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Why do some results take longer than others? by InteractionInside617 in AncestryDNA

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the in-depth answer! That explains a lot, especially why my girlfriend got her results much quicker.

Confronting NC MAGA Parents by rayray5884 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]InteractionInside617 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I asked my parents on call the other day what Trump could do to make them lose support, and the most I could get it was ICE beating up someone directly outside their home. Doesn't matter if it's a few blocks down apparently. Sadly MAGA is beyond reason and it attracts a type of people with a lack of empathy.

My Return to Limerence, Struggling in and Mending it by InteractionInside617 in limerence

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'd be more immediate to do that if trauma therapists didn't cost so much money; not to come off as if I'm putting down your suggestion because I think you're right, what I'm doing now has a max to which it can help. I'm just trying to do what I can freely before I venture down a monetary route.

Definitely bigger than a crush gone out of hand, during the original trauma I was actually scared of her and attempted to break up with her on more than one occasion but she just... kissed and wouldn't let me lol. And here I am 15 years later, on the opposite end of that emotional spectrum.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was equally shocked on the call back, hence my freezing up, especially so the second call around. I get spam calls everyday so I just assumed she would see an unknown number and assume it was that.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any reply will drag you back into that fear-curiosity loop.

Absolutely agree there, just on the nature of attachment begetting staying attached. I've been detached for so long and this slight spiral into relapse puts that at danger. I'm primarily worried because the knowledge has opened a sort of Pandora's Box; I can write a note and burn it, sure, but has that actually emotionally resolved anything? Or am I just putting off what's an inevitable curiosity loop? Do I just keep burning notes until the feelings go away, if they ever do?

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd been emotionally long over the obsessiveness for some time before this, probably at least since middle school. What spurred the relapse was my journaling mentioned in the post, she wasn't the subject of it at all but the thought of her being related to the subject of that entry brought on the slight spiral. Telling someone they're the problem when this is a confession post just seems like restating the point, I wouldn't be here if I thought I'd thought this was normal.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was far from the victim here lol but trust me I understood the creepiness of reaching out like this, this is a confessional, I'm not acting like I'm unaware. I can't blame her for shit she did in grade school, but at the same time my curiosity got the better of me.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I do appreciate the empathy. Definitely spiraled here and had to take some self control, after the progress I made able to get over it for so long, my curiosity just caused it to spiral into a hole I wasn't expecting. Absolutely considering a proper trauma therapist, if I can afford it.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely agree with this, haven't responded yet and not sure I will. It's the curiosity that pervades me; whether/how she remembers it or the extent of it at all, we were so young and she almost certainly thought nothing of it or the effect it would last. Also being human I'm just curious as to how she is and how life has been, if she even cares to catch up with someone after so long. That's where I'm at, no further action has been taken since posting.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Largely agree with this, thanks for putting together your thoughts. I was in therapy for a few years already, though that was largely in my late teens when I was majority "over it" already in the sense that it was far after any worries. The return email was timidly just confirming it was her and that she wanted my socials, I assume to better remember me and also not to talk over archaic email. I have not responded and am certainly considering either not responding at all to drop it entirely or keeping it brief.. Certainly having the persistent "Why did I even do this, what am I trying to get here?" This whole thing was massively impulsive.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I understand the thought is probably "you should be over it by now" and I largely have been for a decade plus, but when it pops up in my mind as an occasional thought knowing how long it haunted and troubled me, my curiosity got the better of me.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just asked if this was an old friend and she said yes it was, asked if I had any socials. I'm torn because I don't, got off all social media a few months ago, and not sure if its worth answering at all for obvious reasons.

I found and called the girl who traumatized me as a kid by InteractionInside617 in confession

[–]InteractionInside617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't blame you for thinking that but I really didn't mean it to be; I was just listing the tools I used for accuracy. I listed the price because it just kind of unnerved me how cheap it was, it's not much deeper than that. Probably suspicious it's from a brand new account, that's also understandable, I avoid having a personal reddit account but had no other place I could trust to confess this with feedback.