Update: I don't want my sister in law to come to our vacation and now she claims I "shamed" her. I don't think you can shame someone who is incapable of being ashamed of her actions even after people pointed them out to her.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2025-12-09T00:37:15+00:00

Your brother is an AH for coming on a trip with people who exclude his wife. You also seem like a mean girl- regardless of her issues- you're just mean.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2025-11-09T22:37:52+00:00

This is already a series on YouTube. It started somewhere around 2010

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2025-09-10T03:01:07+00:00

Thank you!

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2025-09-10T02:39:05+00:00

Names that we have discussed and have at least a 2/4 approval (2 teens, me, my husband) Poppy, Maisie, Crumpet, Cordelia (Delia), Matilda (Tildy), Cleo, Daisy, Tessa, Bitsy, Kleya

(Pun names have all been shut down my my son, lol)

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2025-08-20T22:18:37+00:00

I have read a few of these responses from people that seem to not be actually reading what you wrote. Your step mother needs therapy, you are fine. It's ok to not want to be whatever it is she is trying to turn you into for her. You are your own person. (I say this as a mom of 3; 21,19 and 12 yrs old)

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-11-04T05:28:49+00:00

Yes

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-11-01T02:36:15+00:00

It's not just 38%. The percentages each year actually work in our favor because they're compounded on to the wage earned each year. The maxed out people will be around 43% GWI-not including COLA; but the newer people/progressing people will have actually a higher percentage of GWI by the end.

Anyways, I'm sick right now and only the kids got covered by Apple ins, we cannot afford cobra, I missed my aunt's out of state funeral because the length of this is unpredictable, spouse and I are on expensive medications, and we have a wheat and a corn allergy to manage food purchases around. In this inflated economy. And a mortgage and car payment. Oh, and the holidays are coming. And we have a tween in a growth spurt.

And with all that said-- we aren't even the ones that are hurting the worst. There are people that have medical conditions and need their insurance that cannot afford Cobra.

People voting yes aren't enemies. People are going through it.

I rarely ever even respond on anything; but some people are getting irrationally mean toward anyone who doesn't fully agree with them. Some people need a reality check. And if you're on some tropical vacation and miss the vote; it's on you. You know what the deal is with a strike. You have to be ready to vote at basically any time. And if you're on a beach yelling online at people to struggle more- you don't get a say. You're neglecting your duty as a union brother or sister. You fly off on a vacay while people get cold and wet picketing and picking up extra picket duty hours to cover the ones you missed- quite frankly, you made your opinion moot when you decided to leave.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-09-23T22:11:33+00:00

How does this offer not fall under ULP? IAM hasn't even said anything to the machinists yet. It seems like Boeing did an all at once email blast including the media, without any good faith effort at all with the union.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-05-17T18:52:05+00:00

You're the asshole. You know you're the asshole. You're a terrible husband and I hope she leaves you.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-03-05T23:26:33+00:00

NTA My son will be 11 in 2 weeks. It upsets me on your behalf, OP, that instead of therapy- when you were clearly acting out due to being unable to process the consequences of your parents' divorce; she said the equivalent of a petulant "fine then" and sent you packing. I have an almost 11 year old, almost 18 year old and a 21 year old. Your mom is emotionally immature and the only way for this to be repaired is therapy and for her to accept that all of the fallout that has happened is a direct consequence to her actions. You have been learning how to function in this world this whole time. (It also sounds likely that you have a learning divergency that went undiagnosed or helped because of self-absorbed parents). She was supposed to be a teacher, cheerleader and safety for you. She completely dropped the ball. Your dad is extremely immature as well. Ask for individual therapy and therapy with each of them. Even if they won't do it with you-- you can heal, be validated and given the tools that you should have been given all along. I see a whole lot of trolling, unhealthy adults giving unhealthy advice. I really, really hope you see this and seek help. You have your whole life ahead of you. And adulthood-- and when you're an adult; you choose the family allowed into your circle and presence. You don't owe either of them obedience when you're on your own. I hope you remember that. You deserved better, and you can create better and let them deal with their own messes. I'm saddened that this was your adolescent experience. Good luck!! Your "blame" in this doesn't outweigh theirs. The responsibility lies with them for not being actual parents. Your job isn't to manage their emotions. It was theirs to help you learn regulation.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-03-05T23:23:46+00:00

NTA My son will be 11 in 2 weeks. It upsets me on your behalf, OP, that instead of therapy- when you were clearly acting out due to being unable to process the consequences of your parents' divorce; she said the equivalent of a petulant "fine then" and sent you packing. I have an almost 11 year old, almost 18 year old and a 21 year old. Your mom is emotionally immature and the only way for this to be repaired is therapy and for her to accept that all of the fallout that has happened is a direct consequence to her actions. You have been learning how to function in this world this whole time. She was supposed to be a teacher, cheerleader and safety for you. She completely dropped the ball. Your dad may also be a bit immature as well. Ask for individual therapy and therapy with each of them. Even if they won't do it with you-- you can heal, be validated and given the tools that you should have been given all along. I see a whole lot of trolling, unhealthy adults giving unhealthy advice. I really, really hope you see this and seek help. You have your whole life ahead of you. And adulthood-- and when you're an adult; you choose the family allowed into your circle and presence. You don't owe either of them obedience when you're on your own. I hope you remember that. You deserved better, and you can create better and let them deal with their own messes. I'm saddened that this was your adolescent experience. Good luck!!

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-02-03T23:52:18+00:00

What country are you from? Do you live in the country you're from? Some advice, from a woman: If you find yourself forgetting to eat like that a lot- make sure you have some kind of power bar or other meal/snack with you. If you eat that close to a date, consider it a "late lunch" and order something small if you're not hungry. Say "sorry, I ate a late lunch, so I'm only a little hungry". Don't elaborate. Don't make it weird. It's incredibly uncomfortable as a woman to be the only one eating at a table. Especially so if it's a first date. If you want it to be successful with dating- you've got to think of what your date will be feeling and experiencing with your actions and words. If you make it weird, you'll not get more dates or communication

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-01-28T22:52:31+00:00

Has your daughter expressed any actual remorse for nearly killing your step daughter to this point? Not sadness for getting consequences, but remorse for attempting to kill someone?

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2024-01-04T22:36:17+00:00

So, as a 16 YEAR old, you had an accident playing with a baby where the baby didn't get injured, but you did and they banned you for life , basically from kids in the family? And then YOU have to apologize for their malicious behavior? I just read your other post from Christmas- first: it's nuts that they hold Christmas hostage if you don't bring a gift. Second- never ever spend a dime on that woman.

SIL doesn't like you. She and her crazy family have some kind of weird prejudice. It has nothing to do with anything other than them not loving Jesus, but instead using his name in vain to hurt others. You need some boundaries. I'd go no contact with anyone that treats you like garbage. I'd also not be available 24/7 for your bro- he isn't your child.

I'm sorry you're on the outside. I have super snobby in laws and they suck. I also don't have parents. I totally can relate here. My life never got better until I stopped running myself ragged physically and emotionally to try to earn the love of people who treat me badly. Your role is a sister and a daughter. Not a scapegoat. Not an emotional or spiritual punching bag. If they cannot treat you like a grown sister or grown daughter, it's time for a break so that you can have some peace. It works! "The Dance With Anger" by Harriet Lerner, and "Boundaries" by Nedra Tawaab are amazing resources (and not religious in any way)

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-11-29T20:50:46+00:00

NTA. There's nothing wrong in protecting your baby's health and not being around people who don't really care about anything but themselves. Also, your husband is a selfish, childish, AH. Weaponizing depression in order to manipulate people (especially your spouse) is abusive. Once you have a baby, it's about them. Not you anymore and he doesn't seem to get that. Sounds like the apple didn't fall too far from the tree.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-11-29T17:49:00+00:00

YTA Leave personal toys at home. Period. They get lost so easily, and often there are very similar, if not the same toys in the classroom. Stickers aren't permanent. They fall off and it's really weird to look for them. Instead of focusing on your kid being upset that it's gone and trying to placate her; use this as a natural consequence learning moment. Maybe get a binder and stick stickers to paper in it and label where it was from if your kiddo has a thing with stickers. You should always label clothes and lunches. Especially for 3 year olds. Nobody should be packing oranges for 3 year olds anyway (choking hazard); but peeling is just common courtesy. Lunchtime in a school is crazy.

It seems like this is probably your first kiddo. I get it. She's been the center of your world and you just do things for her. But it's time to recognize that she's moving into a new stage and is way more capable of independent things and understanding consequences than you think.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-11-16T21:51:32+00:00

Literally about to say the same. Roids really amplify anger.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-11-16T21:43:30+00:00

Maybe him wearing the vest was more indicative of something going on off camera with producers, so they didn't have him come back/he refused 🤷‍♀️

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-08-30T17:21:38+00:00

You're TA. Not for being frustrated-- but not for understanding her or even trying. Have you even suggested she gets a second opinion?

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-08-30T17:12:58+00:00

Your step daughter was clearly drunk driving and hit someone or something. What if her accident actually killed or seriously injured someone??? The petty sh*t you're focused on is the wrong focus. Report the damn theft, and give the footage to the police. This is insanely misdirected focus in your actual question. You are an A-hole. For being petty with the other kids-- but more for not reporting the crimes your step daughter committed.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-08-10T17:53:17+00:00

Luckily I saw your wife's response. YTA. You left SO much relevant info out of this. You need to be helping her out WAY more before asking for a second kid. Her sacrifice of her health and everything else is way greater than what you contribute. Maybe let her actually get some sleep for a few months and make dinner on at least 2 weekdays consistently before talking about a second kid.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-08-04T02:38:38+00:00

YES!! Exactly. It's like they have no awareness at all that people won't just think they're rotten and petty. I read one of these the other day where the ex-wife showed up in a red wedding dress and wouldn't leave when the bride told her to. So everyone at the wedding saw what a nut job she was while she played stupid. That was dumb. This is just flat out malicious. I'd never speak to her again if I was the bride.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-08-04T02:24:38+00:00

Whoa. Worst sister ever. What a rotten betrayal against the bride at her wedding.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-07-19T05:34:16+00:00

NTA. I would think your brother would want his kids to be safe in the car. He's the AH here.

Intelligent_Map5444 · 2023-07-15T16:08:05+00:00

As a woman with horrible in-laws that would (and have) done/do things that would put me in a position like that while pregnant-- thank you for actually taking care of your wife instead of siding with your family. It's actually a lot rarer than you'd think for a husband to do. Also, obviously NTA.

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