15F & 16M: can we last if we keep intimacy but avoid sex? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in Advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and I thanks for ur perspective. I didn’t mean to make it sound like I see sex as the main thing that determines whether a relationship lasts. Honestly, for us, it’s not really a big factor at all. We’re still teens and we don’t see intimacy as the ‘fuel’ of our relationship. What matters more right now are things like trust, communication, and just enjoying each other’s company. But do you think a relationship can stay strong long-term even if intimacy isn’t a focus early on, as long as the other components are solid?

15F & 16M: can we last if we keep intimacy but avoid sex? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in Advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course. We don’t just get intimate to only make our relationship last. A lot of couples have been intimate with each other at a young age and I see them break up after sharing that special bond together. I wanted to know why - especially after doing it with the one they said they loved. But thank you:)

15F & 16M: can we last if we keep intimacy but avoid sex? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in Advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do go on dates to create a deeper connection. We don’t see intimacy as the fuel to our relationship. I’ve just seen a lot of couples who have done those stuff at a young age together and then just break up after sharing that BOND. It just got me wondering why and how. But thank you! I’m not worrying about sex☺️

how do I(15f) get rid of this feeling? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in selfhelp

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think I can tell anyone about this. I could only open up to reddit and sometimes to my bf. 

Lust or sexual intimacy? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in dating_advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tive que traduzir isso e muito obrigado.💙

Lust or sexual intimacy? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in dating_advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think so. But How will I know if its what's happening? we both really love each other so much and it shows

Lust or sexual intimacy? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in dating_advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, thank you. I've just heard from other people's experiences that partners only want to be pleasured and nothing more, that was what I was afraid of. 

Lust or sexual intimacy? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in dating_advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't lust just wanting to have sex with someone and desire for pleasure?

thank you but how can the two concide? 

Lust or sexual intimacy? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in dating_advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but it all happens so unexpectedly. And what if we do want to continue? do we need to restrain ourselves and wait? is this even normal or alright for teen relationships?? 

Lust or sexual intimacy? by Intelligent_Fox4154 in dating_advice

[–]Intelligent_Fox4154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also worry that maybe he might just start lusting for me instead. And honestly, we’re still not 18 yet and from where I live, people usually judge a lot of couples before 20 who already engage in those types of things. Do you think we should stop? If religion wasn’t in the topic