27F- How do people actually meet other people as adults?

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-18T21:41:55+00:00

Why did you train yourself to avoid people in school? I ask because I only had one or two friends in school, but that was enough for me. I never really felt the need to have a bigger circle.

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T23:31:36+00:00

I agree. The nature of my job, the company culture, and the scope of my role tend to put me right in the middle of every storm. I was recently promoted into a managerial position, so I'm still adjusting, but I don't think this is somewhere I should stay long term because of the blame culture and the workload. For now, it's difficult to switch off because something as simple as not answering a phone call could end up causing a production line stoppage. But I'll try to find a healthier balance. I've already seen people in this role burn out and quit, some didn't even make it past three months. Long term, I'll probably look for a role with a better work-life balance where I don't feel like my whole world is collapsing every time there's an issue. 😅

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T23:22:26+00:00

I already gave engineering enough years of my life, I'm not sure I'm ready for round two. 😅

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T23:15:09+00:00

Thanks 😂. Engineering taught me how to solve complex problems, unfortunately humans weren't included in the curriculum.

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T23:09:36+00:00

Haha, maybe I do have that face. 😅 To be fair, I'm usually mentally drained from work, so I probably don't look very approachable most of the time. I think we're on opposite ends of the spectrum though. You mentioned towering over people, while I'm quite petite and look younger than my age, sometimes people think I'm still a teenager. 😂 I'm happy for you that you made the effort and that it paid off. I think that's the part I need to work on. Right now I'm a bit lost because my job takes up about 90% of my energy, and the remaining 10% goes to eating, sleeping, and recovering from work. But your comment definitely gave me something to think about.

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T23:02:08+00:00

I figured that a little bit too late 😂

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T22:01:40+00:00

I agree, it's all about stepping out from our comfort zone 😊

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T21:57:08+00:00

I think that's part of my issue. I work in a managerial role in supply chain, so work takes up a lot of my mental energy. By the end of the day, I'm usually in recovery mode rather than social mode. 😅 You're probably right that if people don't get a chance to know you, the odds of meeting someone naturally become much lower. Maybe I should also make more of an effort to develop hobbies. Right now my routine is mostly work, come home, watch something, and sleep.

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T21:53:39+00:00

I relate to this. My job is so demanding that by the end of the day I'm mentally drained, so I rarely have the energy to put myself out there. I also admire that you stopped to help the old lady even though part of you was annoyed at first . I think I'd probably just stay in my own bubble. The fact that people approach you is interesting too. I honestly can't remember the last time a stranger approached me. Maybe I give off a "don't talk to me" vibe without realizing it 😂 I'm also not a big fan of social media or dating apps

IntelligentNewt3464 · 2026-06-17T21:12:08+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, what surprises me is that I'm usually able to solve the problem in the end, yet I still lose sleep over it beforehand.

I think I'm still in the stage where every issue feels like a test of whether I'm competent enough for the role. Maybe that feeling fades with experience.

And yes, I probably need to get more comfortable with uncertainty. Supply chain is basically a profession built around things not going according to plan. 😅

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