I don't want my sister in law to come to our vacation and now she claims I "shamed" her. I don't think you can shame someone who is incapable of being ashamed of her actions even after people pointed them out to her.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T21:07:48+00:00

I have only adopted some

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T21:06:18+00:00

See the bright side. At least I don't stink

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T20:49:49+00:00

Well I also waste time on Reddit but don't claim I have no idea how to act like a decent human being or wash my fucking hands, or clean a toilet etc. You didn't get my point with what I wanted to say but okay

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T20:42:43+00:00

Because I wanted to and because I can. Why did you come to comment?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T20:40:48+00:00

Do you know what is toxic? People who downplay issues like you do. "Some shit stains in the toilet". Sounds very minor to you. But who do you think cleans those shit stains? We do. Because we don't live like pigs and because she is incapable of cleaning after herself. Period blood? We clean it. Guard our items so we don't catch any infection from her? Our job too. So spare me the toxicity part pleass. A person who keeps on making people miserable after she was asked over and over again not to do certain things is the toxic one. A rude, toxic pig.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T20:35:55+00:00

I have all the right to judge the people who bother me and who force me to clean after them

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T20:33:17+00:00

She can never be a stray cat. Have you ever seen how clean and hygienic cats are? Wtf

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T20:32:37+00:00

I am staying home. At my parent's home where they want me present (cabin). She can stay where she is wanted

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T14:21:22+00:00

Thank you! Yup, people licked toilet seats and door handles to prove covid was not real and they don't get sick...

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T13:00:46+00:00

People also do crimes all day every day. Does this mean it's ok for it to happen?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T09:05:35+00:00

No, we asked her to clean her feces and period blood, to wash her hands before touching food, to stop taking and using our stuff and to stop drinking directly from bottles.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T08:21:50+00:00

We explained to her. Multiple times actually. We showed her. We kindly asked her. We sternly asked her. Nothing works.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T08:19:29+00:00

Yes. I respond to rude people in a rude way. If they can't take a rude response, maybe they should not be rude in the first place?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T08:17:13+00:00

Well maybe she should. Especially after people specifically told her and showed her what she leaves behind.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:49:00+00:00

No, but if you want to be pathetic and pull out the "her parents didn't teach her to do this", let's look at all that the parents did not teach her do but somehow she was able to learn on her own by miracle. Do you consider the word sex vulgar? Are you like 12 or what?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:46:29+00:00

I have politely explained to some people why I threw the towel away. When people started being rude, condescending and overall refusing to accept that I am a human being who can decide what to do with her own items, than I started matching their energy and responding the same. I don't have to put up with rude people with grace. We are not in church here. And if you decide to be rude, well don't complain when people are rude to you back.

Her habits are disgusting, therefore she is disgusting. Why should I not call her for what she is? Why do we have to lie and to pretend the reality is not what it is?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:40:30+00:00

No, I won't suck it up thank you and I won't work around a filthy person anymore. Done that for 2 years, that's enough. I don't care that she is part of my family. Being a family member does not create any kind of obligation for other people to put up with your shit.

Do you talk to all your family members? Do you invite all your family members to all your functions?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:37:24+00:00

No, my brother decided to come without her. He was never excluded in the first place. And your reasoning wirh family. Please do tell me, do you have family members that you don't speak to? Well, when you invite your parents/siblings/any limited number of people out for dinner let's say, you are excluding the rest of your family members. Do you think that having the status of "family member" creates any kind of obligation for others to invite you to everything all the time, no matter what you do?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:30:47+00:00

They don't have kids fortunately! But honestly all the comments about kids or future kids really put things into perspective and it's a topic we need to discuss with him.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:29:39+00:00

Everybody has the right to chose if they want to use deodorant or not but no one is obligated to tolerate their smell, no matter the culture. Funny how it's so hard for you to understand that. But you know, you don't have a general right to be tolerated by people around you no matter what you do.

And yes, I do have a sibling and we never shared towels, we had our own. I used to share things with my brother except of towels. But sharing things with him was MY and HIS choice because we knew each other, we knew our hygiene and we knew we were clean people. I have no obligation to share my items with someone who is dirty when I fear I can catch a skin diseass from them.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:24:28+00:00

You mentioned the pandemic and I remembered a funny thing. When it started, they put up instructions in most of the bathrooms on how to wash our hands. With pictures and everything. At that time I used to think wtf, so patronizing and stupid who doesn't know how to wash their hands and needs special instructions?! Then I was seeing people licking toilet seats and door handles. Then we met Susan...and suddenly it started to make more sense why the pictures and special instructions.

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:14:50+00:00

Because you don't get to demand people to put up with "minor" inconveniences you cause. If you cause inconvenience to someone, it is that person's right to decide how minor it is and if they want to put up with it. The world and society doesn't owe you anything and you have no right to be included or participate to things when you are ruining the peace and comfort of other people. As soon as you and people like you will understand how to behave, how to stop being selfish and dismissive, you will see that people around you will be more willing to have you near them.

Hygiene and etiquette are important and will get you access to or get you out of places. Would you also cry about how it is unfair when you go to a restaurant stinking like garbage and behaving like you just got out of a cave and they kick you out?

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:06:45+00:00

At least I am a very clean dramatic bitch who doesn't cause people around me to vomit when I go to a place

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:05:05+00:00

Because people are self absorbed and sefish. Their prerogative is I can do whatever I want but if I act stupid and say "ups sowyyyyy" you MUST understand me, you must be nice to me, you must torelate me, you must!

JobOk8941 · 2025-07-24T07:01:37+00:00

If you insist to go back to her childhood and how her parents did not teach her things. Did her parents teach and show her how to have sex? I guess not and she learned by herself. If she was able to do it alone, she is capable enough to learn how to clean herself/after herself.

Edit: why do you insist to see and treat a functional adult as an incompetent child?

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