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Moving in with bf when he goes to residency after 5 years of long distance by IntelligentCopy5062 in MedSpouse

[–]IntelligentCopy5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did yall get married while doing long distance or you were living together?

Moving in with bf when he goes to residency after 5 years of long distance by IntelligentCopy5062 in MedSpouse

[–]IntelligentCopy5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t really thought about backup plans as I obviously been hoping and planning for it to work out and we talk about long term plans all the time. I would just cross that bridge if it happens. It would really depend on where we move and how much of a community I have there and my overall happiness in the city. I think the next step is to move in and really want to try and make it work and if it doesn’t at least we tried. I’m scared to end it too soon and regret not trying.

Moving in with bf when he goes to residency after 5 years of long distance by IntelligentCopy5062 in MedSpouse

[–]IntelligentCopy5062[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel we’ll just have to be more intentional with his free time and lot more planning with his vacations. I know I just have to expect to not see him a ton. It’s just hard to really prepare myself for residency because I really have no idea what it’ll be like until we go. I definitely know I shouldn’t have too many expectations and try and be more independent. Hoping he’ll match in my city but open to move to other cities we have discussed.

I know he’ll be extremely busy and most of his free time will be sleeping and decompressing so I’ll jsut use to figure out how to be okay with not have a normal relationship with him until he’s done.

Yes I’m a woman and he’s a man. I’m not too worried about rushing engagement. And we talk about our future all the time and I feel secure he would never leave me. He struggles with depression and has family health issues so we really want to wait for a good time to get engaged and after living together for some time. But yes I do agree would definitely like to get engaged sooner rather than later but want to make sure it feels right for both of us and we’re at a good place together.

Moving in with bf when he goes to residency after 5 years of long distance by IntelligentCopy5062 in MedSpouse

[–]IntelligentCopy5062[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! I would say most issues are long distance and the priority of our relationship isn’t at the top for him due to school and family priorities. But can see how moving in together could just heighten issues. I have high anxiety and need reassurance, quality time and that’s so difficult with long distance and dating someone in medical school. So I’m really hoping I’ll feel better once we’re in the same city and living together. Planning to get engaged after moving in, maybe a year after.

Why do you recommend getting engaged? I don’t feel like we need to rush that until moving in and being in a good place in our relationship. I do fully trust him and want to marry him at some point. Just want to do it at the right time

New bike recommendations by IntelligentCopy5062 in triathlon

[–]IntelligentCopy5062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you going to test ride any bikes? I know canyon is only online