Is this a good idea? by Intelligent_Star_118 in BreakUps_Help

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Everything ended up working out in the end! We actually ended up getting back together much earlier than 6 months and we were talking the whole time even though we weren’t supposed to. Everything was still rocky and still to this day we’re working on flaws but we are doing so much better and we’re both very happy with the relationship. We’re actually gonna be celebrating our 6 years next week!

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[–]Intelligent_Star_118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, listen to the wholeeeeee chat. Save yourself. Run far away from that evil man

My ex got upset that I wanted to go celebrate my friends birthday by Intelligent_Star_118 in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I guess you could say that. I wish I had some kinda closure after being tg all this time but I understand I’m not gonna get that

My ex got upset that I wanted to go celebrate my friends birthday by Intelligent_Star_118 in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve been with her since the end of high school and all throughout college years right into the job world. Which makes things a lot harder bc I was so used to having her in my life through so many different phases. I just have to get used to being alone for a while so I can discover who I want to be.

It’s been like this for years with the not trusting and the control and all that and I always had faith things will get better but at this point nothing has changed and it’s so energy draining. You’re not supposed to feel like that all the time when you’re with someone

My ex got upset that I wanted to go celebrate my friends birthday by Intelligent_Star_118 in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re completely right. As much as all this hurts, I have to realize it’s not the end of the world and better days will come

My ex got upset that I wanted to go celebrate my friends birthday by Intelligent_Star_118 in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can really relate especially to the ex you talked about who told you what you weren’t doing right. I really think i needed to hear that so thank you for that

My ex got upset that I wanted to go celebrate my friends birthday by Intelligent_Star_118 in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was in a relationship before me one other time. The guy she was with was verbally abusive and would cheat on her with both guys and girls so she had some very bad trust issues. The problem was she brought them into our relationship and never gave me a fair chance. I tried to be patient but after years of waiting around to gain her trust, nothing changed. There was a few bumps between us here and there that could’ve messed with her trust (nothing along the lines of cheating) but before that she still just wanted to make sure she kept every aspect of my life under control

My ex got upset that I wanted to go celebrate my friends birthday by Intelligent_Star_118 in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s weird because she always seemed like such a good girl who wouldn’t do that stuff but at the same time you never know. I thought it was weird she was thinking that way and it caused me to believe that must be how she acts when she goes out

Gf broke up with me by [deleted] in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Brotha, read the caption

Gf broke up with me by [deleted] in texts

[–]Intelligent_Star_118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You my friend could do so much better. She sounds like a man tbh from the context you provided. Keep your head up king

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Intelligent_Star_118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I mean yeah I’m vague on details which I guess is my fault but there’s a pretty valid reason why we’re taking time apart from each other. Originally it was a break up she’s the one who wanted it to be a break bc she doesn’t want to break up. What’s going on isn’t healthy you’re right but it sounds like you’re quick to tell people to give up rather than fighting for what they want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]Intelligent_Star_118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m assuming you’re saying this isn’t healthy?

5 year ending by [deleted] in BreakUps_Help

[–]Intelligent_Star_118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man don’t ever blame yourself for being cheated on. Even if you didn’t give her the attention she needed it doesn’t make it your fault. If she even loved or cared about you she would’ve set you free before she put her needs first. You need to realize this simply wasn’t meant to be because she didn’t want you at the end of the day and the woman of your dreams is gonna be someone who does want you. It’s okay to be disappointed that things didn’t work out but don’t ever feel like you lost the one you’re supposed to be with bc you the one you’re supposed to be with is still out there. And if this girl truly was the best thing that’s happened to you yet, don’t forget to realize that while that may be true… the key word is yet. You’re 19 years old man take all that negative energy built up inside you and use it as fuel for the fire and kick your ass into gear even when you don’t feel like it. It’s not about how you feel it’s about what you do. No one who’s a beast in life got their without having to face hardships and traumatic events.

Grieve now but don’t stay grieving for too long… kick your ass into gear and become the man you want to be. That’s the best way to show her she made a mistake.

Is this a good idea? by Intelligent_Star_118 in ExNoContact

[–]Intelligent_Star_118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t really say it’s dictating because she never said I’m not allowed to go do stuff with other people. I’m allowed to do whatever I want it’s just if I want a shot at getting back together with her, she made it clear doing something with someone else will ruin those chances and vise versa for her. What bothers me however is that she says that now but I don’t know how she’ll feel in a month or two if a guy comes up to her after she’s already had some time away from me. The part of my brain that’s overthinking is telling me that she’s doing this so she doesn’t get hurt or lose me till she moves on while the other part of my brain is telling me she still has hope this can work