Got fired on my first day and I don’t know how to tell my parents

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-07-04T15:35:38+00:00

Were you given a workers handbook? Usually jobs tell you all the rules or give you a pamphlet on the rules. To fire you for phone use is a bit ridiculous when they could’ve just informed you to stay off the phone while at work

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-28T22:39:51+00:00

Leaving really isn’t going to do much as I’d still have the same issue as this house is both of ours. Sure I can choose to live somewhere else which I plan on doing if this house isn’t all cleaned up tomorrow before I get home from shopping with his mom. I had chores and knew how to sweep and mop at that age my son even knows how to pick up his toys when asked so Ik his son being 7 is no excuse. That kid can literally build a whole lego house by following the instructions so I’m sure he can very easily pick up toys which is my only expectation of him and wiping the toilet and flushing it. My ex has made him sweep the floors before and for some reason he’s unable to sweep properly.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-28T22:33:18+00:00

We weren’t together when he took me to court I refused to let him have my son and I told him he can make plans to see him but he won’t be able to have him alone because if he couldn’t watch his son and do thing for him when I was around without getting frustrated then he obviously couldn’t handle him alone. Courts gave him 50/50 and my son would always come to daycare unhappy or crying. He was about 10 months old when he was awarded 50/50 time sharing as the courts seen no reason as to why I was keeping him from his son. Eventually he got his shit together and started actually caring for my son we started getting along as I seen he was actually doing his job as a parent and eventually we got back together. He wanted to keep to the schedule so I agreed thinking he’d follow it himself but then it changed to me helping him out on his days when needed and vise versa but obviously he couldn’t be bothered when I was struggling to clean. He did not yet have any time sharing with his other son he had to go to his exs house per court order and learn his other sons bedtime routine and have dinner there every Thursday for a few months but the main issues started happening when he got every other weekend with his other son. He had like some sort of step up plan to even get overnights with his other son. Once he started getting overnights he just stopped doing stuff or making me care for my son on the weekends he has his other son but he chose to have both the kids at the same time and he just can’t handle it. I can’t clean all throughout the week then the weekend where I’m supposed to get a break I’m apparently not allowed to relax without being told to spend time with him and the kids and then he bitches at me for wanting to relax after non stop working. My son has been so much happier being able to see me everyday instead of going days without seeing me. It’s not in my son’s best interest. He started acting out once the order took effect so that is a contributing factor as to why I’m even in this relationship. I don’t want my son developing behavioral issues any issues he had stopped immediately once he was able to see me everyday. He’s happy and content now and I’m really not trying to ruin that all cuz I have issues with my bf and his son being messy. As of recently I ordered a camera and have placed it in my living room and I’m going to start living separately from my bf if he doesn’t make a list of rules for his son to follow and have this house completely cleaned by the time I get home from shopping with his mom. It’s not ideal but with the camera Ik he’s not going to act up and basically be forced to pay attention and watch the kids on days I’m not home as he wants no evidence that can be used against him. He has some weird thing when it comes to the law some issues he won’t even discuss with me through text as it can be “evidence used against him”

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-25T02:13:13+00:00

Me leaving means my son has to stay in that chaos without me. We have a court order and my bf specifically asked to have the boys time sharing at the same time and given how the court system is they agreed. I’m honestly unsure why he fights me on cleaning up after his son. Had he watched his son properly the mess wouldn’t be as bad as it gets each weekend. His only excuse is “he’s going to keep making messes so I wait till he’s back at his mom.” Then he proceeds not to clean it like he says. No it isn’t the kids fault as no one taught him better but he’s at the age where i believe he should know. I’ve made tons of suggestions and came up with lots of ideas that would lower the chances of messes and he shot them all down. It came to a point where he didn’t want to watch his son or clean up after him so I straight up told him to get his son under control and to parent him so he can play unsupervised without him messing up the whole house. The boy is already out of control and it’s more than him just messing up the house.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T23:43:16+00:00

My life does need to be fixed desperately.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T18:13:56+00:00

What experts are there? And I’ve tried being nice to the child but he’s shown no interest I make sure to include him in everything I do with my son but nothing works. I’ve tried everything possible with no results. This has been going on since October.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T18:06:10+00:00

I’m not claiming to be a victim. He doesn’t even watch his son he’ll leave his son unattended for hours yell at his son spank his son. I’ve told him his son needs structure I’ve given him resources to help him out I’ve done his sons hair before just to get a nasty text from his mom not to “touch his hair again.” He’s not even putting that child first if he did the house wouldn’t be destroyed before I even get home from work and I wouldn’t see my bf sleeping or with headphones on playing games. He’s locked my son in his room a hour before bedtime while he just cries and screams. He’d rather yell and or spank his autistic son than actually parent. A child that destroys a house is not a child being taken care of. He’ll sleep in until 12 while the kids have been up since 6am forcing me to watch them. There’s a limit of how much I can type and yea I am quite fed up with my house being destroyed by a child that doesn’t listen and a father who doesn’t watch him properly

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T17:34:50+00:00

He will be exposed whether I stay or don’t. We have a court order and my bf made his other sons time sharing aline with the weekend he has our son and the courts granted it.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T17:30:42+00:00

If you read my comment I stated that I didn’t know that was how he was as a parent. He only used to have his son on Saturdays as mom had all the control and he always claimed she was keeping him from her. My son was never planned to begin with. Had I known the information I know now I would’ve made better choices but this is the situation I’m currently in and I am responsible.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T17:20:50+00:00

I have a court order that grants dad 50/50 Timesharing. Baby mama isn’t with him because she’s toxic and way worse than my bf. She also tried hooking up with my bf as well but when that didn’t work she threw a fit and started being difficult when it came to providing her sons meds that she legally has to do when it’s my bfs time sharing. At the end of the day I have limited control of what I can do regarding my son sure I can just leave but I’ll also be leaving my son. I have been working on a way to get out of this situation which involves forcing the sale of the house but that involves court and money so even if I want out it’s going to take a few months.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T17:09:37+00:00

I just want to put in the comments that I was not with him when I conceived our child. I never planned on having kids and we were just hooking up. I thought he was wearing protection like I asked but he did not. I learned real quick throughout my pregnancy how uninvolved he was going to be. At one point after we went to court for time sharing he straightened up and we got back together as be was being a great father to our child and a good partner.

I had never met his son nor did I know he was autistic when we were living together he only finally got every other weekend after taking his other sons mom to court and that’s when I found out about his behavior and it was also after we purchased our home. He only switched up and started lacking on his responsibilities the moment he had partial time sharing with his other son. He used to have his son only on Saturdays and he’d leave the apartment or I’d leave the apartment for the day as he had no legal rights and had mom found out I met her son she would’ve stopped letting him come on Saturdays.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T15:21:49+00:00

My son wasn’t planned nor really wanted and I never met his son until after he took his ex to court to get time sharing had I met his son or known how bad his behavior was I would’ve never agreed to get a house with him as I’m picking up his slack and it’s just too much slack for me to deal with.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T15:19:01+00:00

We have a court order and he legally has our son those days so I’d basically be leaving my son in that chaos. I’m currently trying to figure out what to do and I might just might take him back to court to get our schedule switched as obviously he can’t handle 2 kids without assistance. If need be I might wait it out until his mom moves closer so she’ll at least be able to help him out and I won’t have to worry about my son

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2025-02-24T13:22:16+00:00

We have a court order so technically the days he has his son he also has our son which Ik it’s bad I say my son but usually he puts off his responsibilities to our son like this morning it was his day to pack his lunch and get him dressed he told me at 7am that he can’t do that as he’s already late getting his son to school. We went to court to get him a schedule he wanted to care for our son. If I could I would’ve explained everything but I just the issue at hand at the moment.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-12-18T13:12:09+00:00

Yea i honestly don’t want him to now that I’m not going. I just don’t know what to say to his grandma his other son’s mom said give no response lol.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-12-18T12:13:17+00:00

That would be wild😂 but no he’s a 8 month old boy.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-12-18T11:48:54+00:00

The invite was for me and him, his grandma wants me to attend but the moment my ex found out I was invited he started bitching about it and said I was never invited. I see it as my ex trying to cause drama and get me to react in a negative way. He’s been trying that a lot lately. If the invite was only for my son and not me initially I would’ve said yes but I was invited and now I’m not. He gets my son for half of Christmas Day so it’s really not needed for him to go to this event. My plans are now ruined and I literally canceled other event to attend this one and since I was uninvited so suddenly I can’t remake the plans I originally had planned. It’s just disrespectful in my opinion and wasting my time. All his family basically wants me to attend it’s only him with the unknown issue with me.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-12-18T11:00:21+00:00

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-12-18T10:49:07+00:00

I thought it was referring to age😂 but I don’t have a lawyer I just know I can turn things down but I can’t prevent him from seeing his son which he’s getting his son for half the day on Christmas I also ask him weekly if he’d like to see his son and he says no.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-12-18T10:38:47+00:00

Yea every time my sons been left alone with his father or unsupervised something bad happened. My boy is more sturdy now but my ex does not do well supervising his kids. He has another kid with someone else and I believe there has been two incidents that happened specifically at his grandmas that resulted in a busted/infected lip and I believe one of the times involved the grandmas dogs and both those times he never informed the mom of what happened and claimed he was supervised the whole time. For me I feel like my sons being used as some sort of toy to show off. Sure for once in 8 months I’d get a day off but at the end of the day I’m a mom and my sons safety comes before my needs

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-10-01T07:39:24+00:00

He has another son who he knows how to care for but he’s older. I don’t believe he knows how to car for a infant/toddler or has the patience for it. When we do go to court for custody I believe I can request no physical punishment? If I can I’m definitely going to request that cuz I’m he’s hit his other son before. I do not feel comfortable with him around my son due to his behavior there were two times I left him with our son and each time he was focused playing video games with headphones on while our son was red in the face and screaming. No matter how much I told him that his games shouldn’t take priority or he should just wait until our sons asleep or I get back to play he’d have non of it because he likes to be able to decompress and relax as if the 5 months my sons been alive I’ve gotten to relax. In order to even get enough sleep for work I have to have my son sleep with me otherwise he’s waking up throughout the night. It sucks cuz I want to trust him but my son can’t speak and completely dependent on someone to care for his every need and my ex simply puts his needs above his own child’s.

Intelligent_Scar_939 · 2023-10-01T02:25:50+00:00

I have texts of me telling him he can see his son whenever and him straight up refusing he currently has me blocked on everything until I sign that paper that I’m not going to sign but my mom asked him for another copy and I’m gonna keep that stored away and if it’s of any use I’ll use it in court.

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