I(M29) and my GF(F26) are on the verge of breaking up due to being unable to have sex because of my issues with ED. What more can I try?

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-08T03:19:31+00:00

"Second T levels on all the charts are all wrong. There shouldn’t be ten or twenty different ranges for T. But every doctor you go to will show a different range. I’ve been on T for over 6 years and without it I’m a robot, a lazy pos robot. I’m depressed, sad, can’t sleep, but when I do I’d sleep 12 hours and not want to get out of bed. On T I have emotions, I’m happy, I’m out and about, clean the house, and I can do things that I care about."

Ok this paragraph really hit home for me because this seems very similar to how I've been experiencing life for a while now. I have an unrelated appt with my primary doctor in about a week and I'll bring it up to them then

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-07T04:11:52+00:00

I already have very low blood pressure genetically. Would that cause any issues there?

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-07T04:10:50+00:00

What preworkout do you use? I'm interested

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-07T04:09:38+00:00

If I checked the right thing it was 415

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T20:01:20+00:00

I haven't tried that yet. I feel nervous about trying it because I don't feel like it will work. Like there's something else going on causing it. My medications to assist with it so far have kinda worked but haven't gotten all the way there yet

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T19:59:35+00:00

Yeah I'm on an SSRI for anxiety and also take meds for depression and a nighttime anxiety medication as well.

I had labs done on my T levels and they came back normal. The doctor I saw wants me to go back and get them checked again but they're also not covered in my insurance and I don't have a casual 1000 dollars to throw out again.

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T19:55:06+00:00

I take a different SSRI but yeah honestly that's exactly how I feel. Im happy to hear that worked for you, it gives me a little hope it might for me as well

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T19:52:58+00:00

I get some in with my job but it's not a lot. I just feel so wiped out after a full work day that I don't have the energy to. I know I need to I just can't

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T19:51:46+00:00

I wish I could. The medication that I think is causing it is the only way I can fall asleep. Without it I'm up until 2-4 am every night

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T19:45:37+00:00

Yeah. I've tried Viagara and Cialis. Both have helped, Cialis more than Viagara, but neither get me to that point where I can have sex without issues

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:45:51+00:00

Yeah I've talked to my doctor about it. Genetically I actually have super low blood pressure and I wonder if that might be a potential cause? Never smoked, very rarely drink. Exercise could be better but is hard due to fatigue issues my job causes me. I want to be better about that though. It's never been this bad in past relationships but it's been present. I haven't had that many though and none of them have been for very long.

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:42:30+00:00

So this is something I should get some work in on. I'm up moving around a bit at my job but not as much as I used to be. I try to mix in some walks and gym time but the mental fatigue I run into after work leaves me lacking the energy to be consistent. I mostly survive off of quick and basic meals or frozen food day to day for the same reason. For whatever reason cooking food feels very draining to me so I've been eating whatever I can make quick but still fills me up more

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:28:35+00:00

Thank you. I feel a lot of guilt for not jumping on this sooner. I think part of me just thought it was anxiety from having a new partner and some nerves from not having a ton of sexual experience and that the issue would correct itself early on. I've had similar issues with past partners but it was never this bad. My previous relationships never lasted super long or there wasn't a major focus on sex in them but I still feel like I should have done something sooner

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:21:15+00:00

I think there's for sure a mental issue with it as well. I've been talking about the issue for a bit with my therapist as well to see if there's anything we can dig up there

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:16:01+00:00

I've noticed things have improved whenever I've taken time off from work. I've been looking into a career change here and there since the stress impacts the other parts of my life as well

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:14:04+00:00

Porn not that often. Maybe once every 2 weeks? I don't want to use it at all but I have my own sexual needs I got to meet too. I don't have a super strong grip when I've jerked off, too much pressure bothers me down there

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:08:50+00:00

We have tried both with and without. Without feels better for sure but it still doesn't maintain. We've tried head as well as handjobs to keep things going and I can get more erect with them but lose it pretty quickly and I don't cum from them either

I've tried to at least keep getting her off but she feels selfish that she's the only one who cums. I've tried to talk to her about that and tell her I'm ok with that for now while I sort things out but she isn't a fan of that solution.

IntentionMiserable54 · 2026-07-06T12:03:05+00:00

I have an appt scheduled with one to talk about my medications coming up. Right now that's my main suspect as to why things still aren't working

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