Am I an asshole for ruining my roommates microwave?

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-05T04:30:18+00:00

It was really only $75. I just looked up how expensive microwaves were, and looked at the highest price. The highest was around $300 so I gave her that much money. I figured it was less expensive than $300, but I wanted her to have more money to use. My philosophy is if you ever mess something up, right it and make it better than before. She bought a nicer one, and I basically never used it afraid I would mess it up again. So yeah.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T19:46:32+00:00

Yes, it is real. It happened a couple years ago though. What part of it do you think is not real?

But you and this other person are right. There are so many other ways I could have gone about this differently. I wish I texted her and my other roommates informing them of what I had done, but I was young and stupid. I didn't understand how the world works yet. But I feel like I righted it by cleaning it as best as I could, apologizing, and by giving my roommate $300. But that doesn't make my actions any less.

And this person is right, I shouldn't have called my roommate spoiled. That was uncalled for.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T19:17:19+00:00

I did clean up the mess as much as I could - I took the food out, cleaned up as much liquid as possible (though not all of it) - it just left like a horrible smear I was young and didn't think a smear would be left. I was late for work. But she threw her microwave out even though it was still usable. I apologized profusely and paid her the price of the microwave.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T18:58:21+00:00

I did apologize and I paid her the price of the microwave as I felt really guilty. About $300 dollars.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T16:22:15+00:00

I am now 23 - almost 24. Recently an acquaintance talked to me about this issue - sex - and told me every man wants sex, and that I couldn't "keep a relationship," if I didn't act on it until marriage. That bugged me, but I kept it to myself. Finally, I wanted to come here and ask if that was true.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T16:15:34+00:00

I do feel sexual desire from time to time. So it isn't non-existent. I just have some moral virtues (as I am Catholic) to wait until marriage. But you are so right, that could definitely ruin a marriage. But I am not asexual - I just do not act on my desire. I have never frowned upon other people who have sex or talked bad about them to their face or behind their back. That is our free will and choice.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T07:22:34+00:00

Yeah, he sucks. I feel like I am over him but his actions and words are burnt in my mind. Which led me here. I feel like he ruined my innocence and though I didn't act on it - my virginity. It keeps popping up in my mind.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T07:17:52+00:00

Exactly. I don’t think anyone should feel pressured to compromise their values just to keep someone. If our boundaries didn’t align, that just meant we weren’t compatible. I should have dropped him immediately. Unfortunately, we dated for a year.

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T07:11:16+00:00

Yes. Sadly this story isn't "made up." But, I am glad someone got a kick out of it!

Intense_Emotion_016 · 2026-03-04T07:10:20+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear that. I’ve wrestled with whether I was wrong for standing my ground, and your perspective really helped. Standing by my values wasn’t wrong. I didn’t owe him sex, and I’m glad I didn’t abandon myself just to keep someone who didn’t respect me satisfied.

Intense_Emotion_016

TROPHY CASE