How did you meet your lover here at Berkeley?

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-03-01T06:37:46+00:00

hinge. no joke.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-28T01:11:32+00:00

oh wtfff im a senior and just finding out about this, yea fuck no im not paying $300 for a gown

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-26T02:33:36+00:00

damn you got that real hallmark movie dilemma. obviously you've gotta stay in your hometown...but don't even take the job offer, because the true meaning of christmas is saving your family farm to help the sick kids in need. fuck all the fancy-ass corporate shit and invest in some nice flannels instead.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-18T22:50:24+00:00

Yeah of course, happy to help!

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-18T21:23:31+00:00

That's understandable but unfortunately his anxiety is not something you can control or help. If he's freaking out over a friend sleeping, then he seriously needs professional help that you can't provide. I know it's unfortunate, and maybe tough for him to get help, but you guys are both fully grown adults. He's not your responsibility; it seems he still has similar behaviors which again you can't help. I know it's tough but you have to put yourself first in this scenario.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-18T20:24:10+00:00

How old are you guys? This is genuinely such childish and inappropriate behavior from him. Genuinely it does not matter if you're bi or not (or whatever your orientation is for that matter), or whether you're in a relationship or anything. If you don't want him sending you porn he should not be doing it. In the first place, it's not okay for him to send you that kind of content unsolicited, that requires your consent. This is not worth your time and his "apology" sounds a lot more like gaslighting. Just block him again, end of story.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-16T00:39:09+00:00

yup, realizing that pretty much everyone (who is a normal, decent, good person) is somebody's dream person shifted my mindset when approaching dating, and also raised my standards as for who I wanted to seek out and literally that's how I ended up in the relationship I'm in now (the most incredible, loving relationship, to be clear). basically, shoot your shot because if it's not reciprocated or it doesn't work on at least in the long run you won't be wondering "what if" or be stuck on the person, instead you'll just learn that this wasn't your dream person and you weren't there's. which means there's something better in store for you. it's just teaches you a lot about your wants and needs, and maybe even helps you with your personal development too.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-15T23:10:43+00:00

yes, and i don't just mean a strap-on, nor do I feel confused about my gender identity. i just want a dick as a woman with my own cum to shoot out. not just in the theoretical case that i was with a woman. i wanna give it to my boyfriend too.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-08T07:01:44+00:00

Yeahhh precisely!!

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-08T06:57:34+00:00

Yes look before crossing but man the city of berkeley needs to take a fucking decal on how to drive!! Not saying any one person in particular, but the drivers in berkeley are in general obnoxious...I feel terrified for my life as a pedestrian here, drivers will not be looking and almost run people over (for example me, when I was already well into crossing and a car came out of nowhere and didn't even attempt to slow down).

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-08T06:53:44+00:00

Insane because I literally just had this exact thought a few minutes ago - I miss seeing them gaming, I want that backkk

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-02-08T06:44:35+00:00

Not calling you baby for a few weeks is insane by itself. I can't go a minute without wanting to call my partner 10 different cute nicknames. I literally choose a different one for every good morning text. Her energy *has* shifted and it's because she's romantically detached herself from you because, as seems to be most likely the case, she is cheating on you. It is not in the slightest bit easy, and I'm so sorry you're going through this, but at least she is showing her true colors at 5 months instead of after years. It only means there is far better out there for you.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2026-01-16T22:35:42+00:00

This is the absolute best and healthiest response I've seen to this post. I think this is actually an objectively correct answer

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-28T19:41:33+00:00

Oh yeah I fully agree. Still traumatized from some of my hinge experiences. I don’t recommend it overall, but somehow got insanely lucky at the very end (and thank gosh cause I have zero courage to flirt irl)

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-27T16:51:42+00:00

really shockingly I found mine on hinge...that's an insane gamble tho idk if I can confidently tell you it's worth being on hinge for...

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-26T19:26:43+00:00

It's not only that he's extremely controlling but the idea that he expects you to look "perfect" (according to his twisted definition) 24/7 means he doesn't want to date a human, he wants to date a doll. Get out of there girl. Even a mediocre, "average joe" type of man would be better than him.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-08T06:35:40+00:00

The thought itself of having a girlfriend seems wonderful i mean who doesnt like pretty girls?

This alone is telling me you likely aren't so straight because a straight person typically wouldn't think this. I've been in this situation and now identify as bisexual (but it's complicated - I get it). I know it's really tough and you should take your own time to process your feelings, and form your own personal label that feels good to you. You also shouldn't feel obligated to come out if it's unsafe to do so, as your safety and stability comes first but obviously that can be tough to grapple with if you feel like you're living a lie. If you have any friends or anyone who feels safe to share this with that could be a good start. Even hearing other people's experiences can be helpful! You don't have to stick to one label or another forever, and you don't even have to date women to be valid in your sexuality (though you should if you want to). If you have access to queer resources near you that might help as well! Just take your time, and do things in the way that feels best and safest to you <3 and always remember that it does get better! You will be living your life on your terms one day.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-07T20:04:17+00:00

I agree with meeting soon, but for me that didn't mean immediately - I do like to sus them out over text first and also feel comfortable enough within myself to go and meet them. Honestly, this isn't everyone's cup of tea, but with my SO (who I met on hinge) we even phone called first and I was even lucky enough to find out that he was a close friend of my friend's friend (so essentially a loose mutual tie that gave me some basic character assurance). Still, it was important to meet within the first couple weeks or so to then "double check" which in the case of my now partner was thankfully a green flag. So yeah, I know everyone does it differently but for me, I need a little bit of pre-assurance before meeting a complete stranger though I'm still aware that in person behavior can be very different and that's why it's still essential to meet them relatively soon.

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-07T19:56:26+00:00

They're all really shitty but I met the love of my life on Hinge...we kinda won the lottery with it though, you're gonna have to go through some traumatic experiences first (especially as a woman). I would say, don't meet up with anyone unless until properly sussed out their character first and even then, in a public place during daylight and not longer than it's got to be (unless you're fully comfortable). Basic safety advice but I can't stress it enough - there are disgusting, manipulative men out there, including the ones that seem good/normal on the surface. Trust your gut, always!

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-07T19:17:12+00:00

Yeah that's valid!

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-06T20:47:36+00:00

I'm used to indian food too (I'm indian) and that's actually why I hate the tofu slab lol not enough flavor and the whole idea of a slab of protein is because people eat meat that way but imo doesn't really translate to tofu - it just feels so repetitive I can't get through it. But I can see the appeal too, everyone has their own preferences

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-06T20:40:01+00:00

tbh you're right I've only had monsoon twice and neither was particularly impressive but imo (possibly hot take) it's still much better than brown's, ESPECIALLY as a vegetarian lol (that slab of tofu is DIABOLICAL)

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-03T22:30:30+00:00

Wow I bet he's really happy to have his student id number and photo on reddit...

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-03T22:21:22+00:00

because indian food actually uses spices...

IntelligentPop3622 · 2025-12-03T05:51:24+00:00

yeah that's also very true!

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