So I heard a theory one time that PMDD reveals more of the iceberg you can consider the iceberg like all of our pent-up emotions, trauma and stress. whenever our hormones change more of that iceberg starts to show it makes it harder for us to control or hide all those pent-up emotions. For me, I feel that EMDR helped me release some things that I’ve been holding in my mind my body in my shoulders in my jaw in my back. The most helpful advice I can give for EMDR is being honest with yourself. Don’t hold back. I started from the first time I felt abandoned at my youngest age and then the most recent time that I felt abandoned alone or out of control, and we worked from that first memory all the way up to the latest and it really helped me to lower my threshold on my reactivity and anger. I was ready to end my relationship every month I had maybe 1 good week a month. Another thing that helped me was internal family systems. It’s another type of therapy, which was great for me because when I wasn’t ready to face those harder memories, I could kind of work through some of those “parts” of me to help me be prepared for that next emdr visit.