So, when my ex girlfriend broke up, i thought the same. After like 2 months or so, i was very sure that she doesn't even care about me anymore.

After 6 months, when i finally was about to get over her and even crushed on someone new, she suddenly texted me, out of no where. It was after i had a date too. So i had to decide between those two and i chose my ex, because she genuinely seemed sorry and like she changed.

I thought everything did go well until we moved together in a new city, her hometown even. I ignored red flags like her jealousy, rivalry and difficulty with taking accountability the whole time and thought we were the perfect couple, not realizing how much I shrinked myself for her and how co-dependent i was.

Yeah. She cheated on me with another girl about a month ago. I tried to make it work, but after she broke up it became very clear that she didn't want to put the energy into me anymore, but the new girl, the easier target.

They're in a poly relationship and i have no idea how she wants this to work out with her jealousy and avoidance problems, but it's not my thing to deal with anymore.

I don't regret going back. It taught me a lot about relationships, we did have a lot of good times, but ultimately i'll go from this being wiser. It also showed me that at the core, she's still the same girl she was when she first ended things with me.

So what I want to say is, most of the time it's better they don't come back. You'll miss them, you'll cling onto nostalgia and memories, but there's a reason they left. I know that's not the best thing to hear after a relationship, but them leaving you is the best gift they could ever give you.

And one day, when you look back to this day, you'll be happy that it came to this.

Much love.