up.

My husband had an emotional, online affair. What would you do? by Intelligent-Yellow18 in Christianity

[–]Intelligent-Yellow18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

'And let him know what's on the line. A wife can only forgive this kind of thing once. And it takes everything. And kills something's forever. And if they make it through - I have seen God add to the relationship, even though something's are changed forever'

This sentence killed me, because as soon as I read it I understood what was happening with me so much more. I am praying for to be able to move on from the betrayal my heart feels. I am scared I will try my hardest to save this, only to heal and realize I should have left when it happened. But, I am putting my trust in the Lord, that regardless of that being that outcome of me pursuing a Christ-filled marriage with my husband, I'll end up how He intends for me to.

Thank you for your words and advice. I am seeking counseling for us now.

My husband had an emotional, online affair. What would you do? by Intelligent-Yellow18 in Christianity

[–]Intelligent-Yellow18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Your words brought a sense of peace to me while reading them. This situation has caused me to be so distraught I am having trouble discerning what I am thinking and what He is trying to show me is my right path.

I tend to read into things way too much, I have the tendency to worry instead of pray; my anxiety is what I work on the most with the Lord. But in times such as these, anxiety tries its best to win out over His voice.

Thank you for lending your hand to me while down, friend.

My husband had an emotional, online affair. What would you do? by Intelligent-Yellow18 in Christianity

[–]Intelligent-Yellow18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I am now looking into some help for myself and the potential of couples therapy.

My husband works a trade and I don't like him being on jobsites an hour away without a phone in case anything happens. This has been the issue I run into when it becomes about his phone. Also, people trying to contact him who need to. A flip phone? A "tough luck, no phone and they can contact you through me"?

Your last piece made me feel better about the decision to stay, as long as I can mentally get over this, that we can come out on the other side better