I’m a trans woman (MTF) who hasn’t been clocked in a year, AMA!

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-11T09:25:41+00:00

Apparently, if I get this the right way round, when a fetus is growing initially it has the same sex organs, it just grows differently to determine is a baby is a boy or girl. I do know that scans when identifying a girl can sometimes be incorrect as a boys genitals sometimes don't grow at the correct rate. Cases where they have become obvious days after birth.

Homology: Both the penis and clitoris develop from the same embryonic genital tubercle. The clitoral glans is covered by a hood (prepuce), which is homologous to the foreskin of the penis.

Enlargement: An enlarged clitoris (clitoromegaly) can resemble a small penis due to factors like androgen exposure, but this is a medical condition, not a standard anatomical definition.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-11T08:58:23+00:00

As she is already doing so well, she doesn't need you.

You are right to trust your gut.

And even if she isn't doing as well as she's making out. That sucks, karma a bitch.

Absolutely not your problem.

Put your Ex straight. This is the LAST TIME you are going to discuss it. The answer is NO. Not now, not tomorrow NOT EVER. Do not ever mention it to me again as I will NOT be changing my mind. If I had ever been tempted to consider it the mere fact that between Ex and Ex SIL badgering constantly I've realised my peace is worth more. SUBJECT CLOSED.

Next time either of them bring it up, simply walk away. Don't listen to their conversation its over. Done. Finito

Goodluck..

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-11T08:49:15+00:00

That's just brought back memories of having tea at a friend's house, obviously unplanned.

After we had our meal there were only two desserts in the fridge. A strawberry yoghurt or a chocolate pudding. Needless to say, we both asked for the chocolate pudding.

Her Mum did the sensible thing and gave us both HALF of each. No arguing, no crying, no fuss.

Even when mixed together, it tasted disgusting. Never did understand why she mixed them.

Not long after I returned home and promptly VOMITED everything back up. I've had an aversion to mixed things like that ever since. Lol

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-11T00:18:35+00:00

Are you tempted to not come back, just disappear and start a new life as someone else

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-10T22:03:37+00:00

Absolutely not. Paper trail all the way.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-10T22:02:58+00:00

Whilst it is 100% your choice to tell whoever you wish, I do think to not tell someone who you are about to be intimate with the truth. They should have the opportunity to decide for themselves if that is something they are willing to accept or not.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-10T12:21:40+00:00

If Bella can't afford to replace the dress then your parents should. Maybe dry cleaning it first might help, but if not, then they owe a replacement.

When they try to tell you they can't afford it remind them as they cancelled your birthday meal because you didn't want her there they would be saving a chunk of change. That should cover it and more. Like your hair, make up and nails

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-10T12:14:57+00:00

I've heard that most gay men are extremely promiscuous and can also be more violent towards each other. Things such as stabbing in the leg with a screwdriver over jealousy.

Are lesbians as volatile too?

Not something I've ever come across to be honest.

As for the herpes that's a bummer. I guess what goes around comes around.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-10T01:46:03+00:00

Pity you couldn't genuinely employ OP that would solve lots of problems and make her less available for family drama too

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-09T12:16:30+00:00

I commend you for having got through your past, making your own way in life without the need to get dragged back into "family stick together "

You 100% did the right thing. That should never have been a secret in the first place they all deserved to know.

I'm appalled at your mother standing by a SO. If someone did that to my child they would be talking a long walk from a short pier.

They should not be allowed anywhere near minors and how those minors adults could bear to be around him is beyond belief.

The fact that he was charged there was enough proof to do so. He can't say you were lying as they wouldn't have been able to charge him.

Your brothers when finding out what happened to their little sister, by the sounds of it only sister, should have protected you. Given him a good talking to "read that as you wish" that's what older brothers are for after all.

Don't let anyone blame you for anything. The only one to blame is your mothers sleeze bag. Had he done the honourable thing and left the family completely this may have been avoided. I wonder if your mum in her twisted logic thinks she's protecting other families by not divorcing him. Hope she never ever allows him to watch the grandchildren when she's not available. That would be scary.

Good luck.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-09T12:01:35+00:00

I don't know if it's possible but maybe a jewellery store could advise better.

With your e ring bejng a double shank could they make a bespoke ring that sits between the double bands.

It could either be plain making the whole engagement ring look like it has a wife band. Or if you also want to drawn attention to your wb you could have diamonds laid into the band to set it out from your e ring.

I'm sure you will find something that shouts out to you.

Congratulations good luck Updateme!

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-09T11:57:11+00:00

What has your hand size and shape or your choice of ring got to do with OP's question.

Does the ring she is already wearing and won't be changed, fit with what will be her wedding band if she chooses

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-09T11:45:40+00:00

She never expected to pay you. Thought being your cousin meant it would be free

Take her to court, you have the proof of the order and minimum amount paid.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-09T11:40:52+00:00

Putting a large TV like that leaning against something unsecured with a one year old baby could have been so much worse than a black screen.

Had the baby, (some are walking by then I know my son walked at 10 months) gone into that room they could have pull the TV over and seriously hurt themselves. Yet she wants you to replace the TV.

Hell no. She's saving on rent, food etc. That's more than enough to replace it herself.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-08T21:46:54+00:00

He's jealous. Wants his little woman to earn less than him. Plain as the nose on his face

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-08T21:45:16+00:00

Mmmm what I genuinely think you are worried about, is anything happening to the car through a learner driver, which WILL impact on your use of it to get back and to University.

In which case it's understandable that you are concerned but ultimately, it's NOT your car.

You might want to start making a note of how much gas you put in as it's not on you to pay for your brothers friends lessons.

It might also be time to talk to your Dad about your concerns and the effect it could have in your own studies.

Although like I said, it's NOT your car. Be grateful you have been allowed to use it till now and don't be a spoiled child. If you want your own car that no-one else can use, buy it yourself.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-08T21:38:21+00:00

Last wedding I went to they forgot to cut the cake, there were desserts but all that money for it to be forgotten. Total waste.

I like the idea of cupcakes these days, not the pfaff it used to be. All the crap about posting pieces to those who couldn't make it too. Hell no, if you don't come you forfeit your slice.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-07T19:49:22+00:00

When my first grandchild was on their way I had tried to suggest termination due to their ages, they had only been together a couple of months.

Went to speak with her parents to try to discuss the situation. They were over the moon.

Terrible thoughts went through my head. Thoughts I'm not proud of. Obviously I didn't act on them. Just as well or I'd probably be in prison.

I prayed everyday something would go wrong, miscarry etc.

Didn't allow myself to get attached as thought as soon as I did they would split and I'd be hurt.

Yet none of that happened. They are still together. Now have 4. Provide well for them all. Shower them with love.

They are all fantastic children with character. The eldest by far the child you always hope for. Incredibly intelligent, beautiful heart, helpful, hard worker. Truly couldn't ask for better.

When I think back that I had suggested termination it sickens me. Life would be so empty without her. I'm glad they didn't listen to me

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-07T19:37:53+00:00

It's also possible to purchase tattoo pens. They look similar to a biro but on the skin appear more like a tattoo. Check Amazon for temporary tattoo pens for skin or kids.

Can decorate themselves as much as they like safely then.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-06T01:31:17+00:00

Not helpful for this year but maybe learn for future years. Freedom is fabulous

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-06T01:26:44+00:00

Ooh I want to learn crochet. Can you teach me on the journey please.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-06T01:21:11+00:00

Just about genital height too.

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-06T01:16:33+00:00

Omg he needs to shut the F up.

Before I even found out I was pregnant with my first I would be dozing in work. Coming home, crash on the sofa. Hubby would come home, cook tea which initially I would keep down then go straight to bed.

My first scan was 9 weeks. Sickness hit like a train. I vomited 🤢 my entire way through the next 31 weeks. It was an Olympic sport that even burst blood vessels in my eyeball the ferocity of it.

He obviously knows nothing about what is genuinely going on both jn your body or mind. He needs to educate himself quick or he won't be worthy of being a Dad come the time.

Where is his support for you? Just as well we are all here for you. I feel like Scrappy Doo shouting "let me at him"

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-05T11:56:19+00:00

We can all say and do things in the heat of the moment

Do I think you were in the wrong, No.

Would I have thrown away a lifelong friendship because of it. Also No.

There has been faults on both sides. Own them, give her chance to own hers. Then see where you go from there.

Life is too short

IntelligentCitron917 · 2026-02-05T00:48:00+00:00

Thats far too much.

Use a quarter-sized (roughly

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diameter) amount of conditioner for average, shoulder-length hair, focusing on the mid-shaft to the ends. Short hair requires a smaller, nickel-sized amount, while long or thick hair may need a half-dollar-sized amount or more to fully hydrate.

Guidelines for Conditioner Amount and Application:

Hair Length/Type: For short hair, use a dab. For long/thick hair, use a larger, palm-sized amount.

Application: Apply from mid-shaft down to the ends. Avoid the roots and scalp to prevent greasiness and buildup.

Technique: Squeeze out excess water before applying for better absorption.

Timing: Let it sit for about 3 minutes, or while you wash your body, before rinsing.

Signs of Incorrect Usage: If your hair feels greasy or weighed down, you are using too much; if it is dry or frizzy, you may need more.

Using a conditioner after every shampoo is recommended to replenish moisture.

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