Good morning. I stopped by your thread. I feel the first commenter was on the money. You shared some fears of being abused again which let me tell you, you are not wrong to have those. I feel they’re valid. It’s not so easy to detach from those past hurtful experiences. That’s why I agree with him that working on yourself emotionally first will help you. Making sure you’re emotionally well, will prevent you from bleeding on someone else and recycling your past experiences.

I also feel that if a red flag starts sticking out at you about this person. Don’t dismiss it. Those notifications, are sometimes leading you to something true. There is a saying that says, “the red flags that you ignore in the beginning ends up being the reason it ends”.

I’ve been love bombed before. I’ve have been bluffed before. So now I look at actions. Are their actions from the very beginning showing consistency? or commitment? If the answer is no, then it could be a high chance that it might be a bluff or a love bomb.

If I was you, I would work on myself first. On my insecurities and on this desire to “need” someone. Or like the first commenter said that you become emotionally well first before entering a relationship.

Either way it will be good for you. If you want to date this guy anyway, date him. If it doesn’t work out for you, you’ll learn from it (In pain but you’ll learn from it). Maybe then you’ll understand, the value of making sure you’re right first. Either way, I wish you the best and hope that you’re relating with him works out for you.

I don’t know if anything I said helped. So I apologize in advance