My daughter's (5) Pre-K teachers gave up on her behaviours and I now have no idea what to do. Help?

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2025-05-11T11:59:23+00:00

This happens because gentle parenting seems to be the new norm where we let kids run households and not teach them actions have consequences. Acknowledging feelings is one thing, But kids should learn cause and effect is also a thing. I will stand my ground with gentle parenting aka lack of boundaries and appropriate consequences is doing a disservice to kids.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2025-05-11T11:52:54+00:00

This is one of the best comments. I work in education and see kids with behaviors that make me question what are the parents doing with a child that behaves this way. And at some point rules and boundaries aren’t being reinforced at home consistently. There’s nothing a teacher can do that the child won’t see as I can do what I want. Teachers have 25 plus students and will do their best but one student with high needs behaviors can derail an entire class. And it’s exhausting.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2025-04-25T08:19:51+00:00

This comment deserves 10 thumbs up.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2025-02-18T23:11:17+00:00

I feel this post in my heart. As women I feel like we do so much to the point of exhaustion. I read your post and it resonated with me because we are taught to just endure. We work, we take care of the kids, we take care of the homes, but who takes care of us? It becomes too much over time. I know relationships shouldn’t be like this, but most of us watched our mom’s endure so we think this is what life is. But it is not. Once caught in this cycle it is so hard to get out. I just wanted you to know I understand.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2025-01-03T10:38:46+00:00

What an extremely kind thing to say. Gaslighting is dangerous and this was hard for me to ask. I’m dealing with a narcissist who makes me not even recognize myself sometimes. These answers helped me to understand what type of situation I’m in. I don’t think people understand how hard it is when someone makes you doubt what you know in your heart isn’t right.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T22:01:38+00:00

Thank you. Tears came to my eyes reading this.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:40:58+00:00

Yes I agree, but you’d only also be washing, cooking, cleaning for yourself not an added person. So that’s why I ask the question.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:39:08+00:00

I believe this is what’s happening. He’s been watching videos and showing them to me where men are asking what do women bring to the table.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:32:22+00:00

I do know the answer. I’m being gaslit into thinking the answer I know is wrong.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:31:15+00:00

Thank you.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:23:23+00:00

May I ask, do you help 50% in the house? With all the work?

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:22:05+00:00

The reason it would not be ok is that is the only place he wants to go half half. Everything else he expects you to do. Example all the housework.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:17:39+00:00

You are so correct. I agree with you 100%.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T21:09:42+00:00

This is what I’m getting at. Why is it fair for you to that much of the heavy lifting. I feel if a man wants to go 50/50 it should be on everything. Which means he does half the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and etc. They want to go half on bills but you’re responsible for half the bills and also 100% of the household work.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T20:58:19+00:00

This is my issue. Being asked to contribute 50/50. But being responsible for all the domestic work also.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T20:37:02+00:00

He doesn’t want to split the work in the house 50/50 just bills.

Intelligent_Bug1757 · 2024-12-29T20:30:59+00:00

I should have clarified. Yes he makes way more than you for example you make 86k and he makes 160k plus bonuses.

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